10 Things Only Nannies Understand

10 Things Only Nannies Understand

One of the hardest, but most rewarding choices you can make.

When I began college, I simultaneously became a nanny. That being said, I wasn’t just learning how to take care of myself for the first time, but I was learning how to take care of children more intensely than a night of babysitting and juggle sports, school, extracurricular and play dates while cleaning the house and occasionally making dinner. Here are 10 things other women who nanny, definitely understand.

1. “Mom Mentality”

You pull them out of the crosswalk when they forget to look both ways. You pick them up when they’re crying and you listen and care about their day. You would do anything to protect them and you can’t wait to hear about their accomplishments. The best is when you get to see their progress and growth

2. I get why making dinner as a mom sucks—and how to be creative with it

There’s nothing worse than having to scrape a meal out of a pantry with a whole bunch of nothing in it, but you randomly develop this skill; all of a sudden you’ve assembled 12 snacks into a meal in a quick 20 minutes and wonder why dinner isn’t always this hodge-podge.

Actually—the only thing worse than a quick meal is when you spend an hour making dinner, it lives on the table for 15 minutes MAX before the whole meal is eaten and the mess is made, waiting for you to spend another 45 minutes cleaning and the kicker, you’re not going to get to eat, unless its while you’re cooking or long after the food gets cold.

3. My communication style has changed

You don’t present the word “no” without some backup. You’re ready to answer questions and you like to. Plus, you can come with some pretty cool examples and analogies you never thought you knew. A big part of knowing something is being able to explain it to a six-year-old, and if you can’t explain it in a way they understand, you probably should educate yourself. Being a good communicator is more than speaking eloquently; it’s about speaking accessibly.

4. I am thankful for my parents

You realize that it takes way more than you thought to run a house, and you’re only getting a taste of the day-to-day. It’s hard work, and parents make it seem like they don’t even have to think about it.

Or if you’re like me, you’re thankful you had a stay-at-home mom. Who could bring you the homework you forgot to school or pick you up 30 minutes after you started feeling sick. You realize you never had to miss your parents or limit quality time to hours outside of 8-6 Monday through Friday.

5. You realized you suck at the new elementary curriculum but learned how to teach it

It is insane how much as changed since I went through second grade. I’m 14 years older than the youngest kid I work with, and cannot wrap my head around the fact that they don’t do spelling tests anymore…what??? Spell check is good but not that good.

Regardless, teaching “goes-in-tas” and multiplication is harder now. You have to pick your brain for the “why” so you aren’t answering questions with “because that’s the answer.” I also know a bunch of random 4th-grade history facts and am well versed in the art of book reports one day before they’re due.

6. Schedules and expectations matter

Kids need structure. All of them need structure. I have nannied for three families now, and have been babysitting for the better part of eight years and during that time, spent three summers as a camp counselor. One thing anyone who works with the same kids consistently knows is that they need structure.

They want to know what to expect when you’re with them, just like you would prefer to limit the number of surprises and crises during the day. When you tell them what the plan is, and follows it to the best of your ability, they trust you and understand your rules.

Sometimes plans change, and a big part of working with kids is teaching them how to handle that too.

7. The phrase “I remember when…” is part of your vocabulary

Sometimes you get to say fun things like “I remember when..” or “when I was your age…” and then you can roll your eyes at yourself just like they do and continue the story the kids probably aren’t interested in, feel like your dad and have a moment to reminisce the “good ol’ days.”

8. You transform into your mother, and then you panic

Your mom’s voice crawls up your throat and out of your mouth like vomit and it is maybe the worst. Everything you said you’d never say—that’s right. You said it, you said you’d never do it to your kids, but you’re doing it. You’re here, you’re your mother. Good job. It sucks, just pretend it didn’t happen. You’re still young, she’s still wrong…right?

9. You say things you didn’t even know existed in similar sentences

This... this is pretty self-explanatory. All of a sudden you're telling kids to get their underwear off the table and you're confused by how it even happened. They say weird things, so you're forced to say them back. It's just the nature of dealing with children.

10. You love the little buggers

Despite them driving you crazy, causing you to panic and swear off having children, you love them, you're proud of their successes and you want to help them grow. You love them, even when they suck.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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