For some, the "poop talk" is a quick remark the first time you need to "go" in a new relationship.
Others find themselves in a serious relationship and searching for an excuse to leave the house every time their stomach gets queasy. Why do so many of us feel embarrassed about one of the most natural things in the world?
The poop talk happens at different stages in every relationship, but eventually, everyone needs some release (if you know what I mean). It can either be incredibly awkward or a chance to break down barriers and reach a new level of emotional intimacy with your partner.
It's nothing to be ashamed of, and no matter what boundaries you're comfortable with, you'll be a happier couple because of it.
I personally have never had the poop talk in a relationship, but I know I am not alone. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years, and living together for half of that, but have yet to acknowledge that everybody poops. For the past year, every time I need to go to the bathroom I have made an excuse to either leave the house or take a shower. I used to wonder if my boyfriend ever pooped. My whole life, I have viewed pooping as a private and secretive act. Now, I'm quarantined in a small apartment and feel closer to my boyfriend than ever, and I can't hold it in anymore. Literally.
Once you decide you're ready, how do you approach it? And what do you say?
I think the best way to go is to rip it off like a Band-Aid. Look at them and say, "I poop." Odds are they'll be uncomfortable at the beginning, but they'll be relieved you can finally laugh it off together. In the end, everybody poops, and they're probably tired of holding it in, too. Once you've initiated the conversation, make sure to go over your boundaries and habits. If your body is on a regular schedule, just tell them so they know when to give you your privacy.
Life is short. So, I say talk to your partner about poop. And at the very least, if initiating the conversation is too scary, send them this article. That's what I'll be doing.