It Perfectly OK To Be Single

It Perfectly OK To Be Single

Don't be ashamed of living through the best possible times of your life.

It sucks.

Trust me, I know. But instead of looking at the happy, loving couples around you, why not try looking in the mirror for a healthy partner.

I know everyone always says that "the perfect guy is out there for you," or "you just have to wait," etc. But these phrases tend to put thoughts into our single minds that our happiness derives from someone else, which is complete crap.

People don't realize this, but being single is a good thing, no matter how long you have been single. (Don't feel bad, I've been single for a long time.)

And while most of the time I'm sitting around looking at all my friends who are in relationships, wishing to be like them, wishing to be happy, I've realized that I have what I've always been looking for inside myself. I am the creator of my own happiness and not anyone else. Yeah, I'll admit it does get lonely from time to time, but I learned to often fill that lonely void with doing things that matter to me and make me happy. Whether that be writing, dancing, going out, or learning something new.

People also don't realize that this is the chance to go out and explore the world and your own personal boundaries. When you're single, you don't have any limits holding you back like a partner would (and if they are holding you back, then perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.)

You can travel to new places and get out of your comfort zone and just simply do things because you want to do them. I know doing fun things with a boyfriend and girlfriend seems ideal and perfect, but creating memories for yourself and by yourself is one of the most empowering things you can do.

You can date around at this time and find out what you really want in a partner. Or you can make time for yourself and seize the day!

The truth is that no one knows where we are going to be ten years into the future. I know we all have hopes of where we'd like to be and who with, but thoughts don't make reality. The person you see yourself with could change. You won't be single forever. People find love a lot later in life. I know people in their thirties who have just married for the first times in their life.

We live under this law in society that if we don't find love young, then we might as well give up because we won't find it period. But that is a notion that you don't have to succumb to.

Love is journey taken by two people. But do you honestly think that those two people were together at the beginning of their journey? No, this journey starts off with you finding the core happiness inside you through your own ups and downs and woes of life. And then your destination will become visible.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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