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A 5 Step Guide To Being In A Long Distance Relationship For Valentine’s Day

How you can make the day of hearts and flowers feel less like a day of distance.


Being in a long distance relationship is hard. Whether the distance is two minutes or 200 miles, being apart from someone is difficult, especially when that person is a part of you. Valentine's Day, which is the designated holiday of love, ironically can be the hardest day for those in relationships, well, long distance relationships that is. For the people who are "together" but physically far apart, Valentine's Day is a struggle. While I can't promise that this 5 step guide will make the holiday completely enjoyable, I can hope it will make it easier, and I can hope it will bring love to those that are missing someone on this holiday of hearts and flowers.

1. Treat yourself.

If this is the designated holiday of love, that should be a definite signal that some self love is more than acceptable, and most likely necessary. If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't around, it might seem like a good idea to mope around and whine about missing them. But you know what's a better idea? Buying yourself some candy and watching some quality Rom-Coms.

2. Allow yourself some space from them.

If you're not constantly talking to or thinking about your significant other, it won't be as unbearable to not be with them. As tempting as it is, being that girl or guy who spends their whole life Facetiming their boyfriend or girlfriend isn't going to make the distance any easier. Sure a Valentine's Day text or Facetime is fine, but not for the whole day, and they shouldn't be the only person you talk to.

3. Spread the love.

Reaching out to others on Valentine's Day is a great way to remind yourself that the holiday is supposed to make you, and others, happy. Call a family member, text some friends, and just let the people in your life know that you love them. Even though every television commercial and Valentine's Day movie may try to make it look like the holiday is only for couples, the holiday is truthfully supposed to be just for showing anyone, whether it be boyfriend, girlfriend, family member, or just friend in general, that they are loved.

4. Have something to look forward to with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Even if you can't spend the holiday together, it will make it less lonely if you have a set date planned where you will be able to see each other. Being in a long distance relationship on Valentine's Day can seem like just a reminder that the person you care about is far away, but if you have a visit planned that's not too far in the future, it will help to make the holiday just one day closer to actually getting to spend time with them.

5. Don't be afraid to still go out and have a good time.

Who says that just because you're feeling sad means you can't go out and manage to have a good time? While having a movie night in pajamas is more than acceptable, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't still go out on the town and dance the night away with your friends. As it is a holiday, it's supposed to be celebrated, and whether you're in a long distance relationship, or not even in a relationship at all, you deserve to celebrate.

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10 Scenes From 'The Office' That Make You Believe In True Love Again

Yes, "The Office."


We all know "The Office" is known for its hilarious scenes, pranks and colorful characters. However, the series also has some of the most romantic scenes between couples.

1. Jim and Pam Stay Together (S9:E21)

When Jim accepts a sports marketing job in Philly, Jim is unable to fully commit to this job in Scranton and his job as a father, causing major strain on Pam to take care of the children as she feels her husband become increasingly more distant. As a result, this causes one of the first major fights and serious complications within their marriage that potentially could have lead to the end of their relationship. After having so many problems within their marriage, Jim and Pam go to marriage counseling and try to fix their problemed relationship. And, in this scene, they realize their love for each other and their love is strong enough to overcome any challenges they were facing.

2. Michael's Proposal to Holly (S7:E19)

Michael Scott's Proposal to Holly is one of the most notable things that Michael has done right in the series. After getting the help of his office workers and brainstorming ideas, Michael comes up with the most elaborate and romantic proposals. And, all of them give Michael the go-ahead by saying that Holly is his perfect match (which I 100% agree with). With the whole room lit with candles and the fire sprinklers going, the scene becomes more romantic even if things didn't go to plan.

3. Jim's Video To Pam (S9:E22/23)

After Pam says the heartbreaking words that she fears "she is not enough " for Jim, everyone feels for Pam's insecurities. In any other situation or marriage that isn't that strong, these insecurities could potentially ruin a strong relationship. However, Jim is able to calm Pam's fears about her not being enough by showing her a video of their love over the years. Jim will and will continue to be in love with Pam, highlighting that she is the most important thing in his life, above all else even his career.

4. Dwight and Jim (S4:E4)

This hands-down is one of my favorite scenes from "The Office." Although it is a fairly sad scene, it is a deep confession by Jim over his love of Pam, followed by a passionate kiss with Pam. The kiss definitely shows an overwhelming love for Pam that Pam will never fully known or understand. Yet, he truly treasures her. And, this scene also shows Dwight's vulnerable side. Although Dwight has been arrogant, prideful, and confident, his love for Angela breaks him down, showing he truly loves her. Both bond over their strong love for the gals they are trying desperately to woo.

5. Dwight and Angela's Wedding (S9:E24/25)

After a whole series of back and forth romance between Angela and Dwight, they finally get together. Their dance is also awfully adorable as Dwight swings Angela to and fro because she cannot walk (due to long, complicated reasons). In addition, it warmed my heart hearing from Michael Scott of his children and his family cellphone plan. After wanting children for the whole entire series, Michael finally got his wish with the love of his life.

