Learning To Love My Sorority Again

Learning To Love My Sorority Again

Because I really should have never stopped in the first place
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In August of 2015, I ran home to my sorority. This day will always be marked as one of the happiest days of my life. I look back at pictures and I can see how genuinely happy I was. Somewhere between now and then, that happiness and that love I felt, began to fade. But as we gathered around the night before initiation, singing and telling stories, I realized just how much I desperately wanted to fall in love with my letters again.

I'm pretty good at putting the blame on everyone but myself, which is exactly what I've done for the past few months. I stopped going to things and started avoiding people, because I let the negativity of a few affect my overall experience. I let burnt out friendships prevent me from finding new ones. I gave into fear and I gave into the paranoia that I could just never fit in. Somewhere along the way, I forgot that I ran home to this chapter for a reason and that I came here, because this group of girls thought that I did fit in with their sisterhood. They say that a few holes can sink a ship, but there's no reason that I can't build a new one. So, that's what I'm going to do.

If I had a dollar for every time I heard the phrase "you get out of it what you put into it" I would have a good bit of money. If I had a dollar for every time I didn't listen to that phrase, I'd have even more money. This is especially true with me and my sorority this school year. I put very little into it and I got very little out of it. I've had some pretty hard times in the last year and instead of trusting in my sisters, I shut them out. I let a few bad friendships skew my views of over a hundred girls. It was dumb and it was childish and it caused me to waste an entire year in my sorority. While I can't get this past year back, I can try and make the next few a lot better.

I guess I was never really a "sorority girl" and I still don't really fit into society's mold of what a sorority girl is (most of us don't) and the more I told myself this, the easier it was to distance myself. I came up with countless excuses as to why I shouldn't go to things. It was rarity for me to show up to anything. So, the less I showed up to, the more disconnected I felt, which just lead to me showing up even less. It's a vicious cycle that lead to me wanting to drop just about everyday, but I know that there's a reason I haven't done that.

I cannot wait to discover that reason. I'm already so much more excited about the fall semester than I was just a week ago. I'm excited to live in the house and I'm even a little excited for recruitment. I'm going to stop making excuses and start forming closer bonds with my sisters. Everything happens for a reason, even the bad things. Maybe I had to go through this rough year to truly appreciate my sorority or to find the people who I know will stick with me through anything. Maybe I'll find the position that's perfect for me, who knows? But I do know that I'm ready for whatever comes.

I don't know exactly why I stopped loving my sorority, because no matter what I thought, my sorority never stopped loving me.

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As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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2. I love...

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7. My pet(s) are my life because...

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I love getting dressed up, but I hate finding a date.

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Being in a sorority has brought me a ton of fun activities to do on weekends. One of my favorite activities is formal. If you do not know what a formal is, it is a sort of homecoming dance or a dialed down prom that every fraternity or sorority has ~about~ every semester. It is a pretty fun night if you are with the right people. However, if you're also like me then you have a major love/hate relationship with formal.

1. Trying to find the perfect formal dress is hard AF.

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I love getting to go shopping with my sisters, or my friends in other sororities! But it is a major struggle deciding if I want to spend the money to get a brand new dress or if you want to wear a dress that you wore or bought last year and have not touched in a while. You will know when you have found the perfect dress though. Not only will it make you smiler wider than the Atlantic ocean, but it will fit you in all the right places.

2. Finding a date when you're single.

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When you are very single and are unsure as to who you want to take to formal. Obviously, you can go solo and that is super okay! But if you're like me and you feel uncomfortable going alone then you understand the struggle of not knowing who to ask or being too shy to ask the one person that you like to be your date. Or if you have asked one of your guy friends and he is already going with someone else to their formal. *cough* Colton *cough*

3. Deciding whose formal to go to.

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My freshman year I went to one of my guy friend's formal in Nashville, Tennessee and my parents about had a conniption when I told them I was going. Another part to this is that not only would you love to with Chad to Sigma Apple Pie's formal in Kentucky, but your formal is the weekend right after. There are so many deciding factors that come with trying to figure out if you want to go to both formals, just one, which dress to buy or which one you want to wear to either one.

4. Finding the perfect shoes.

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I have been to four formals now and I have worn the same shoes to each one, aside from formal last spring. Let me just say when you find the perfect shoes to wear for hours on end then stick with them! I wear my TOM black wedges every time and my feet are still fully thriving and not dying as much as everyone else's feet are.

5. When other sororities are having theirs the same night.

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This semester, my sororities formal is October 19, which is apparently the night of two other sororities formals. This would not be too big of a deal if it weren't for the fact that one of my friends cannot come to mine because someone else already asked him to their formal before I could ask him. It is also super fun to see everyone's posts, but it super hectic the night of because of all the buses transporting everyone.

No matter what though, formal is all about having fun with your friends and dancing. So make yourself look like a goddess that you already are and dance the night away!

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