For some reason, be it fate or the Lord speaking to me, I started Grey’s Anatomy from the beginning a couple of weeks ago. That’s right, all the way back to Season 1, Episode 1. I’ve currently made it to season 10 so NO SPOILERS.

However, in a few weeks, I’ve managed to get to this point because it is so addicting. I can’t stop watching it and the more I watch it, the more I connect the things I see on the show to my real life. So here are 10 life lessons that I’ve learned from Grey’s Anatomy so far.

1. You think you know a person...

Let’s talk about the number of times that people cheated or stabbed others in the back. Seriously, find some good friends and stick with them. Find the Meredith Grey to your Cristina Yang. Find the Mark to your Derek. Okay, maybe not the Mark that sleeps with your wife but you get the idea. You think you know someone until they sleep with your wife or cheat on you with another doctor. Look out for yourself.

2. Naps are ALWAYS a good idea.

I mean...do I need to say more?

3. Sometimes you just need a glass of wine.

I don’t even drink but I know that when I can a nice glass of wine and fuzzy socks just looks better and better the more I watch the show.

4. Tell whoever you love that you love them ALL THE TIME.

Overdue it. Say it so much that they get annoyed. Tell them in the morning, in a billion texts, on the phone. Tell them every night you go to bed and every time you have to leave to go to the grocery store. If they are your everything, give them no reason to doubt that. In one second everything could change.

5. You never know what's going to happen.

With what I said before, be thankful for right now. Tomorrow could be completely different and you will never know. Count your blessings, chickens.

6. Stick to your gut.

Most of the time, your instincts are right. Don’t doubt yourself. Doubt is the root of all evil.

7. It's okay to be a shark.

If you’re a Cristina Yang, then be a Cristina Freakin’ Yang. Go out there, push everyone out of the way and own everyone in your field, major, profession, whatever it is. Be that shark that everyone is afraid of and will get eaten if they get in your way. Stay fierce. And don’t let anyone make you feel bad for it.

8. In the words of Callie Torres, 'Dance in your underwear'.

ENJOY YOUR LIFE! LIVE THE WAY YOU WANT! Forget the rules and guidelines and what OTHER PEOPLE want you to do. Do what makes YOU happy and forget everyone else who doesn’t want you to live that way. There are of course exceptions to this rule but seriously, get out there.

9. Go ahead, kiss them.

Listen, life is short and sometimes you see someone and the love you have for them is overwhelming so go ahead and kiss the ever-loving crap out of them. Go even farther if that’s your kind of thing, just love. Don’t hold it back because you’re afraid they won’t like you or they’ll say no to you. Take a leap of faith because they could be everything you’re looking for and more.

10. Nobody ever really knows what is going on.

I think we’ve all had that moment where we’re standing around or looking around and thinking, ‘What in the heck is going on?’ Nobody ever really knows what is going on, we’re all just trying to live. Fake it til’ you make it and all of that stuff.

11. Your person is out there.

To all of you single ladies, your Mark is out there! Your Avery is out there! Your Alex is out there! To all my gay ladies, your Callie is out there! To everyone else, your person is out there! I already found my Avery because I’m lucky but there are good men out there. In general, there are good people out there. They may be lurking in unseen places but they are there. Give them time, sometimes it takes them a while to get to you.