As a young woman in college, in my first apartment, and navigating life partially on my own now, I’ve found that I depend on my mom now more than ever. I was so excited to get away, go to school, be on my own, and start “adulting.” It only took about a month into my freshman year for me to realize that I didn’t know ANYTHING about being an adult. I missed my car, my dog, my bed, and my mom (especially her cooking).
I’ve been in college for two years now and I’ve gotten into the routine of calling my mom, usually for no reason at all, every time I walk to class. Every day. During these pointless phone calls, I fill my mom in on all and any gossip, my daily frustrations (things like only being able to find one sock, my milk being spoiled, etc.), and the weather.
In high school, I took my relationship with my mom for granted. I didn’t start to develop a real, adult relationship with her until I began taking college classes my senior year and was home more often during the day. We ran errands together, I helped her with work, and we went on impromptu Target shopping sprees. I started telling her more and more about my daily life and frustrations without feeling like I had to. I realized that she understood me. Here are some more reasons why she’s now my best friend, and why yours should be too.
1. She never judges me for anything.
My mom could listen to me rant all day, whether it be about boys or crazy roommates. Whatever it is, and whatever I say, she never judges me. She has an opinion, but it is never criticizing or rude.
2. She supports me.
“Mom, I’m starting my photography business.” “Mom, I’m joining a frat.” “Mom, I’m getting my belly button pierced.” Whatever it may be, she always supports my decisions whole-heartedly.
3. She is the woman I want to be.
My mom is who I want to be. She is strong, beautiful, and smart. She has so much knowledge and common sense, and I am so thankful that she has instilled some of this in me.
4. She's a badass.
This is a woman who can stand her ground and take care of herself, keeping up with all the men. She can ride and drive anything, she can hold her own in any fight, and she's not afraid to speak her mind. This is admirable because while doing all of these things, she stays graceful and composed.
5. She's fun.
Mom is always down to do anything. A trip to Target, a night of baking, or a stroll down the street to the local wine shop are all good to her on a Friday night. She can turn any situation into a good, memorable experience.
I wish everyone could have a relationship with their mom the way I do mine. Take this as a reminder- if you haven't called your mom lately, or forgot to tell her how much you appreciate her, give her a call. Don't take her for granted.
