Every girl has gotten the classic lecture before: boys suck, they aren't worth your time, you deserve better, never lose hope that there is someone waiting for you out there, someone better, etc.

But let me tell you the reality: Most guys aren't much better than the last. You see, we are stuck in this time zone in which most guys feel pressured to "hit it and quit it." You want the truth? Most guys just want sex. If they have never experienced it before, they are racing to catch up, and if they have experienced it before, they are thirsty for more. And once they have what they want, they are eager to influence the next generation of young boys that really, that's all there is to life--sex. You don't want to get yourself a girl who makes you soft around your friends, and you don't want to have to exert any effort into meeting her emotional needs. That would be too much of a commitment considering she is really only useful for one thing. So they laugh when they feel insecure; and show no emotion around the guys who are supposedly their "friends." It's the image they are creating for themselves amongst other guys that matters the most. Because bros before hoes, right?

So we've determined many boys are insecure. That doesn't mean you have be.

Instead of molding to meet their requirements, instead of answering to their every beck and call, why bother? Personally, I want a relationship with more emphasis on emotional support than physical obligations. And that doesn't go to say I am in need of a serious relationship, but it is to say that I am not at all interested in a strictly physical relationship with no strings attached. I want someone who takes the time to talk to me, who cares for me. So why would I waste my time on these silly little boys who think all there is to life is sex? Why chase boys who are too insecure to be kind and respectful? Because if that is the type of guy I am attracting at the moment, then by all means I would much rather stay the fun, loving independent girl that I am. He doesn't own me. He can't decide how I act, nor can I tell him he must change.

So don't waste your young years chasing. Stop waiting. Do things that make you feel empowered, and surround yourself with people who love you for you. And eventually, if someone strong enough comes into your life and wants to shower you with love, let him. Let him love you for who you are, and not what you do for him. You are courageous; you are beautiful. Be true to yourself and focus on the bigger picture. You were not put on this earth to boost his ego. You are here to make your mark. Find yourself. Discover your talents. Put them to good use. Your heart may be broken, but your head is still intact. Use your brain to spread love to the world. Why waste all your love on someone who doesn't love you? You don't need him. You only need you.