Kindness Is A Strength, And You're Weak For Not Realizing It

Kindness Is A Strength, And You're Weak For Not Realizing It

From one "softie" to the next, keep showing your strength.

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Growing up, I felt as though we all experienced the notion of being ostracized for being 'soft'. Those who cried were gentle. Or wholeheartedly nice people were made fun of for being weird. Developing in this world was far from easy.

As a teenager, I learned to react rudely and to be harsh to the world around me. I became friends with others who spread hateful ideas, and I looked down on those who showed kindness in their everyday activities.

I thought that this was the only way to thrive. Being a negative person became a way of life.

I became the optimal pessimist. I thought the world around me was terrible, and I tried to mold myself after the disgust I had for my surroundings.

I gravitated toward those who also treated every action as a curse, who also felt as though the world was against them. Soon enough, I began to feel this way too. Being angry and sad all the time made me into a person I didn't even recognize. Eventually, I realized that enough was enough.

I learned the power of looking on the bright side of things, and I discovered how freeing being kind was.

Although I still acknowledged that there were many unfair and cruel aspects of the world around me, I accepted the notion that there was little I could do to change them. Many of the things I despised were out of my control, and I found that focusing my energy on ways to make my life (and the lives of those around me) better was the way to feel fulfilled.

This led me to realize how crucial it is for us to show kindness in our every action. Far too many individuals feel as though they need to be angry, catty or cruel to others in order to succeed. They pick on insecurities, bully and make rash decisions out of jealousy and hate. However, what these individuals fail to realize is how amazing it is to be soft.

To them, kindness is something reserved for family parties, and for the few people they call friends. They refuse to be anything more than decent around others, if they are decent at all.

In high school, especially, children feel as though they need to be terrible and childish to "prove" something. But being gentle and bright is the only way to be successful in this world.

Although it is impossible to be a ball of sunshine 24/7, it is essential to be nice. Thinking of ways you can be a better soul, smiling at others or simply just thinking positively are some of the most freeing things to do.

Our world is far too full of evil and hate, so being a beacon of light is how we can show our strength. Although it may sound cheesy, it couldn't be truer.

Being 'soft' is an asset. Being kind and warm not only makes your life more enjoyable, but it makes the world around you better too. This is not to say you have to become completely altruistic, but ensuring almost every action you take part in is backed with positive energy is how to be strong in today's world.

So, from one "softie" to the next, keep showing your strength.

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And You Can Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.
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It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

Cover Image Credit: Sara Petty

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The Lazy Girl's Guide To The Gym

Also, everything else you should know if you're a slightly out-of-shape girl (like me).

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With my freshman year coming to an end, I realized a lot of things. I made new friends, I found new hobbies, and I learned a lot of lessons. One of them being that the "Freshman 15" is very real and very scary.

While my friends and family have attempted multiple times to convince me that I'm just being dramatic (I am), I still want to make a change in my lifestyle or I will, in all seriousness, be on track to the "Sophomore 20".

Here is a list of my best gym and healthy lifestyle tips that I am slowly attempting to live by this summer in order to resurrect Emily's 18-year-old body and health.

1. Increase water intake.

2. Find a gym buddy.

3. Start off with cardio.

4. Don't stop on your cardio until you're dripping in sweat.

5. Chug a LOT of water an hour before the gym.

Do not do it right before, or you will be in pain.

6. Eat light beforehand but just enough to hold you over. 

7. Plan out what your routine will be BEFORE you get there.

My routine: Elliptical for a mile, Stairmaster for 10 minutes, ab HIIT workout for 10 minutes, 5 more minutes on Stairmaster.

8. Buy healthy foods while you're feeling motivated.

9. Find a gym that isn't too far from your house. 

10. Don't get mad at yourself if you don't see results in a day.

I know this is a hard one.

11. Try fitness classes. 

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