A Letter to TSM/TFM from an Actual Member of Greek Life

A Letter to TSM/TFM from an Actual Member of Greek Life

We are so much more than a stereotype.
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Dear Total Sorority Move/Total Fraternity Move,

Let me start off by saying I am/have been a big fan. I follow all of your social media accounts. I like your pictures, read your articles; I genuinely find your content humorous and entertaining. I look at certain pictures and articles, promoting various negative stereotypes of Greeks and Greek Life, and I try take them with a grain of salt. Because I know - deep, deep down - that it is meant to entertain your vast following, most of whom is a member of the Greek communities that you are targeting.


I understand how social media works. You do what is deemed "popular," and what will get you the most follows, likes, and page views, regardless of whether you actually agree with the content you put out or not (though most times I would think you'd have to agree with your content). But I cannot "follow" or "like" these unhealthy and unfair stereotypical representations of both Greek women and Greek men. I cannot speak on behalf everyone in the Greek community, but I can speak for myself. I don't think it's fair that we already are represented as crazy, selfish, irresponsible, sex-crazed, pledge-hazing, binge drinking, over-grown children by the rest of the mainstream media, and we still have to put up with the misrepresentation by sites that claim to be by us and for us.


We are more than a stereotype. We hold ourselves to higher standards. These hands do not haze. We don't sleep late and miss class because we are careless. We don't get blackout drunk because we think that's what Greeks do in college. Not only do articles and posts about these 'assumed ideals of Greeks' hurt us, but they hurt us when we try to recruit new members. Many PNM's (Potential New Members) don't have any idea what Greek life is really about, or if they do have an idea, it's based on what they've seen on television, what they've heard from older siblings or friends, or in this case, what they've learned from sites like yours. Some of these values and ideals your sites are promoting are not at all what real-life fraternities and sororities stand for, and they could very well get the wrong impression.

If you're promoting anything through your written pieces or your social media posts, it should be this:


Young Greek women are so much more than revealing clothing and skinny waists. They have feelings and minds of their own . They want more than to be a fraternity's sweetheart. They do not pick girls based on looks; they pick based on character and how a young woman carries herself. They want to support and love their sisters because that's why they joined. To forever have a group of women with the same goals and values who will always pick them up when they fall. Their beauty and passion cannot be summed up in an Instagram picture.


Young Greek men are so much more than shot-gunned beers and one-night-stands. They are not all about hooking up with girls and getting blackout drunk on the weekends. They have respect for their brothers and show it. They have respect for their philanthropy as well as their community and show it. They are more than a Rolling Stones article would portray them.


We may not all be perfect all the time, but we are so much more than how we are portrayed. I would love, just once, for someone to get it right.


Sincerely,
An Actual Member of the Greek Community

Cover Image Credit: Total Sorority Move Instagram

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1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

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14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

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21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

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Sorority recruitment can be a crazy experience. You basically spend a week running from house to house hoping to find one that is a good fit for you at the end of the week. Looking back as a recruiter there are so many things I wish I had known and done during recruitment to make the week easier on myself so here are some of my recommendations.

1. Don't feel intimidated

Not gonna lie, having 150 women dressed in the same outfit scream a door chant at you is really terrifying the first time it happens. But don't worry, these women were at some point in the exact same spot as you are and everyone thinks door chants are at least a little weird.

2. Don't listen to what other people say about houses

Many of the rumors you hear about houses and pretty outlandish and the vast majority of them are also untrue. Additionally, everybody has a different opinion about each house but their opinions should not matter to you. What should matter to you is the conversations and experiences you have at that house during recruitment.

3. Trust your Rho Gamma

I cannot stress this enough: just trust your Rho Gam, there is a reason they were selected to fulfill this position.

4. Bring a water bottle

When I went through recruitment it was over 100 degrees. Every. Single. Day. Make sure you have a cold water bottle to keep yourself hydrated and cool.

5. Pack some snacks

The first few days of recruitment are pretty long and you usually only get a short lunch during the day, so I recommend bringing some to stay energized.

6. Wear comfortable shoes

Nothing is worse than having to run across the hills of Greek row in a super cute but horribly uncomfortable pair of heals. While I still recommend wearing some cute shoes, make sure you're wearing comfortable shoes that you can hustle in.

7. Take lots of notes

Write down everything you remember about the house. The outfits they were wearing, the names of the girls you talked to, the conversations you had with them, their values as a house, any likes or dislikes, the list goes on. Writing everything you can remember down will help jog your memory later when you have to pref houses.

8. Wear LOTS of deodorant

There's a good chance it's gong to be pretty hot during recruitment so wear lots of deodorant and maybe even pack some in your bag to use throughout the day.

9. Don't be scared to ask questions

Recruiters loves it when PNMs ask questions because it lets us tell you more about the organizations we love so feel free to ask away!

10. Be yourself

As cliché as it sounds, remember to be yourself during recruitment. The only way to you're going to find a house that is a good fit for you is to be your honest, unapologetic self during recruitment.

11. Trust the system

Not trusting the system during recruitment was the biggest mistake I made. I ended up dropping out of recruitment only to end up joining one of the last houses I had before I dropped. While you may be frustrated during recruitment because a house you loved dropped you, remember that everything happens for a reason and you'll probably end up joining a house that you'll love even more.

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