Being Married At 19 Isn't A Bad Thing

Being Married At 19 Isn't A Bad Thing

It is a great thing, for both me and my husband. When you know you have found the one, there's no need to wait.

My 20th birthday was the 22nd of September.

I have been reflecting a little more than I normally did on the past. But today, on one thing specifically. I had a friend ask me, "what it’s like to be married at 19?" While she said she didn’t want to be nosey, she knows I’m an open book.

She’s also been a great friend, even though we have never had less than 100 miles between us. I have gotten this question a lot, and I know Ben has too, and trust me, it has not always been asked in the nicest tone and manner.

Being married at 19 was never my ‘plan’ but seriously, who really follows their plan.

I never thought I would find a love like this. Here is the most important part with this, being married feels right, heck, this is our path and what we are meant to do.

Being married is teamwork. It is not always easy, but that is the beauty of it. Life is an adventure, and my adventure with Ben is life and again it feels perfect. Marriage is work, but it’s work that we both love.

Ben doesn’t have the easiest job in the world. I worry about him every day. I know that there is going to be a day when he comes home and tells me he is going to have to go who knows where for who knows how long, and I dread that day. I also know there is going to be a day when he comes home and tells me it’s time to move to who knows where for his next assignment.

But it makes us enjoy every day. Labor Day week and the following week, I only saw him when I brought him meals. But we took advantage of our time together. You bet we took five minutes just to sit in silence and cuddle. Nothing beats his hugs and kisses. It doesn’t matter how bad he might smell or how dirty his uniform is, I cherish every hug and kiss.

All the time I hear, “You give the best hugs.” It makes me smile because his are my favorite.

There are good days and bad days.

You just have to take them as they roll. My favorite thing that Ben does is he refuses to let us go to bed mad or upset. We have been up until one or two a.m. talking and communicating so whatever we are not agreeing on doesn’t affect us. Sometimes, we might lack in communication. Most of those times we are already thinking the same thing, we just did not express it the best. I mean, all and all, we are the same person.

I’m not just the stereotypical housewife either.

Yes, I cook all the meals, most of the time, Ben helps out with something. The only reason he doesn’t cook is that he kind of does it wrong. But he also knows that I love to cook and bake. So, for the most part, he stands in the kitchen with me and always offers to help if I need it.

I pack his lunches because I want to.

Most of the time everything around the house is teamwork. I make his lunch so he can work and not have to get up even earlier. We clean together, we even do laundry together. That’s one of the wonderful things about us, 95 percent of the stuff we do in the house is teamwork.

Along with being married, I’m doing all of my schooling online to finish my Applied Management Degree. In a couple of my classes, I am the only married one. It really does make me think a little bit differently about some of the things going on. Some of my discussions are a lot longer because I pull from being married or in Kansas.

The only thing I don’t like is just because I am married people in my classes treat me like I am twice their age when mostly I am younger than them. Being married did not change who I am. I’m still extremely sarcastic, I still love NASCAR and farming, and I’m still Sydney. Just because my last name changed doesn’t mean that I did too. The only real change is that we got married and became the same person. What’s wrong with that? That’s right, nothing, there is just more of us to love.

Our relationship may be a lot different than most. But we are a lot different than most people, too.

Both of us are pretty old-souled. And Ben’s job is a lot different than most. We got to know each other more than from the two times we had met, started going out and fell in love all while he was 14 hours ahead. But none of it felt the slightest bit weird.

All of it felt right, and it is right.

It has not always been easy, and it won’t always be easy. But we are both for sure we can make it through anything because we always have each other, and we don’t let the other fall or slip through the cracks.

When he got home in April, we both knew then way better than before, we can’t be without each other, it’s not possible. We are the other's person that they can’t live without. Ben is the glue that holds me together, and the eraser to everything bad that has ever happened. When he was home we had even half-joked about getting married, even though now after we have talked about it, we were both dead serious.

After he was home in April, he was stationed in Kansas. When I came out Memorial Day weekend I got the surprise of my life. On the 27th of May, he told me while we were fishing and he was down on one knee, “I can’t catch many fish today, but can I catch you?”

Through my tears, I asked if he was serious. Mainly because it was everything I could ever want, he is everything I could ever want. He smiled and said, “Yes, will you marry me?” And through even more of the happiest tears, I could have, I said yes.

We both knew that we didn’t want to be apart.

Ben even took into full consideration my schooling, and if I were to transfer when it would be best for me. I swear you can’t get any more perfect than him. And on July 2nd, I stole his last name, and he stole my heart all over again.

So, if you’re wondering, being married at 19 is not weird. I’m two years out of high school, highly successful in school, and have the man of my dreams. Being 19 and getting married was in my plan, I just had no idea. Neither of us did. A year ago at this time, we were just starting to admit to each other how we feel about the other. I know I was scared out of my mind.

Here is the best part about it all, for my 19th birthday, my wish, was to be lucky enough to be with Ben and eventually marry him so we did not have to be apart like we was then.

Birthday wishes really do come true.

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9 Eligible Princes You Need To Know About Now That Prince Harry Is Off The Market

You too could have a Meghan Markle fairytale

Prince Harry's royal wedding is officially over and there won't be another British royal wedding for quite some time now, as Prince George is way too young to start thinking about that. Fortunately, there are plenty of other countries with plenty of other princes that are still eligible bachelors at the moment. Lucky for you, I did my research and compiled a list of all the eligible princes you need to know about know that Prince Harry has tied the knot with Meghan Markle.

1. Prince Louis of Luxembourg (31)

Prince Louis is the third son of the Grand Duke Henri and Duchess Maria Theresa of Luxembourg. He has recently become a bachelor again after his separation with his wife of 10 years, Princess Tessy.

