Dear future dads,
Here's a letter to you coming from a girl who grew up without a father by her side. It's a big step for sure, but it'll be OK. Whether you're filled with an ear to ear happiness or excitement with a mixture of fear, I hope you will never walk away. You won't truly understand unless you've been in someone's shoes with the same issue, but I don't ever wish that type of confusion and pain on anyone.
First of all, you're going to be a dad, and with that comes a big role to play for your kid's life. If they're brought up with the hate surrounding them, how will they ever know what love is?
Certainly, no one has published a manual book on how to be the best dad out there. And that's OK because no one is perfect. You will make mistakes, you will lose your patience, you will feel stuck but most of all, you will rise above them and show a perfect example to your child to never stop fighting.
Now I could ramble on about how you're going to be fine no matter how nerve wrecking it may seem. But I won't because that's not the reason why I'm writing this letter to you. I'm writing you from a perspective of someone who grew up questioning why someone could just walk away like that.
I really hope that you promise your child to always be there by their side through anything and everything. I hope you would never dare to walk away. I hope that you would never miss any moment of watching your child flourish and venture on out in the real world. I hope you won't forget to remind them that you're proud of them. Most of all, always remind them that you love them with all your hearts. Words can't describe how much that will impact us in the long run.
I hope you give them the strength that they will need to get through the heart aches that they will encounter. I hope you've made a vow to yourself that you will protect them no matter what. I hope you give them all the wisdom and stories back in the day. I hope you know how to put a smile on their face when nothing in life seems to be going their favor. I hope you teach them to never lower their standards or pretty much just chase anyone , because after all when things are meant to be... it will work itself out no matter which path you decide to take at the moment.
I hope spending time with your kid is a number one necessity. I hope you teach them about respect and proper manners. I hope that you will always have time for them because as of now your kids should always be your number one.
Love can go a long way especially from a dad. (It's priceless) So please, just do that and everything will be just fine. This world is already as cruel as it is and they're going to need as much love.