Hey there. Transfer student here.

You're probably terrified that this thought is even in your head. There was so much pressure put on you in your senior year to find the right fit, commit wholeheartedly, and be excited to start this brand-new, adult chapter of your life.

We all complained that it wasn't fair that a 17-year-old had to make this huge decision about what to do with the rest of their life. And you're a product of that.

No number of tours, research, or Google searches can give you a complete picture of what college life is going to be like. It's not until you're in it that you're going to fully understand what's in store for you.

Sometimes you see that and realize that the "feeling" about a place, the "feeling" everyone said you would get when you found the right place, was wrong.

It may have been right when you were visiting schools. But your needs change. Life happens. And it doesn't always stay the right place.

You're probably worried about what people might think? Are you leaving for an "easier" school, one with "less prestige?" Or do you think you're "too good for this place" and going somewhere "better" because it's easier to transfer into Ivy Leagues?

My answer to all of that? Who gives a f*ck?

If you're thinking about transferring, you're obviously not happy. And leaving doesn't mean you're taking the easy way out, or leaving things unfinished, or abandoning people. You're taking your personal well-being into your own hands.

That's not selfish. It's self-care.

The bottom line is this: a degree is a piece of paper. Lots of places can give you that piece of paper. Don't say you "can't" leave a place that's making you unhappy because you're worried that the jobs won't be waiting for you if you decide to come back after you graduate.

If you're you and you work hard and you commit yourself to doing your best, you're going to end up where you're supposed to be. College is supposedly the best four years of your life, why waste those four years being miserable for the sake of getting a job that might be there four years down the line.

If you're not happy, have the conversation. If you're not happy, start looking. If you're not happy, fill out the Common App.

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to enjoy these four years. You deserve to achieve.

So stop thinking you're selfish and start doing what you know in your heart is right.

Transferring freed me. It helped me rediscover myself. And most importantly, it gave me my life back.

Leaving behind a life that made you unhappy is something you should be proud of. That's what being an adult looks like. So press mute on the voice in your head that's telling you people are going to judge you. It isn't worth denying yourself a better quality of life anymore.