Fun Fact: He graduated from Richmond, The American International University of London with a BA in Communications. He can also speak Luxembourgish (the fact that's even a language is fun fact by itself), French, German, and English fluently.

2. Prince Sebastien of Luxembourg (26)

Prince Sebastien is the youngest child of the Grand Duke Henri and Duchess Maria Theresa of Luxembourg, so if you marry him, you'll probably never actually be queen because he's pretty far removed from the throne. However, he's relatively young and single, so best of luck.

Fun Fact: For some bizarre reason, this prince actually went to college in Ohio. He played rugby and graduated from Franciscan University of Steubenville in 2015. Now, he is back in his home country and is an officer in the Luxembourg Army.

3. Prince Phillipos of Greece and Denmark (34)

You read that correctly, Prince Phillipos is the prince of not one, but two countries. He is the youngest son of King Constantine and Queen Anne Marie of Greece and Denmark. Unfortunately, Greece abolished their monarchy, so he's a prince in name only there.

Fun Fact: Like Prince Sebastien, Prince Phillipos also went to college in the United States. He earned his B.A. in foreign relations from Georgetown University in 2008. Fortunately, for us American girls, he is actually still living in the US and he works in New York City as an analyst at Ortelius Capital.

4. Prince Albert of Thurn and Taxis (34)

Ever heard of Thurn and Taxis? No? Me neither. Anyways, Prince Albert is from the House of Thurn and Taxis, which is essentially a very old German aristocratic family. He is the son of Prince Johannes XI of Thurn and Taxis and Countess Gloria of Schonburg Glauchau. His family is well known for their breweries and castles, so unless you're gluten-free, you can't really complain.

Fun Fact: He's not just a prince. He's also a racecar driver and 10 years ago he was ranked 11th on Forbes Magazine's List of The 20 Hottest Young Royals.

5. Prince Mateen of Brunei (26)

Prince Mateen is basically like all the guys you already know, except he's royalty. He's the prince of Brunei, which is a small country on the island of Borneo, south of Vietnam. He is one of the five sons of Sultan Hassanal Bolkiah, and he also has seven sisters. Maybe that's a little different than the guys you know, but one thing he takes very seriously, just like most frat guys, is his Instagram.

Fun Fact: Mateen enjoys playing polo, flying in his private plane, cuddling cute wild animals, and keeping up his Insta game with 890k followers. You can follow him @tmski.

6. Sheikh Hamdan bin Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum of Dubai (35)

Sheikh Hamdan also has a killer Instagram with 6.3 million followers. Anyways, Sheikh Hamdan is the billionaire crown prince of Dubai and the second son of Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum, who is the prime minister of the United Arab Emirates and essentially the king of Dubai (Emir). He's actually next in line for the throne because his older brother died in 2015.

Fun Fact: Hamdan's hobbies include skydiving, zip lining, and diving, just to name a few, so if you're an adrenaline junkie, Sheikh Hamdan is the prince for you.

7. Prince Hussein of Jordan (23)

Prince Hussain is the son of the extremely beautiful, Queen Rania and Abdullah II of Jordan and next in line for the Jordanian throne. At 23, he's already a second lieutenant in the Jordanian Armed Forces and he was the youngest person ever to chair a UN Security Council Meeting

Fun Fact: Like Prince Phillippos, Prince Hussain also graduated from Georgetown University in Washington D.C.. Also, like Prince Mateen and Prince Hamdan, he's Insta famous with 1.3 million followers and you can follow him @alhusseinjo.

8. Prince Constantine-Alexios of Greece and Denmark (19)

Like Prince Phillipos, Prince Constantine-Alexios also has two countries. Lucky for us though, he is also living in the US right now attending Georgetown University in Washington D.C. (like pretty much every other prince, amirite?) He is the oldest son of Crown Princess Marie-Chantal and Crown Prince Pavlos of Greece.

Fun Fact: He's Prince William's godson, so that's pretty neat. However, if that wasn't cool enough, you might like to know that this Greek/Danish prince was actually born in New York. Oh yeah, you can also follow him on Instagram @alexiosgreece where he has 88.7k followers.

9. Prince Joachim of Belgium (26)

Prince Joachim of Belgium, Archduke of Austria-Este is the third child of Lorenz, Archduke of Austria-Este and Princess Astrid of Belgium. Although he bears the title, "Prince of Belgium," he is also Archduke of Austria-Este, Prince Royal of Hungary and Bohemia, and Prince of Modena. Unfortunately, he'll probably never actually be king in any of these countries as he is ninth in line to the Belgian throne.

Fun Fact: Prince Joachim has degrees in economics, management, and finance, but he decided to join the Nautical School in Brugge after completing college and is currently an officer in the Belgian Navy.

Hope is not lost for all you girls dreaming of finding a Prince Charming that's literally a prince. After reviewing the data, my best advice is to transfer to Georgetown where princes are basically around every corner.

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Pride: A poem

Hell, I still love you.


The word love

Is a very complex one;

Often times thrown around

far more often than it should be.

I knew the true meaning of love when

I first laid my eyes upon you

You were perfect.

Perfect in ways you could not even yet conceptualize.

I gave you life;

But, you became my life.

Your first word.

Your first day at school.

Moments that made life worth living.

One day you said you felt different;

You didn't feel like everyone else;

You'd felt this way for years

But this feeling was not just a feeling;

It was who you were.

The masses played with video games and played rough sports—

You didn't;

You were delicate.

Far more delicate than other boys.

You may not have played with the same toys,

But, hell, I still love you.

It only seems like yesterday,

You told me you had gone astray

From the normal social stigma

But you are still my little boy,

And, hell, I still love you.


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