To The Girl Who Doesn't Speak Up For Herself

To The Girl Who Doesn't Speak Up For Herself

This one's for you.


When I was younger, I was always known as a really shy girl. I stayed quiet in class, and every time I had to speak in class I would blush and feel flustered. Class presentations were my worst nightmare because I would get nervous and sweaty.

Now that I'm in college, I have definitely come out of my shell, but there's one thing I still struggle with: standing up for myself.

I think there are three main reasons why I have a difficult time standing up for myself.

1.) I don't want people to hate me.

2.) I don't want to lose friendships.

3.) I don't want to be mean, or I don't know what to say.

Growing up, I went to four different elementary schools. My parents got a divorce and so I moved around a lot as a kid, and so because of this, I was constantly put in a classroom of unfamiliar faces- which for a socially awkward, shy kid, this was a nightmare. I kept having to make new friends, which made me extremely nervous at the time. Now, I find it easier talking to people and meeting new people, but at the time, I hated being the "new kid." As the "new kid," you quickly find yourself as an outsider because everyone else has already established their friendships from day 1. Once I finally felt settled in a friend group, I was afraid to lose it. I had finally felt stability, and any change would mess everything. My fear of people hating me and losing friendships made me not speak up for myself. Even when a friend said something hurtful, I wouldn't say anything because I didn't want to start drama and cause a fight.

I still struggle speaking up to this day. However, I have gotten better at it. I have found that practice makes perfect in these instances. Also, you may feel like you are being mean, but in reality, you are just asking someone to respect you, which is common decency. It's not too much to set boundaries and say "hey, I don't like it when you treat me this way." In my experience, every time I didn't say anything I regretted it. And if I just let things bubble up inside of me, they get way worse. Problems don't go away, they get bigger.

Maybe you are reading this, and you are thinking, "But I don't know what to say." My mom used to always tell me, "Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean." So what does that mean? It means step 1: Be direct. Tell the person clearly what is bothering you and give a concert example of when it has happened in the past (maybe don't bring up stuff from years ago, but you know relatively current stuff). Step 2: Be nice but not too nice. I have trouble doing this because I hate any kind of conflict, and so I have trouble not automatically letting the person get away with lame excuses as to why they hurt me. Remember that you deserve respect, and don't just roll over just because someone doesn't think what they did was wrong. Odds are, people will respect you more if you stand up for yourself.

I get it. It's scary saying how you really feel. It's easy to just say "Oh, it's okay" or to stay quiet when someone says or does something really hurtful. If they are a real friend, they will accept what they did was wrong and listen to your concerns.

If you struggle to speak up for yourself, just remember that it's better to speak up than to shut down and stuff emotions in.

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Growing Up Catholic And How It Shaped Me

"I like being able to believe there is more to life than our time on Earth."


Ever since I can remember, I have attended church every Sunday morning. Not always at the same church, but always at the same time with all the same people. I've never known anything different.

Both of my parents are Catholic and so are their parents and so on and so forth. I attended religious education classes my whole childhood and when I was 15, I chose to get confirmed which basically says you are choosing to continue your faith.

As a kid, I didn't really understand why we went to church every Sunday and there were some Sundays where I just didn't want to get out of bed to go. When I'm on the verge of not going to mass I tell myself that it is just 1 hour of my time, 1 hour each week and that is all I have to give. Everyone has 1 hour to spare.

Now that I am older, I'm grateful my parents have introduced me to the Catholic Church. I like having something to believe in and being able to have faith. I'm a huge optimist in my daily life and a big part of that is because I trust God's plan for me, whatever happens is with his best intentions for me. I like being able to believe there is more to life than our time on Earth.

It seems that the word "Catholic" has a negative connotation nowadays and that makes me extremely sad. No one should be judged or profiled based on their religion.

Being Catholic to me means always striving to better myself and bring myself closer to God. Being Catholic might mean something else to another person and that's what is great about religion and faith, they affect everyone differently and it is up to you to decide what to do with these 2 things.

At the end of the day, I am grateful for being brought up in the Catholic family I was because it gave me my morals and made me the person I am today, whom I am proud of.

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