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A 5 Step Guide To Being In A Long Distance Relationship For Valentine’s Day

How you can make the day of hearts and flowers feel less like a day of distance.


Being in a long distance relationship is hard. Whether the distance is two minutes or 200 miles, being apart from someone is difficult, especially when that person is a part of you. Valentine's Day, which is the designated holiday of love, ironically can be the hardest day for those in relationships, well, long distance relationships that is. For the people who are "together" but physically far apart, Valentine's Day is a struggle. While I can't promise that this 5 step guide will make the holiday completely enjoyable, I can hope it will make it easier, and I can hope it will bring love to those that are missing someone on this holiday of hearts and flowers.

1. Treat yourself.

If this is the designated holiday of love, that should be a definite signal that some self love is more than acceptable, and most likely necessary. If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't around, it might seem like a good idea to mope around and whine about missing them. But you know what's a better idea? Buying yourself some candy and watching some quality Rom-Coms.

2. Allow yourself some space from them.

If you're not constantly talking to or thinking about your significant other, it won't be as unbearable to not be with them. As tempting as it is, being that girl or guy who spends their whole life Facetiming their boyfriend or girlfriend isn't going to make the distance any easier. Sure a Valentine's Day text or Facetime is fine, but not for the whole day, and they shouldn't be the only person you talk to.

3. Spread the love.

Reaching out to others on Valentine's Day is a great way to remind yourself that the holiday is supposed to make you, and others, happy. Call a family member, text some friends, and just let the people in your life know that you love them. Even though every television commercial and Valentine's Day movie may try to make it look like the holiday is only for couples, the holiday is truthfully supposed to be just for showing anyone, whether it be boyfriend, girlfriend, family member, or just friend in general, that they are loved.

4. Have something to look forward to with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Even if you can't spend the holiday together, it will make it less lonely if you have a set date planned where you will be able to see each other. Being in a long distance relationship on Valentine's Day can seem like just a reminder that the person you care about is far away, but if you have a visit planned that's not too far in the future, it will help to make the holiday just one day closer to actually getting to spend time with them.

5. Don't be afraid to still go out and have a good time.

Who says that just because you're feeling sad means you can't go out and manage to have a good time? While having a movie night in pajamas is more than acceptable, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't still go out on the town and dance the night away with your friends. As it is a holiday, it's supposed to be celebrated, and whether you're in a long distance relationship, or not even in a relationship at all, you deserve to celebrate.

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Me Saying I Don't Watch 'Game of Thrones' Is NOT Your Cue To Convince Me To Start

"Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you."


Yes, I have flaws. We all do. But it seems as if though my biggest flaw is that I have never seen "Games of Thrones." Nope, not even one single second. I don't know why I haven't seen it, it's not that I'm particularly against the show. I guess it's just too late now for me to start it, as the premiere of the eighth and final season aired April 14th. And for some reason, I just feel that I'm too far behind to even attempt to start it.

But please, I beg of you, do not try to get me to watch it. I don't want to; I've made my decision that I have missed the "Game of Thrones" train and I have accepted my fate. It's OK, you can use your heavy TV series persuasion on someone else, don't waste it on me.

But not being a Thronie (I have no idea if you "Game of Thrones" fans actually use that term, but it's fine) comes with its own set of hardships. Yes, I know that missing out on "unquestionably the most acclaimed and beloved show on television" is probably the greatest hardship, I know, I know.

But trying to scroll through social media while seemingly every single person on my feed is posting about the show? Now that's hard. I see memes left and right, constant reaction videos, clips of scenes that I will never understand. I see people being shocked by certain characters doing certain things to certain other characters and I just cannot understand! It's tough, it really is. I feel like I'm in elementary school, sitting on the bench beside the playground watching all of the cool kids playing together. I feel excluded and uninvited to the party that is the "Game of Thrones" fandom.

It really is hard. It's difficult not understanding the jokes and comments about all the happenings in "Game of Thrones." But to those who are obsessed avid watchers, I apologize. I sincerely am sorry that I can never understand your "Game of Thrones" talk. I am sorry that my inferior self is not interested in your favorite show.

As some character that I will never know in "Game of Thrones" says, "once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you." I have accepted that my major flaw is the fact that I have never seen "Game of Thrones" and that I, unfortunately, have no interest in watching. So please, don't use it against me. Besides, that one character that I don't even know said that you can't anyway.

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You Know You're From Trumbull, CT When...

The best memories are made in this boring, little, Connecticut town.


1. The majority of places you will consider to eat at are in Fairfield or Westport... Colony, Shake Shack, Country Cow, Playa Bowls, BarTaco

2. But if you find yourself too lazy to get on 95 for food, Panchero's is the go-to... never Chipotle. If it is past midnight, the choice always comes down to the McDonalds in Monroe, where you are almost guaranteed to see a group of people you know, or Merritt Canteen.

3. Once you got your license, your Friday night plans consisted of picking up friends, driving up and down Main Street, and, somehow, always finding yourself at the THS parking lot seeing who's car is there because there is nothing better to do.

4. In the Fall, you couldn't wait for Friday so that after school you and half of your grade could walk to Plasko's Farm for ice cream and apple cider donuts... and hope you could get them before the owners would yell at you to leave. (This one only applies to Hillcrest Middle School kids, AKA the inferior middle school in town).

5. You couldn't wait to be a senior so you could officially lead the BLACK HOLE at football games... if you were even willing to go in the cold.

6. You looked forward to the annual Senior Scav, the last week of summer before your senior year where a list of tasks is passed down by the recently graduated class... the official kickoff to senior year.

7. You pass by Country Club Rd. and get flashbacks from the worst Cross Country practices ever. Driving up Daniels Farm Rd. in the Fall and Spring, you are conditioned to yell "hi" out the window to your friends at practice.

8. You knew someone who worked at Gene's gas station... and found yourself spending more time there on the weekends than you would like to admit.

9. You are convinced Melon-heads are real after frequenting Velvet St. to see the abandoned insane asylum with your friends, IF you didn't want to drive all the way up to Fairfield Hills in Newtown.

10. You have had/have been to at least one middle school birthday party at the Trumbull Marriott.

11. You know that the 25mph speed limit on Whitney Ave. is way too slow... and can't help but hit a little air going down the huge hill at the top.

12. The guy at Towne likely knows your name.

13. You never find yourself turning right out of THS... that side of town is irrelevant for those who do not live there.

14. You know to avoid the Merrit Parkway from 4:00-7:00pm at all costs.

15. You know more than you would like to about people you aren't even friends with... in a town so small, things get around very quick.

16. Going shopping really means going to Target, or any store in the mall, for the millionth time that week.

17. The marching band was the best in the state and you would see them practicing, literally, every time you drove by THS.

19. Depending on the side of town you lived, you spent a lot of time at Five Pennies Park or Indian Ledge Park.

20. You would say you couldn't wait to leave, but when you got to college, you find yourself excited to come back to your hometown so you can reminisce on old traditions and make new memories.

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