You read about self-worth and self-confidence all the time. How guys need to earn you and everything you have to offer. They need to earn your time and trust and beauty and love, which I agree with, but only when a girl is deserving.
Women, it starts with you. If you exhaust your love, grace, and service on others, while seeing beauty instead of envy in others, then you are more than deserving of the pursuit of a man.
If you embody selflessness, confidence, a kind heart, and humility, you have every right to put a man to the test and make him earn a place in that special heart of yours.
But you can't demand a man to earn something you're not. He shouldn't be put to the test if you're not serious and confident in the standards you claim to have. It starts with you.
Become the kind of person you want your significant other to be.
If you're shallow, insecure, or jealous, you're not any less worthy of love, but a man is not capable of erasing those characteristics, only your self-love and appreciation is. You have to win yourself over before you can expect a man to violently pursue you and win you over.