I Love Jesus, But I'm Not In Love With Him

I Love Jesus, But I'm Not In Love With Him

It's just creepy.
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For the most part, I love Christian music. I love the fun worship songs and the intimate, personal songs that really personify everything it means to be a Christian. However, there are some aspects of modern Christian music--and modern Christian thought--that both confuse me and make me cringe at the thought of them. The great aspect that I could never be on board with is being ~in love~ with God and Jesus. I actually have several reasons for that.

First, there is a clear difference between "to be in love with " someone and "to have love for " someone. "To have love for " someone is to show many kinds of love, including ludus (playful ) love, storge (familiar love), philia (affectionate love), and pragma (enduring love). "To be in love with" someone is a type of love that is mainly being romantic or sexual in nature, including eros and sometimes ludus as well. I would never have romantic or sexual love or desire for the one who essentially saved me. Phrases like, "Jesus is my boyfriend" make me cringe because we shouldn't see our Lord and Savior as just a companion to love. Jesus is far more than that. He's the redeemer of our souls. Doesn't he deserve more respect than to be labeled as "boyfriend"?

There's a whole different type of love called agape, or selfless love. That is the kind of love that God has for us as his children, that Jesus had for the church and the kind of love that we should have for each other as children of God that we sometimes don't. In my opinion, that is the kind of love that we should have for God and Jesus, and we should not let that love be clouded by desire or desperation for them. It's not really becoming of anyone to have such a deep desperation for anyone, much less for someone who ought to be feared, revered, and worshiped.

I don't care who you are or what kind of Christian you think you are. There's a clear difference in the kind of love with should have for God and Jesus Christ. It is my belief that the reason we have phrases like "Jesus should be the only man in your life" and "Jesus is my boyfriend" is because the modern church wants to pander to the millennial generation and younger, which is problematic because it is not how you should be referring to Jesus or God.

Jesus did not die for your sins so you could call him your boyfriend in an effort to try and gain some higher moral ground. Jesus is not the only man you should have in your life. We were built to have companions from both males and females.

Jesus literally died to save our souls. Act like it.

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To Everyone Who Hasn't Had Sex Yet, Wait For Marriage, It's The Right Move

If you have not had sex yet, wait.

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Premarital sex is not a new concept, no matter how much people like to pretend it is. You can trace scripture and historical texts back thousands of year to see that lust and fornication have been a problem since… well, since we humans have been problems.

They tell you in sex ed that sex causes you to form a bond with someone. They throw some big chemical names at you that are apparently in your body and cause that emotional attachment to happen, then you move on (or back to) how important condoms are and why STDs are so scary.

As a middle schooler or teenager, you can't understand what it means to become permanently connected to someone as a result of a quick, physical act.

If you haven't even had your first kiss, you really can't imagine what it's like to develop such a complex and intimate connection with someone because you have yet to feel the butterflies in your stomach from a kiss. So you really don't know what it's like to have a whole different type of feeling in your stomach.

You never forget your first love. It's one of the most cliche things you consistently hear, but it's true. Ask anyone. I guarantee your parents can still spurt out their first love's name in a few seconds. And most people never forget their first time. I know all my friends can recount that often awkward and slightly terrifying moment as if it happened an hour ago. When you mix those two, especially if you are in your teens, oh boy.

You never forget that. No matter how hard you try.

Everything you hear about sex is true: it's amazing, fantastic, life-changing, etc. There's a reason people have done it as frequently as they do, for as long as they have. But every time you sleep with someone, you leave a piece of yourself with them. Every time you choose to take that final physical step with someone, you cannot go back and collect that piece of your dignity and soul that you left with someone.

So, imagine what happens when you break up with someone you've slept with. Or that you just hooked up with. You have given someone a little slice of yourself forever. And you can never get it back. And imagine what happens when you do that multiple times. You give a piece of yourself to five, 10, 15, 20 or more people. Then you meet the person that you want to spend forever with. And you no longer have that whole part of you. You've given pieces away, and you can no longer give those to the love of your life.

So, save those pieces for your future spouse.

If you have not had sex yet, wait. If you have, consider not giving more pieces of yourself away to people who are not your spouse. Sex was created to be between two spouses, nobody else. So we need to try to maintain its integrity.

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I Wish GCU Cared About Faith As Much As They Cared About Basketball

Students at GCU come and go and it would be a shame if all they got was the hype of a basketball game instead of the hype of the Trinity.

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You see advertisements for them everywhere: Snap Chat, Instagram, posters around campus, billboards even, all telling you to go buy your HAVOCS pass or to make sure you secure your ticket for every single basketball game or for those in the surrounding community to get their season tickets. With countless of t-shirt, GCU swag, Purple Pre-Game Parties, Grand Canyon University spends a lot of time, energy, and money making sure their arena is filled for every single basketball game, but not Chapel.

For a missionary school, GCU lacks in reaching out in ministry to their students. The only time a student hears about Chapel that is not a student leader is the first day of classes and at Chapel itself. For how mundane a basketball game is compared to eternal salvation, GCU is missing what is really important at a Christian University.

Why is there no advertising for Chapel, t-shirts giveaways, or any hype for the event that happens every single Monday? Is not praising the one who delivered us from eternal damnation, who gives us peace in the midst of the chaos, who gives us our identity, who created us, who gives us purpose, not worth the same amount, or even more hype than a basketball season that will always come and go? Is not sharing the good news of the Gospel more important than basketball?

If GCU wants to truly be private, Christian, and affordable, they need to step it up in their spiritual life and give equal attention, if not more, to the amount of attention they give to Basketball. GCU needs to approach Chapel attendance in the same urgency they approach basketball attendance. Make the Instagram stories, make the posters, make the facebook events, make the Snap Chat stories, make more of an effort.

Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with attending a basketball and there is nothing wrong with GCU creating a strong sports-fan community. There is something wrong when a sporting event is placed on a higher priority than a ministry opportunity to reach out to students who may not know the Gospel.

To be fair, this past semester, GCU has attempted to make Chapel more intriguing by having outstanding speakers come and talk to the students like Jodi and Friends, Scott MacIntyre, and so on. However, these guest speakers included more plugs for their mission organizations rather than plugs for how the miraculous power of Christ helped them in their journeys.

For a time that is supposed to be set aside to biblical teaching, plug-ins for organizations are not appropriate for the Chapel hour. Save it for another time GCU. Getting students in the door and teaching the true gospel message is more important than having extravagant guest speakers who are going to put more emphasis on their organization than sharing the good news of Christ in that allotted time.

Do not get me wrong, the organizations that have been mentioned at Chapel are fabulous organizations, that do wonderful work for the continuation of the kingdom. However, Chapel is for biblical teaching, not what organizations do.

GCU needs to rethink in what areas may be overlooking the One above and focusing more on worldly things. Basketball comes and goes, guest speakers and organizations comes and goes, but more importantly, students at GCU come and go and it would be a shame that all they got was the hype of a basketball game instead of the hype of the Trinity.


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