Being A Perfectionist Is Too Stressful

Being A Perfectionist Can Make You Less Than Perfect

As someone with an extreme type-A personality and a desire to always do everything to the best of my capability, there are times when being a perfectionist actually makes performance decline.


If you're like me and have a Google Calendar synced with your planner and a running to-do list on your laptop, then you know that sometimes life gets a little hectic. There are so many things to do, especially when you're involved in a lot of student organizations, and sometimes you put so much pressure on yourself to succeed that it actually harms your performance.

Perfectionism is also a cause of many common mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders and panic attacks. People who are perfectionists put themselves under a constant amount of stress and are afraid of underperforming. This fear drives them to vastly over-prepare for any challenge that could potentially arise and thus keeps their brains busy thinking of ways they could fail.

Think about it: You've studied for days for an exam and done all the questions and study guides that you could find on the internet, but strangely, when the time comes to take the exam, you're a ball of anxiety, You know you SHOULD know the material — but do you? Was there more you could've done? Should you not have gone out to dinner last night with your friend so you could study?

These are all thoughts that go through a perfectionist's head. Being a perfectionist impacts me in all parts of my life — school, relationships, friendships, etc., and it makes every day a test. You're constantly thinking of ways that you could improve, things you could've done better, things you should've said, and so on, and you forget to reflect on what you have accomplished and will accomplish in the future.

Being a perfectionist also impacts your social life. Being a perfectionist makes you critique everything about yourself, which sometimes makes going out and talking to people a struggle. It also affects your relationships because you silently wonder if there's someone for your partner who's better than you, which can influence your actions.

For me, I have to realize that while I cannot actually be perfect, I can work as hard as I can to achieve a goal. Being constantly busy helps me be productive, and it helps relieve my anxiety when I have downtime (yes, downtime gives me anxiety). Also, sometimes I have to take a step back when I fail at something and realize that I can learn from it and improve for the next time. Perfectionism makes you wildly successful but unable to realize your accomplishments because of an overshadowing of failure.

To anyone who thinks they have to be perfect or that they aren't good enough, you are. You're talented, funny, smart, and you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

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Being Sick In College Is A Real Struggle

Being sick in college is definitely not as fun as having a sick day in middle school or high school.


Something that I have had to deal with multiple times these past two semesters is being sick while in school. It can be a real pain especially depending on what type of sickness it is. I have had tonsillitis, mono, and I'm pretty sure I also had the flu.

Being at school and away from home can make being sick worse because there is nobody to take of you such as your parents. Another thing is having to make the decision to get the rest that your body needs in order to feel better or staying on top of your assignments to avoid falling behind. My parents will always tell me to get a good night's sleep so my body can feel better the next day. However, sometimes I will feel more stress if my work isn't getting done and I feel like I'm falling behind and leaving things to get done in the last minute.

Currently, I am sick now and the past few days haven't been easy, but I still attended all my classes so I wouldn't miss any material or assignments that were given. I usually end up feeling the worst at night when trying to fall asleep, and by that time the doctors are not present at the student health center. Even though my health is important I usually don't like taking too much time out of my day to go to the health center to see a doctor. Some days I don't really have much free time before the evening.

I don't believe I have been over-exerting myself, but I don't want to just stay in my bed all day and sleep, even though that may be what is best for me. Most professors will be understanding if I email them and provide them a doctor's note as well, but I also just got back from a conference where I had to miss two days of classes next week.

I have been trying to keep hydrated so that way my body can fight the sickness. Also, I have been told if you stay hydrated you can flush the virus out of your body quicker.

Eating can also be a pain when you have a sore throat, for the past couple of days I have tried to have some soup in order to help. Most meals I would have to force myself to eat something of substance in order to give my body some type of energy in order to get through the day. It's also never fun not being able to breathe out of your nostrils. If it wasn't my nose being stuffed, then it would be constantly runny so there was no winning that battle.

Looking back, I probably should have done a bit more work over spring break in order to get ahead in the case that something like this would happen. I wanted my break to be exactly that, a break. After not being home for a few months I just wanted some time off to relax.

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