No I Am Not Engaged, I Wear This Ring For God

No I Am Not Engaged, I Wear This Ring For God

Purity rings are still important.

No, I am not engaged. You have not missed anything crazy that happened in my life. If you have no idea why I would ever say this please let me explain. I wear a celtic knot infinity band on my left ring finger, odd place right? I believe the very first time someone asked me if I was engaged I was a freshman in college. Yes, I go to a small private Christian University. I know "ring by spring" is a what every college female does-- ok, well not every college female does this, but it seems to be among one of the trends. The interesting thing was this person didn't know me, but I'm sure they could tell I was a lost freshman and saw my ring. Being 18-years-old is a little too young to be engaged, so I understood their concern.

This band on my left hand, what does it stand for? Did someone buy it for me? Am I made to wear it because of some crazy Christian tradition? No, of course not! I bought this ring for myself. I wear it for myself. It is a constant reminder of the love that God has given me. The infinity loops is symbol of the love as everlasting. A daily reminder of the one who will always love me no matter what. Yes, this ring will eventually be replaced when I reach that point in my life. There is no rush I have a lot of things to accomplish before reaching that point.

Maybe it is a little confusing but in the Christian tradition girls wear purity rings and mine isn't any different. I wear mine because I chose to; my parents never told me to put one on. My pastor never told me to put one on. I decided to put this one on specifically to remind me of the intertwining relationship with God in my life. People also have a tendency to either think it is an engagement ring, a promise ring, a purity ring, or a cool ring that I put on my finger for no special reason.

Whatever might be the case, I encourage you to live your life in accordance to what you want to do. Don't let other people's thoughts and emotions control you. I had thought about taking the ring off- that maybe it confused people and maybe guys would think I was taken by seeing it. I came upon the realization that this all was a silly thought in my head. Who cares what people think! The right people will ask you about these things in life and the ones who aren't meant to be in your life won't.

I wear this ring for myself and for God. A simple thing that I can have with me everywhere I go. A constant reminder of who God is and the women I want to be in life. I am trying to live my life in accordance to 1Timothy 4:12 "Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an examplefor the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity." It isn't easy, but if it were easy then everyone would do it.

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I Blame My Dad For My High Expectations

Dad, it's all your fault.

I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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You Don’t Have To Be Catholic To Give Up Something For Lent

The present is the perfect time to sacrifice to become better, whether you're religious or not.


From age five to thirteen, kindergarten to eighth grade, I went to a Catholic private school. Now that I'm in my second year of college, my faith has been a very big part of my life and a huge driver of what my personal morals are and the reason why sticking to them is so important for me today.

Like most other religions, there are special times throughout the year that calls us to do things in the reflection of our religion and ourselves. In the Catholic faith, we have something called Lent. This period represents the 40 days and 40 nights before Easter Sunday, the day we believe Jesus resurrects into Heaven. These 40 days are meant as a period of self-reflection and a time for us to get closer with God by being open and asking him to really be by our sides in our time of need. A tradition during this Lenten time is to give up something for these 40 days. Although this doesn't even compare, our sacrifice is supposed to represent all of the sacrifices Jesus made for us during this time so that we may be able to live with God in Heaven as well. But, in reality, this not only represents our faith but it represents us trying to just become better people.

The common story that you hear this season when people are trying to figure out what they're going to give up is chocolate chip cookies or sweets. But, think about it: how often do you each chocolate chip cookies? Every day or is it really every two weeks? Are you really giving them up to be a better person and sacrifice something that has been giving you short-term pleasure but not long-term benefits or are you just "giving it up" because it's easy? These are the key questions to ask yourself when trying to decide on what to give up.

I think that taking the time to just take a break from something can be beneficial to everyone, whether or not you're religious. To do this, I suggest first finding a quiet place, sitting down, closing your eyes, taking some deep breaths, and having an open mind. Try not to come in with a preconceived idea of what you're going to give up. Then really take the time to sincerely revisit who or what kind of person you want to be in life, reflect on how you have been acting lately, and assess your strengths and weaknesses.

Once you've done that, acknowledge those weaknesses and think about what you can do to turn those strengths into weaknesses and what is holding you back from being that person you want to be. After you've established that, then there you go. You have figured out what truly needs to be done. I'll be honest, it'll be hard, but if you take it day by day and always keep your end goal in mind, your sacrifice will pay off and in the end, you'll feel like a whole new person.

Personally, I sat down and reflected on how I've been living my life since the beginning of the new year. Coming into 2019, the word I wanted to live by was "thrive." I wanted to thrive in my sport, thrive in building relationships with my friends, thrive in academics, thrive in looking and acting more mature. After my honest assessment, I was not thriving in everything I wanted to. Of course, it was ok that I didn't have everything in order but it was not ok that the reason that I didn't have my stuff in order was because of things I could control. The problem was that I was putting off more important things to spend more time doing things like binge-watching this new Korean romantic comedy or scrolling through my feed which gave me that short term enjoyment that is so tempting to have but is so detrimental in the long term. So, this year I chose to give up social media (Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter) and Netflix for Lent.

It's been a couple of days, and I'll admit, it's tough. For many of us, sending Snapchat streaks to our friends and refreshing our Insta feeds have become a daily routine. My hope is that after this, I'll have transformed into the fully productive student, close friend, and a more self-aware person that I aspire to be.

I hope that you are able to go on this journey too, whether you're religious or not, and that you're able to take it seriously. If you do decide to embark on this journey, I hope you find strength in times of struggle and feel a great sense of joy and accomplishment when you do get to the finish line. So, I wish you good luck and just remember, if it ever gets hard, just remind yourself of your "why."

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