To The Kid That Grew Up With Divorced-Parents Drama

To The Kid That Grew Up With Divorced-Parents Drama

Even though you are over the divorce itself, your selfish parents still drag you into the drama.

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Even though we're all grown up now, we still tend to look back on the days before our parents got divorced. Although those days may be hard to remember the memories still linger in our minds.

Christmas, Thanksgiving, and Easter are different now. Even after you're of age you still have to visit them separately to celebrate the holidays. It makes your chaotic day even more tedious because of all the traveling and communication that has to take place just so no one feels left out.

It makes you nervous at sporting events when they are both there to watch you.

On graduation day they sit on opposite sides of the gym but when it comes time to take pictures you are afraid they won't be able to get along. When it's time to move into college they both argue about who gets to be there although you want both of them there. You have to base your birthdays around their schedules instead of your own because you inevitably want to please them.

They use you against each other and it puts you in the middle of every argument. It's getting old now but you're used to it.

At the end of the day, it comes down to being obliviously selfish. They don't even realize it, but it's true. They got divorced when you were too young to understand (so it doesn't bother you anyways) or they got divorced when you were older and even though you are over the divorce itself, they are still out to get each other in some way.

You don't care about the reason they got divorced, you don't care about who did who wrong, all you want is your parents to forget about it and be there for you.

You've seen through all the B.S., so you want them to do the same.

To all the kids with divorced parents, to all the divorced parents, to all the family members: remember what it's about and stop being selfish individuals. There is a solution to every problem and it can be simply figured out if you don't complicate it.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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Why I Appreciate My Parents So Much

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One thing I've noticed, the older I've gotten, is how much I appreciate my parents.

We've become so close, it's almost funny to think at one point I looked at them so much differently. When I was younger, my parents were much more strict than they are now. They disciplined differently and didn't let me do certain things. The older I've gotten, the more freedom I've gotten, which is one big sigh of relief.

My parents are such great people. Throughout my whole life, I've always had friends of parents or people who know my parents tell me how great they both are. I'm so blessed to have been raised by them and to have gotten their characteristics.

My mom is so loving and generous, and she thinks of literally everyone else in her life before herself. She's smart and funny, and she is always there when I need someone to talk to. She's taught me how to be courteous, kind, funny (with her sense of humor), and most importantly, accepting towards others.

The older I get, the more I realize how similar I am to her. She's my favorite woman in the whole world. We understand each other.

My dad is a thoughtful, hilarious, wise, and helpful guy who has taught me so many lessons throughout the years. He always makes sure my finances are in order, even more than I do. He keeps me laughing with his funny stories and made-up songs that he sings. He always asks me how my day was every time I walk through the door. He is so adorable and thoughtful, and I'm so happy I got his wit and humor.

His smile lights up a room and I'm so happy I've been hearing his laugh and will continue to for the rest of my life.

Another great thing about my parents is that they've taught me what love looks like. They're so loving, kind, and patient towards each other. I've rarely ever seen them fight in my life. They still treat one another how they did when they first started dating. I have friends and know people whose parents aren't together, and I'm so lucky to say I can't imagine what that's like.

My parents complete each other; they are soulmates. I'm so lucky and appreciative that I get to have the honor of watching their love play out throughout their lives.

I'm so happy and thankful that these are the parents I ended up with. They're the best. I hope to be half of my parents when I become a parent myself.

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