Is Common Courtesy Not So Common Anymore?

Is Common Courtesy Not So Common Anymore?

Why kindness is no longer self explanatory

Today, people only communicate on screens. This makes miscommunication inevitable. You can’t see someone’s reaction or emotions in a text or snapchat. People have become too accustomed to sending something and assuming it’s understood, with no repercussions attached. But are enough people still accountable for their actions?

Nowadays people don’t even realize the people surrounding them anymore. I myself recently experienced an immense lack of kindness, honesty and common courtesy. And I have to say, it didn’t feel very good at all. I was told that “nice people finish last” and that essentially I needed to toughen up to make it. Not to have feelings and take things too personally, but to me, being “nice” goes much farther than acting solely in one’s self interest, and has contributed to the successes of my life so far. Not only that, but I feel so much better knowing that I have had a positive impact on someone else’s life by simply having consideration and being honest.

Perhaps this lack of common courtesy is in part due to the examples that are put forth every single day. Our new President of the United States constantly tweets insensitive things, and then either backpedals by saying that it was taken out of context, or denies saying these things at all. Trump tweeted, “The failing @nytimes has been wrong about me from the very beginning. Said I would lose the primaries, then the general election. FAKE NEWS!” The Times did accurately report on Trump’s process that led up to him becoming President, so essentially Trump is criticizing the people who disagree with him. And citizens who maintain the right to free speech have every right to disagree with some of the disrespectful comments that Trump has made. And did he really think that this tweet from September of 2012 wouldn’t follow him? “Obama is our unlucky President. Everything he touches turns into a mess. Some people just don't have it!” This tweet is an insult to our former president, who, while clearly more docile than our current president, had plenty of successes. From legalizing marriage equality to apprehending Osama Bin Laden for his heinous crimes against humanity, Obama managed to keep the interests of American citizens at heart. Yet Trump, who is indeed getting things done by way of various executive orders, lacks to keep the marginalized in mind. Innocent refugees are blocked from entering this country to escape a war zone, yet to him this is best.

And this further illustrates my point. People do not realize the impact of their words on social media or texting. They assume that what they write disappears, and lack to realize the absence of kindness or consideration of what others may be feeling. Whatever happened to common courtesy? Technology is slowly but surely eliminating it, but hopefully there are enough people who are still considerate enough to think of others.

Thankfully, there are plenty of “nice” people who are not finishing last. Lin Manuel Miranda, an award winning producer, actor, and songwriter who rose to fame after creating the iconic Hamilton: An American Musical, won a Pulitzer Prize, two Grammys, an Emmy, three Tony Awards, and a MacArthur Fellowship. He joined senators Elizabeth Warren and Charles Schumer in the call for congressional action to back a senate bill in Washington that would permit Puerto Rico (where his father’s side of the family is from) to declare bankruptcy, and have their $70 billion debt significantly lifted, as it was having horrible effects on poverty and crime on the island. He remains very close to his family, and gives back to the less fortunate, specifically to the Hispanic Federation, which helps uplift hispanic children living in urban and rural poverty nationally. Need other examples? Keith Urban (who works with 23 different charities--from providing opportunities for musicians to cancer research) and genuinely cares about audience members during his concerts. Lady GaGa has her own foundation, called Born This Way, which assists the marginalized LGBT youth.

So as you can see, kindness and common courtesy do go a long way. It’s not about being right all the time and knocking others down for having feelings or a different viewpoint or understanding of something. Common courtesy paves the way to stronger relationships and more fulfilled lives. It is best to be honest from the beginning, to be truthful and respectful, than to not care for other’s feelings by lying or blurting out rushed words. Is it really that hard to take the high road?
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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.

Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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3. Vacations/ Stay-cations

This is the time to go explore and travel the world and experience new things. Seeing new cultures around the world and trying new foods is a great part of going on vacation. If not going on vacation, staying at home and relaxing is always a great way to rest your body and brain from everything.

4. Hanging out

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