What You Should Know About Someone Whose Love Language Is "Quality Time"

What You Should Know About Someone Whose Love Language Is "Quality Time"

Uncovering this information is very important for the success of any relationship – whether it’s your family members, best friends or lover.
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We all have a different, unique way of expressing and receiving love. Some people give and receive their love through their words, some through gift-giving, some through physical touch and others through acts of service (like washing the dishes, for example).

The love language test offers a set of questions that the user must answer in order to discover his or her way of loving. Uncovering this information is very important for the success of any relationship – whether it’s your family members, best friends or lover.

Typically, you and your significant other are going to have a different love language. That being said, it is important to discover your love language and your partner’s love language at the start of the relationship so you can give and receive love is the most effective way as possible. Knowing this information will also help you understand yourself and your lover to a deeper extent.

If you’ve ever taken the five love languages test then you have probably heard the term “quality time.” Generally speaking, you should be honored if your partner’s love language is quality time because that means he or she simply needs your presence in order to feel fulfilled. What a compliment!

That said, here are some ways you can further express love to your quality time partner:

1. Concentrated attention

For someone whose love language is quality time, I can attest to the need of concentrated attention. There is nothing worse for us quality-time-people than to see that our partner isn’t fully paying attention to what we’re saying. It really feels like a slap in the face.

If your quality time partner sees you checking your phone or looking away while they’re talking, the message you are relaying to your partner is that you don’t care. It is crucial for your quality time partner to see that you’re fully there both mentally and physically when he or she is talking.


2. Quality conversations

Concentrated attention and quality conversations go hand-in-hand with each other. Not only does your partner need focused attention in a conversation, but he or she is fulfilled through meaningful conversations – not surface level talk. Try conducting real conversations. Talk about what made you who you are, your fears, goals and biggest dreams. Ask your quality time partner about their life, and really tune in to what they are saying.


3. Pre-plan a special date

Yes, like I said earlier, your partner only needs to be with you to be happy and feel loved. However, if you two simply sit on the couch every night and watch three hours of a show before you have to leave, your partner probably isn’t going to be fulfilled. When it comes to time, it’s more about quality, not quantity. With that in mind, go do something meaningful together: take a walk, go to a movie, do something adventurous or cook dinner together.


4. Schedule time to hang out on a weekly basis

Your quality time partner needs to know that they’re going to see you. Even if it’s not every day, he or she needs to know when they’re going to see you ahead of time. Since your significant other gives and receives love through quality time, it’s safe to say that their security rests in the time that you two have together. That being said, your partner needs something to look forward to in order to support his or her own confidence.

If you have never taken the love language test and want to discover the ways in which you love, I suggest you complete the brief questionnaire. Your love language may be something completely different from what you expect!

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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Growing Up Tall

The weather is fine up here, thank for asking.

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I am a 21-year-old female, and I am around 6'2". Yep, I said 6'2", and no, I don't play professional basketball. I have always been tall. I remember around the 4th grade I towered over everyone that I knew and was always mistaken for being older than I was. This created an interesting situation as I developed as an adult. It is something that was on my mind a lot when I was younger, today I barely even think about it unless it comes up in a conversation. Here are a couple of things that have come up because I have been tall.

1. You feel like you don't fit in.

To be fair, I'm pretty sure everyone feels like they don't quite fit into society. We all have out-personalities and differences but when you are tall, the world will remind you of this daily. Car backseats, good luck. Washing dishes? Either squat a bit or be prepared for back pain. It's hard to nap on a couch, fit into a standard desk because my knees hit the top. You literally do not fit in certain things. And when you are growing up, seeing that you will not fit in takes a toll on your mental health.

2. You will hate shopping. 

If you look into my closet at the moment, you might notice the overwhelming level of t-shirts or male long sleeve shirts. The main reason for that is that my torso is very long, and they fit. Cute clothing usually isn't long enough or too expensive for a college budget. It's the dilemma of "why does nothing fit me quite right". I have probably hundreds of pictures of my younger self in jeans that were about three inches too short. It is one of those things that you need to accept, because clothing companies may have a plus size section, but finding jeans long enough is very rare.

3. The jokes and strangers.

How's the weather up there? You must be great at (insert sport here). Etc.. I have heard these time and time again, mainly while I was younger. Depending on the day, you might hear a polite laugh or you might get a dead pan face. For strangers around me, you don't need to come up to me and tell me I'm tall. I've been cornered at the grocery store, to be told by a people that I'm tall. Or get the question of, "Where are you from?". Probably the funniest one, I was grabbing apples from that bin-shelf-thing, and this old women looked at me, leaned over to her (what I'm assuming her granddaughter) and said "That's what the Danish look like." All while staring at me like I am going to jump at them. I had to move to the next section to laugh.

Overall it has been something that has made me who I am. I used to hate it but now it is who I am. If any of you out there struggle with all of the issues that come with this, please know that it does get better. Hopefully one day we will not have to search far and wide for jeans that are long enough. Thank you for reading.

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