Hey you,

I need you to know that you’re not alone. There are so many girls, including myself, who can relate to how you feel. Mirrors are probably your worst enemy, you struggle when getting dressed because you don’t feel comfortable in anything, you live your life worrying about the judgments of others, and you doubt your thoughts and abilities. There is nothing worse than feeling uncomfortable and insecure in your own skin, it’s painful.

You need to learn to look in the mirror and compliment yourself. After all, there is only one you in the world. You are unique and beautiful in your own way. Try your hardest to care less about what others think because their opinions don't matter. It is so important to surround yourself with people who lift you up rather than people who knock you down. Remember that positivity is contagious. Overlook the judgments of your peers and don’t waste your time doubting yourself, it’s not worth it. You need to realize that your abilities are endless and that there is room in life to make mistakes. You learn from your mistakes.

Confidence is something that every girl strives to achieve throughout their lifetime. It’s not easy to love yourself, but one day you will understand that you need to love yourself. After all, if you don’t, then how are you supposed to love others or how are others supposed to love you? Your number one goal should be to discover your true value and embrace it. There is nothing more rewarding in life.

You will learn to love and accept yourself overtime, and I promise that once you learn to do this, your life will make a huge turn for the better. You won’t miraculously wake up one morning with a completely different mindset, but it is possible to change the way you see yourself and the way that you feel about yourself. Just have some patience, it comes with time. You need to do this for the sake of your future, and for the sake of your well-being. It is not healthy to be your own worst enemy. You should be your own personal cheerleader. Don’t live every day putting yourself down because you’re only hurting yourself in the long run.

Modern society has managed to decrease confidence in women tremendously. Models and celebrities flaunt their skinny, toned bodies, bodies that are deemed as being perfect and beautiful. There is no doubting that this has distorted our ideas regarding beauty. We think that in order to be beautiful we must look exactly like the people depicted in the media. This is not true. Yes, it’s normal to workout and aim to look a certain way, but you can’t get caught up in the “ideal” beauty, you should allow it to escape your mind and your desires. Embrace your originality, and be your own kind of beautiful.

You need to stop wanting to be someone that you’re not. You are going to be you for your whole life. Learn to appreciate your imperfections, don’t dwell on them. Life is too short, so don’t wish it away. Live life to the fullest, make yourself happy, make yourself proud. Look at yourself with fresh eyes.

Keep your chin up, you are worth much more than you think.

Sincerely,

The girl who understands