I Love Jesus, But I'm Not In Love With Him

I Love Jesus, But I'm Not In Love With Him

It's just creepy.

For the most part, I love Christian music. I love the fun worship songs and the intimate, personal songs that really personify everything it means to be a Christian. However, there are some aspects of modern Christian music--and modern Christian thought--that both confuse me and make me cringe at the thought of them. The great aspect that I could never be on board with is being ~in love~ with God and Jesus. I actually have several reasons for that.

First, there is a clear difference between "to be in love with " someone and "to have love for " someone. "To have love for " someone is to show many kinds of love, including ludus (playful ) love, storge (familiar love), philia (affectionate love), and pragma (enduring love). "To be in love with" someone is a type of love that is mainly being romantic or sexual in nature, including eros and sometimes ludus as well. I would never have romantic or sexual love or desire for the one who essentially saved me. Phrases like, "Jesus is my boyfriend" make me cringe because we shouldn't see our Lord and Savior as just a companion to love. Jesus is far more than that. He's the redeemer of our souls. Doesn't he deserve more respect than to be labeled as "boyfriend"?

There's a whole different type of love called agape, or selfless love. That is the kind of love that God has for us as his children, that Jesus had for the church and the kind of love that we should have for each other as children of God that we sometimes don't. In my opinion, that is the kind of love that we should have for God and Jesus, and we should not let that love be clouded by desire or desperation for them. It's not really becoming of anyone to have such a deep desperation for anyone, much less for someone who ought to be feared, revered, and worshiped.

I don't care who you are or what kind of Christian you think you are. There's a clear difference in the kind of love with should have for God and Jesus Christ. It is my belief that the reason we have phrases like "Jesus should be the only man in your life" and "Jesus is my boyfriend" is because the modern church wants to pander to the millennial generation and younger, which is problematic because it is not how you should be referring to Jesus or God.

Jesus did not die for your sins so you could call him your boyfriend in an effort to try and gain some higher moral ground. Jesus is not the only man you should have in your life. We were built to have companions from both males and females.

Jesus literally died to save our souls. Act like it.

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My Faith Is What Sparked My Interested In Socialist Politics

Jesus abhorred the greedy and had an unprecedented amount of compassion, and that's why I'm a socialist.

If you couldn’t tell by my name, I’m Irish, which also probably implies that I was raised Catholic. And indeed, I was. I was baptized, received the Eucharist and reconciliation, confirmed, and able to recite nearly every part of a typical Mass. Plus, I go to the largest Catholic university in the United States, DePaul University here in Chicago, a city with a rich history of Catholic Irishmen.

So, yeah, I guess you can say I’m the quasi-stereotype of the typical Catholic Irishman from Chicago, but one fact about me that isn’t that much of a stereotype, aside from that I’m more Chinese than Irish, is that I credit Catholicism for making me a socialist.

Before I go on, let me just say that if you don’t really know me, then that sentence seems shocking for the “socialist” part. But if you know my admiration for Bernie Sanders and his ability to bring socialism into mainstream politics, then you might be as equally as surprised, except more at the “Catholic” part.

The whole idea of Christ’s teachings ultimately reflects the meaning of socialism.

Socialism is the liberation of all oppressed peoples and the mass organizing of people to rightfully decide affairs that affect the population as a whole. It’s seen in many of the Ten Commandments. Thou shalt not kill, not bear false witness against thy neighbor, and so on. It’s seen in the Beatitudes. “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness: for they will be filled.” “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

It’s even seen in Jesus’s words. In Matthew 19:21, Jesus said: “If you will be perfect, go and sell that you have, and give to the poor, and you shall have treasure in heaven: and come and follow Me.”

Matthew 15:32 recalls Jesus as having “compassion on the multitude, because they continue with [him] now three days, and have nothing to eat: and I will not send them away fasting, lest they faint in the way.”

Though this is not to say that Jesus was a socialist, it is to say that for me, faith is important in my life because without it, I would not be as exposed to the damning inequalities of the world than I have been before.

We are seeing racism, classism, sexism, and all other forms of oppression bleeding into normalcy once again, all thanks to capitalists that abuse their power and exploit the working class for their own personal benefit.

Christ reflects on this evil in Mark 10:25: “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.”

It is often the case where socialism, and even more left ideologies and religion do not get along. In fact, it is a religion that most people in socialist causes see as an evil in itself, for it gives opponents on the right a scapegoat for their evils.

I personally disagree that religion is the root of that evil. I believe that even though religion has caused many atrocities against humankind throughout history, it goes without saying that the words of Christ offer good incentives to support socialist politics and views of the like.

This is not me trying to convince you to convert to Christianity, but it is me pointing out that faith can be utilized for the good in a world in which it has been used for the bad.

Christ’s compassion, empathy, and call for others to stand up to injustice is something that all people should see as valuable advice. There is no logic in using the rhetoric of Christ to excuse behavior that has caused far too many people to be obliterated from the Earth. For as the Golden Rule states, “do unto others as you want to be treated.”

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Project Israel: Part Two


I am conquered.

My mind, heart, and soul are incense before you.

Placed on the altar, are all my actions.

There my head hits the floor, knees press the ground,

Do I dare look up at You?

So, I stare behind, shadow below.

O’ Light above,

Weighing down upon me.

I am conquered.

Battle in the Heavens!

I am servant to both armies!

I am a general for Lucifer, I am a prince of Christ!

Does this please you: fallen below?

Father Above?

Such a lost thought, back & forth, between Death and Life.

I am conquered.

Weaned, bent, twisted by my own hand?

O’ Sin, are you my master?

By God’s Grace, no!

Yet it was I who stripped You, we struck You!

Strip me, strike me!

You gave me keys to the kingdom.

I threw my heart to the fire.

O’ Sin,

I am yours—all of me.

All my wretchedness is yours.

I am con—No!

O’ Jesus!

I am yours—all of me.

All my wretchedness is yours!

Mercy Maker, Death Defiler, Grace Giver!

Cover me with all!

It is all far more than enough!

Victory is at hand!

I am conquered.

—Drew Seitz


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