I Love Jesus, But I'm Not In Love With Him

I Love Jesus, But I'm Not In Love With Him

It's just creepy.

For the most part, I love Christian music. I love the fun worship songs and the intimate, personal songs that really personify everything it means to be a Christian. However, there are some aspects of modern Christian music--and modern Christian thought--that both confuse me and make me cringe at the thought of them. The great aspect that I could never be on board with is being ~in love~ with God and Jesus. I actually have several reasons for that.

First, there is a clear difference between "to be in love with " someone and "to have love for " someone. "To have love for " someone is to show many kinds of love, including ludus (playful ) love, storge (familiar love), philia (affectionate love), and pragma (enduring love). "To be in love with" someone is a type of love that is mainly being romantic or sexual in nature, including eros and sometimes ludus as well. I would never have romantic or sexual love or desire for the one who essentially saved me. Phrases like, "Jesus is my boyfriend" make me cringe because we shouldn't see our Lord and Savior as just a companion to love. Jesus is far more than that. He's the redeemer of our souls. Doesn't he deserve more respect than to be labeled as "boyfriend"?

There's a whole different type of love called agape, or selfless love. That is the kind of love that God has for us as his children, that Jesus had for the church and the kind of love that we should have for each other as children of God that we sometimes don't. In my opinion, that is the kind of love that we should have for God and Jesus, and we should not let that love be clouded by desire or desperation for them. It's not really becoming of anyone to have such a deep desperation for anyone, much less for someone who ought to be feared, revered, and worshiped.

I don't care who you are or what kind of Christian you think you are. There's a clear difference in the kind of love with should have for God and Jesus Christ. It is my belief that the reason we have phrases like "Jesus should be the only man in your life" and "Jesus is my boyfriend" is because the modern church wants to pander to the millennial generation and younger, which is problematic because it is not how you should be referring to Jesus or God.

Jesus did not die for your sins so you could call him your boyfriend in an effort to try and gain some higher moral ground. Jesus is not the only man you should have in your life. We were built to have companions from both males and females.

Jesus literally died to save our souls. Act like it.

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Yes, I'm An Atheist, But Please Say Bless You Still When I sneeze

Don't try to convert me, but I'd appreciate a "bless you" after I sneeze.

During my first week of college, I casually mentioned that I was an atheist to one of my new friends. She, with all seriousness, asked me if I would be offended if she said bless you. I promised her I would not, and we shared some laughs.

Although it was a funny encounter, it made me realize all the misconceptions christians tend to have about atheism. A lot of students at Butler grew up in small towns where Chrstianity was the only thing taught, so I've had to explain myself a few times after this first encounter. I don't blame anyone, I don't really understand Christianity. I tend to mix up Jesus and Moses (one walked on water, one parted water, but don't ask me which guy did which).

So let's clear some things up.

First, please say bless you. I understand that technically you're inferring "God bless you" but nowadays it's just freaking common courtesy. I say bless you any time I hear someone sneeze. I'll be more offended if you don't say bless you. If someone does get mad at you for saying bless you because "you're pushing their religion on them", push them off their high horse. Please don't try to convert me, but you can say bless you or talk about your faith with me.

Second, I'm not an arrogant asshole. Well I might be, but it has nothing to do with my lack of religion. Some people say it's arrogant to be an atheist because that means I think a lot of people are wrong. But I only believe in one less religion than you. There are thousands of religions (especially if you break them down into different denominations) and you (I assume) only believe in one. I just believe in one less. If you are a catholic, then you believe protestants, Jews, Muslims, and etc. are all wrong. Is it so crazy to think that none of us are capable of figuring "everything" out?

Third, I don't hate religion. I actually love religion. I love studying it. I've been to a church, a synagogue, a Hindu temple, and a Buddhist zen center. I love studying religion and I think the range of faiths that people have are very interesting. I just don't personally believe in any of them.

But yes, I don't believe in God or any afterlife. I'm pretty positive that when we die, we just stop existing. I mean your body is probably still there, decomposing, but your personality and memories are gone, because your neurons aren't firing anymore.

I could write an entire article just about why I am an atheist, but that isn't my point today. What I am trying to say is that I'm just as valid as you are. Why is the norm in our society to believe in such a complex story? Why is it that Christianity is just accepted but atheism is wild? It takes effort and choice to believe in something, like God and Jesus. So why is it so crazy that I haven't done that?

I respect religion, I think it's a great thing. When people tell me they're a christian (which nobody really does because we all just assume everyone in America is unless they're wearing a hijab or holding a menorah), I don't try to change their mind or convince them God isn't real. So please, let me be a heathen in peace. If you're right and I'm wrong, you can say I told you so in the afterlife.

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