To be frank, I am definitely the epitome of an over-thinker. Whether it may be about shoes, clothing or simply crushes, I will somehow find something to worry about to the point I cannot do any of my work that same day.
As a matter of fact, recently, this year, I was heavily overthinking about the simplest situation ever. I initiated a conversation with someone through Facebook, and I stressed about if he would eventually leave me on read. It may sound silly, but after exchanging a couple of words with him inside and outside of school, I just wanted to get to know him a bit more. But to do that, I would have to somehow drag my timidness out of the cave and become more outgoing.
It was such a challenge. Especially since I constantly worried that he would gradually lose interest and just leave me on read. So the remainder of the week, I continuously stressed about the possibility of being left on read. I spent an infinite amount of time on Facebook just checking if I was left on read or if he responded to my message despite the fact I had my notifications on. I shared my worries with my friends to the point I'm quite certain they were slowly becoming sick of me. But somehow they still listened to me, being the best friends I could ever ask for. But to be frank, I was pretty annoying.
Looking back on it now, it was such a waste of time and energy.
When it comes to overthinking, I think that whatever the outcome may be, you should just accept it. After spending useless amounts of time worrying about what could happen or when he would respond, I find my past self as someone who could've used that time to potentially do something more useful. But I didn't.
But to be honest, overthinking is just a natural behavior for some people, including me. But I think the main thing all of us over-thinkers should keep in mind is that we need to accept the outcome.
The reason as to why we worry constantly and overthink the possible outcome is because we hope for the best outcome. The one that we hope will happen. But sometimes it doesn't. And if it doesn't, it just means that there is something much better for you out there.
Looking back on my past self now, I realize that I should've told myself that if he did leave me on read, then I should've just accepted it. It just simply means that he wasn't worth my time, and there's someone else out there that will actually respond to me.
I still hold this concept in my head as I continue my life, constantly reassuring myself that my life has a pathway that will turn out the best for me. Regardless of the amount of pain or torture I have to get past, I just know that the ending will be the perfect outcome I desire. Just let life run and simply go with the flow. Whatever happens, happens. Trust me.
So all in all, don't constantly worry about the present. Think about the future and the endless possibilities it holds for you. Because in the end, you truly deserve the best. Everyone does. And thankfully now I know so do I.
