How To Make Friends With Introverts

How To Make Friends With Introverts 101​

Many a extrovert has tried to jump into a friendship with an introvert and failed. Here's why.


Ah, introverts, the toughest nut to crack in terms of friendship. We have high standards for the people we let in on our thought process, and even higher ones for the select few people we fully open up to. We don't like huge parties, and we often prefer staying in our rooms to socializing for long periods of time. If you want to make friends with us, it's not going to be a done and done process.

Sometimes we need a break to recharge.

It's not personal. It's not you. We're just tired, that's all. Social interaction is exhausting for us, and sometimes, we need to take a break before we can actually talk. We take our relationships very seriously, and we're not going to be able to provide you with the attention you deserve from us if we're tired. Let us go huddle in our separate rooms and breathe for a second, and we'll come back eventually feeling ready to commit to the conversation.

Please no small talk.

Filler conversations that don't have an actual purpose take up meaningful socializing energy that we already started out with less of. We're on one of those sand timers, and at a certain point, we're going to run out. Introverts think really deeply about things and analyze everything, so why would you want to talk to us about the weather, when we have so much more to say? You're going to have to make our conversation mean something, or we're not only going to get bored, we're just going to be plain old exhausted.

Listen to us, don't just talk over our words.

Extroverts have a lot to say, and it's really amazing. However, sometimes, they have a little too much, and it overpowers the introvert. Like I said, introverts spend a lot of time thinking about the world around them, and we tend to plan out our words carefully before we speak. If we're talking, we probably worried a lot about the topic and spent ages figuring out the exact right wording. Please let us have the say we deserve. We'll respect you so much more for it. Not to mention, it'll show us that you value our thoughts, and not just our ability to listen to you.

Interact with us one on one.

Groups kind of scare introverts. They're very overwhelming, and there's too much going on for us to respond on time. Often, we'll just completely fade away in order to keep ourselves sane. If you want to get to know an introvert, try talking to us one on one! We do enjoy talking, and we love making friends, just not in atmospheres where friendship becomes something that is both surface and overly loud. We want to get to know you, and we want you to get to know us. We're much more likely to open up if we don't feel like we're talking to a crowd, but to a single, caring, genuine person.

Introverts may be quiet and reserved, but our friendship means a lot. If we open up, you'll realize that we're incredibly funny and sweet, and even loud sometimes. We just need to establish a level of trust first. It may take some time and effort, but you can make friends with us if you're patient. Trust in the process and give us space. We'll get there eventually, just not right away.

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8 Types Of People Fetuses Grow Into That 'Pro-Lifers' Don't Give 2.5 Shits About

It is easy to fight for the life of someone who isn't born, and then forget that you wanted them to be alive when you decide to hate their existence.


For those in support of the #AbortionBans happening all over the United States, please remember that the unborn will not always be a fetus — he or she may grow up to be just another person whose existence you don't support.

The fetus may grow up to be transgender — they may wear clothes you deem "not for them" and identify in a way you don't agree with, and their life will mean nothing to you when you call them a mentally unstable perv for trying to use the bathroom.

The fetus may grow up to be gay — they may find happiness and love in the arms of someone of the same gender, and their life will mean nothing to you when you call them "vile" and shield your children's eyes when they kiss their partner.

The fetus may grow up and go to school — to get shot by someone carrying a gun they should have never been able to acquire, and their life will mean nothing to you when your right to bear arms is on the line.

The fetus may be black — they may wear baggy pants and "look like a thug", and their life will mean nothing to you when you defend the police officer who had no reason to shoot.

The fetus may grow up to be a criminal — he might live on death row for a heinous crime, and his life will mean nothing to you when you fight for the use of lethal injection to end it.

The fetus may end up poor — living off of a minimum wage job and food stamps to survive, and their life will mean nothing to you when they ask for assistance and you call them a "freeloader" and refuse.

The fetus may end up addicted to drugs — an experimentation gone wrong that has led to a lifetime of getting high and their life will mean nothing to you when you see a report that they OD'd and you make a fuss about the availability of Narcan.

The fetus may one day need an abortion — from trauma or simply not being ready, and her life will mean nothing to you as you wave "murderer" and "God hates you" signs as she walks into the office for the procedure.

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Do not tell me that you are pro-life when all of the above people could lose their lives in any way OUTSIDE of abortion and you wouldn't give 2.5 shits.

You fight for the baby to be born, but if he or she is gay or trans, you will berate them for who they are or not support them for who they love.

You fight for the baby to be born, but if he or she is poor or addicted, you will refuse the help they desperately need or consider their death a betterment of society.

You fight for the baby to be born, but when the used-to-be-classroom-of-fetuses is shot, you care more about your access to firearms than their lives.

It is easy to pretend you care about someone before they are even born, and easy to forget their birth was something you fought for when they are anything other than what you consider an ideal person.

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