6. Dwight Confesses to Angela (S9:E22/23)

Finally, after a series of waiting, Dwight and Angela finally confess that they love each other. Dwight realizes that he wants to be with no other women by Angela. Before he is about to marry another "perfect" milkmaid, he is overwhelmed with hesitation and conflict. And, Jim tells Dwight that there is someone one person that will make you drop everything. And, for Dwight, that one person is Angela. And, it so happens Phillip is Dwight's son too.

7. Halloween Party (S7:E6)

This is one of my favorite Jim and Pam moments because Jim shows time and time again that he really loves Pam. When Jim and Pam encounter a newly hired co-worker who actually happened to have gone on a couple of dates with Pam, the couple is confused by why this newly hired co-worker didn't call back Pam after those couple of dates. They find out that this co-worker thought Pam was dorky and wasn't interested. However, Jim really showed that he is head over heels for Pam because despite embarrassing himself by dressing up as Popeye, Jim wanted to show that he loves his "dorky" wife.

8. Jim and Pam's Wedding (S6:E4/5)

Jim and Pam finally get married. However, their wedding doesn't turn out as amazing as they expected it to be. There are many mishaps and issues that occur at their wedding that they realize that they rather get married by themselves. So, Jim and Pam escape their wedding and have the solitary wedding of their dreams at Niagra Falls.

9. Holly and Michael Get Back Together (S7:E15)

Holly and Michael had an on again off again relationship from the moment they met. However, Michael Scott had also been madly in love with her from the moment they met. And, I find their relationship very endearing because they do seem to be like soulmates. This episode proves that they think very similarly. The series has highlighted multiple times that not only do they have the same sense of humor but they understand each other's references and finish each other's sentences. Although any love with Michael Scott might not be a conventional love scenario, they live a very happy life, and it so happens they both want the same thing: marriage and children.

10. Pam's Parent's Divorce (S5:E15)

When Jim describes to Pam's parents how much he loves Pam, this makes Pam's father realize that he does not love his wife and divorce's Pam's mother. This comes at a major shock to Pam and her family. Pam initially blames Jim until she learns the truth. Even at the peak of his marriage, Pam's father didn't feel anywhere need the same as how much Jim loves Pam, showing that Jim's love for Pam is extremely worthwhile and deep.

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You Know You're From Trumbull, CT When...

The best memories are made in this boring, little, Connecticut town.


1. The majority of places you will consider to eat at are in Fairfield or Westport... Colony, Shake Shack, Country Cow, Playa Bowls, BarTaco

2. But if you find yourself too lazy to get on 95 for food, Panchero's is the go-to... never Chipotle. If it is past midnight, the choice always comes down to the McDonalds in Monroe, where you are almost guaranteed to see a group of people you know, or Merritt Canteen.

3. Once you got your license, your Friday night plans consisted of picking up friends, driving up and down Main Street, and, somehow, always finding yourself at the THS parking lot seeing who's car is there because there is nothing better to do.

4. In the Fall, you couldn't wait for Friday so that after school you and half of your grade could walk to Plasko's Farm for ice cream and apple cider donuts... and hope you could get them before the owners would yell at you to leave. (This one only applies to Hillcrest Middle School kids, AKA the inferior middle school in town).

5. You couldn't wait to be a senior so you could officially lead the BLACK HOLE at football games... if you were even willing to go in the cold.

6. You looked forward to the annual Senior Scav, the last week of summer before your senior year where a list of tasks is passed down by the recently graduated class... the official kickoff to senior year.

7. You pass by Country Club Rd. and get flashbacks from the worst Cross Country practices ever. Driving up Daniels Farm Rd. in the Fall and Spring, you are conditioned to yell "hi" out the window to your friends at practice.

8. You knew someone who worked at Gene's gas station... and found yourself spending more time there on the weekends than you would like to admit.

9. You are convinced Melon-heads are real after frequenting Velvet St. to see the abandoned insane asylum with your friends, IF you didn't want to drive all the way up to Fairfield Hills in Newtown.

10. You have had/have been to at least one middle school birthday party at the Trumbull Marriott.

11. You know that the 25mph speed limit on Whitney Ave. is way too slow... and can't help but hit a little air going down the huge hill at the top.

12. The guy at Towne likely knows your name.

13. You never find yourself turning right out of THS... that side of town is irrelevant for those who do not live there.

14. You know to avoid the Merrit Parkway from 4:00-7:00pm at all costs.

15. You know more than you would like to about people you aren't even friends with... in a town so small, things get around very quick.

16. Going shopping really means going to Target, or any store in the mall, for the millionth time that week.

17. The marching band was the best in the state and you would see them practicing, literally, every time you drove by THS.

19. Depending on the side of town you lived, you spent a lot of time at Five Pennies Park or Indian Ledge Park.

20. You would say you couldn't wait to leave, but when you got to college, you find yourself excited to come back to your hometown so you can reminisce on old traditions and make new memories.

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