Yes, I'm A Virgin, But No, I'm Not Judging You For Not Being One

Yes, I'm A Virgin, But No, I'm Not Judging You For Not Being One

A response to "Sorry Virgins, But Never Having Sex Before Has Nothing To Do With Being A Good Person"

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Recently I read an article, on the Odyssey titled "Sorry Virgins, But Never Having Sex Before Has Nothing To Do With Being A Good Person". In this article, the author painted an extremely one-sided and unrealistic image of what a virgin is. In her article virgins were judgemental, holy, pure, prudish, women who are quick to judge women who have *gasp* had sex before marriage. As this could be a very accurate depiction of some virgins, it was very unrelatable to me. Seeing virgins as slut-shaming bigots is just as bad as seeing someone who has had sex before as an immoral whore. Us women are much more complicated than these hurtful words and I think it's about time we stop the stigmatizing each other for what we choose to do with our bodies.

In my youth, I was taught that sex is a gift given by God to married couples. Although this is what I was taught, I believe that intimate connection is very special and that I might end up sharing this with someone before I get married. This being said, I am still a virgin and I do value that part of me. I've been mistreated by many boys in the past and when I look back on these moments, I am so grateful I didn't let them take my virginity from me, although they may have taken many other things from me. I feel so much sympathy to girls who have lost their virginity to someone who mistreated them or who have had it forcefully taken from them.

Everyone leads different lives and I think that's important for us to see. Instead of judging one individual for their experiences, why not create conversation? Not every virgin is saving themselves for marriage. In fact, some people have no desire to have sex at all. Asexuals are a small minority of the population and are almost invisible in the media. I consider myself to be on this spectrum of asexuality. I don't feel sexual attraction very often. I would only feel desired to have sex with someone that I have become extremely close with emotionally. To me, the emotional bond is more important than the sexual bond. I would never judge someone based on how they feel attraction. Attraction varies from person to person and instead of denouncing this, we should celebrate it.

The key is, everyone's experiences are different and I feel it's time we recognize that. Instead of condemning a woman's experience with sex or lack thereof, supporting one another is something that should be mandatory. As women, we are so much more complex than the statements "I'm a virgin" or "I am sexually active".

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8 Lyrics From T. Swift's New Song 'You Need To Calm Down' That Will Give Your Instagram The Strong Female Empowerment It Needs

Let this girl-power ballad spark your insta-piration for your next post.

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If you've ever experienced cyber-bullying, or if you ever feel caught up in our over-critical society, Tay Swift's new song "You Need To Come Down" is the song for you. While we live in a world with free speech, and especially as a journalist I am all for that, sometimes its best to think before you speak - or tweet. We should all try to be understanding and kind no matter what the circumstance, even if it means not clicking send on some Twitter rants. These lyrics are a friendly reminder to stay calm and focus on what's important.

1. "Say it in the street, that's a knock-out. But you say it in a tweet, that's a cop out."

If this isn't the call-out message of the year on cyber-bullying (in song, at least), I don't know what is.

2. "But I've learned a lesson that stressin' and obsessin' about somebody else is no fun."

We all need to remember at times that getting mixed up in drama isn't fruitful for our lives or growth.

3. "Like can you not step on my gown? You need to calm down."

Don't let the haters control you or stop you from living, just tell those voices to calm down.

4. "Why are you mad when you could be glad?"

Focusing on hate or being critical can be exhausting, and it's better to focus on the good things.

5. "Sunshine on the street at the parade, but you would rather be in the dark ages."

Show people that going into the light is so much easier than they realize when they are stuck in a drama-cloud.

6. "You just need to take several seats and then try to restore the peace."

Instead of trying to have the last word in every fight, try to be the peace-maker instead.

7. "Control your urges to scream about all the people that you hate."

Hate never made the world go 'round. Hate was never what Jesus spoke about. And some things just aren't worth using energy to yell at.

8. "But we all know now we all got crowns."

Don't be afraid to show that you are a princess and no one can take your crown.

This song is not just a collection of Insta-quotes, but also a call-out for all of us to live better lives, to remain a positive and uplifting human in this cancel culture world. By no means should we remain silent on important issues or let people get away with bad things, but we can choose to not get mixed up in petty drama that won't matter in a week. Let's agree to be kind to one another.

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Starbucks Is Cancelling Straws, But I Have A Better Idea

A business plan for Starbucks that would be 100% more effective than getting rid of plastic straws

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I find it fascinating that as our Earth has twelve years left before being majorly threatened by Carbon Dioxide and the biggest stride big corporations think they can make is doing away with plastic straws. One of the main companies that have gone public about making this change is Starbucks. Still, as I walk around campus and see girls with their Starbucks cups full of acai refreshers and iced coffees, I see a green plastic straw and a plastic cup. If we're trying to create a sustainable society, why are we so concerned with plastic straws when single-use plastic cups haunt our lives every single day and even more frequently than straws. If Starbucks were so willing to save the environment they would draw their focus to all plastic products and not just straws. Now many may think, how would we even solve this problem and I have a solution. I'm not saying my idea is the be all end all that will 100% work, but it is a thought.

So my idea is to offer Mason Jars or cups to serve drinks inside Starbucks. For people who are on the go, offer them to buy the reusable travel cups and if they bring it back, they are gifted with an exclusive reward program. It just seems like something along these lines would help make a bigger step in reducing the Starbucks carbon footprint than getting rid of plastic straws (which seems to still be a work in progress). It upsets me so much that a company striving to be sustainable posed such a small stride as a huge accomplishment. I want big corporations to stop using sustainability to gain clout unless they are actually doing something extremely effective that will actually help to make an active change in the saving of our environment.

Hearing about the amount of time we have left until this world is at risk, makes me fearful that more of these companies will play along as friends to the environment when in reality a change in one plastic product will not help the years and years of carbon emissions and trash buildup that is present in our world. I love visiting local coffee shops where you're given a ceramic mug or glass cup, but a Starbucks is so much more accessible than most local places. Until the easy access stores and companies make sustainability easy for a mass of people that aren't aware of this arising problem, we'll never fix the problem. My biggest wish is that these changes can happen soon because there is only one Earth. Let's celebrate and accept sustainability because it is the future.

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