You Will Rise When You Lift Others

If You Want To Rise, Start By Lifting Others

Making others feel good should make you feel good. Making others smile should make you smile. Lifting others up should lift you up, too.

"We rise by lifting others." - Robert Ingersoll

There are billions of people on this earth. It's absolutely absurd when you think about it. The world is so big, but it's a lot bigger than you may first think. Each one of those billions of people has their own story. They each have their own families, relationships, jobs, and problems. When you really think about it, your problems become a lot smaller at that moment.

But we all have problems, don't we? To be completely honest, 99 percent of the time we are so focused on our own crap that we forget to acknowledge the other 999,999,999 people dealing with problems on this earth. We're going to therapy, voicing our problems, and trying to figure out what we can do to help ourselves get out of this rut and live our happiest lives.

Have you ever thought that maybe focussing on helping other people with their problems may actually help you?

"What? That's insane!"

It may seem impossible at first, and truthfully I didn't believe it either when I first read that quote. But after letting it manifest in my life for a bit of time, I came to realize that making others feel good made me feel good. Which then inevitably leads to you forgetting about all the details of your own problems because you're so invested in helping others figure it out.

Now, this doesn't mean forget about your own mental health, but honestly, by focussing on helping others, we can actually indirectly help ourselves. It's a win-win situation.

Helping others doesn't have to mean you're solving someone's deepest, darkest issues, either. It truly just means lifting others up. This can be as simple as complimenting someone on their outfit, buying a random stranger's coffee, or just listening to someone let it all out.

Letting your friends and family know that you're there for them. Making the effort and saying hi. Telling someone you appreciate them. These gestures don't have to be big and grand. They can be as simple as, "I hope you have an amazing day."

You need to manifest this thinking into your daily life. Making others feel good should make you feel good. Making others smile should make you smile. Lifting others up should lift you up, too.

Sometimes focusing on ourselves comes from focusing on others. So I hope right now you whip out your phone and text your loved ones and tell them they're appreciated. If you're in a public space, tell someone they look nice today. Let someone that you know is struggling understand that you are there for them.

Reach out to people and make them feel uplifted. We rise by lifting others.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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To My Best Friend Of 15 Years

You are my person.


To my person,

I will never forget the first day that we met. It was the first day of preschool and my mom had just dropped me off. As I started to walk into the classroom I noticed that you were sitting alone on the floor crying. Not sure what to do, I went over to you and asked if you wanted to go play. Your face immediately lit up as we walked into the classroom and in that moment I knew that you would become my best friend. Ever since that day we've been attached by the hip and I wouldn't want it any other way.

April Roberson

Our friendship is the one true relationship that I can count on and for that I am forever grateful. This friendship of ours goes beyond our laughs and lake days. It's real. Through blood, sweat, and tears you've always been right by my side no matter what. You pick me up when I am drowning in pain. You cheer for me even when my ego is a little too high. You love me even when you should hate me. But, most importantly, you stand by me.

Our friendship is the perfect example of trust. You taught me that the right people can be trusted and will not betray you. No matter how dark the secret or how crazy the adventure, you never speak a word about me to anyone. You care about protecting my heart from the awful things in this world and when I am broken you are always there to pick up the pieces no matter how long it takes them to heal.

April Roberson

Our friendship has been a lifetime of happiness with a little bit of spunk. Not only do you encourage my crazy adventures, but you're always right by my side for each one. You keep life exciting and you make it easy. You are a true gift from God and I feel completely indebted to you for the role that you've played in my life. Our friendship is so special because it's full of our tremendous amounts of giving, sharing, and most importantly, love. There's not a day that goes by when I don't feel overwhelmingly thankful to have you by my side doing life with me.

So thank you, to my person. Thank you for always showing up for every little thing and making life so much better. Thank you for being my adventure inspiration and my lifelong travel buddy. Thank you for loving me unconditionally through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lastly, thank you for being the one person that I can forever count on in this life time. I love you with my whole heart and I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else. You are my person.



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