After graduation in May I found myself scrambling to figure out what it was that I wanted to do with the rest of my life. I found a job and was content with the direction that my life was going...until recently.

I started to see all of my friends moving back to school or finding a career path that they love and then there was me. I felt myself failing because I didn't envision my life going the way that it was.

I did not know what to do, but I remembered a conversation that I had with my dad a few years ago. He told me that I am in the prime time of my life to figure out what I want to do. He said that my twenties are about being selfish and remembering that the only person whose happiness you have to focus on is your own.

Now let's break that down because whenever I used to hear the word "selfish" it was used in a negative connotation. Considering I am the oldest of three, I have never been able to be "selfish." What's mine is their's and while my siblings have had their share of times when they were extremely selfish, I was never able to be the one to say something just belonged to me because it really didn't. I thought long and hard about what my dad told me because I really wanted to understand what being "selfish" meant.

It was not until my aunt tagged me in a Facebook post of Judge Lynn Toller on Divorce Court explaining what your twenties are for. She said "Twenty is for you, twenty is for growth, twenty is for a pursuit of a tomorrow that is better than today. Twenty is for options, twenty is for passion and a knowledge and enjoyment. Twenty is NOT for compromise!"

That is when I realized that I was compromising and settling for the way I was living. I was content with being around people I did not like, content with spending my money on things that did not interest me and I was content with being the person that I was.

Being selfish during your twenties doesn't mean you are lacking consideration of other people: it means that you have more consideration for yourself. This is the prime time to figure what kind of guy/gal you really like, what music really interests you, what kind of food you really like and overall what kind of person you want to be.

So be selfish! Take the job that you actually want, travel the world, explore different career paths, and stop doing things for other people because in the end the only person's happiness that matters is your own!