Reasons Why I Hate Callie Torres

A Timeline Of Reasons Why I Hate Callie Torres From 'Grey's Anatomy'

She is self-absorbed and has too much me mentality and it rots all of her relationships and the people that she leaves are left still cleaning up after her.

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Calliope Torres always has been me mentality person. Filled with the pride of her riches and self-absorbed attitude she constantly throughout her time on the show downward spiraled through each relationship she was in. Why? She should have been in therapy for herself not to fix others. The problem Callie was never George, Hans, Arizona, or Penny, no, it was herself.

1. Introduction to Callie. 

Underwear dancing in her illegal basement of the hospital home....

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I liked Calliope at first. This full figured, weird, and self-loving human seemed like a great addition to the cast and in George's (my favorite character at the time) love life. However, Callie quickly devolved into a ME ME ME person and there was a lot of inconsistencies in her backstory and character. Callie seemed to be this rock n roll hardcore chick. Until she was suddenly volatile, emotional, with standard family Catholic goals. There was also the issue of money. She lived in the hospital basement since she was always there and it was cheaper.

However, it is later revealed that due to her father's deep pockets Callie can afford a $1,000+ dollar a night hotel room. So after that little rich child fact came into the light of day, the other facts including that she was illegally living in a hospital because it was cheaper seemed to not add up anymore. Also, the new Callie seemed to not worry about money at all. It was as though everything was handed to her and when things got rough or not fun anymore she yelled or fought until the person on the opposing side was beaten into submission.

2. BISEXUALITY. 

Redeeming Quality and A Good Story Line

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Post George scandal and breakup, Callie had a great storyline for a brief time via Hans. Her budding relationship with Erika Hans created a new layer to Callie that irrigated away from the rich intitled self-involved attitude we had come to expect from Callie. Her finding her way through this new world or spectrum of sexuality with her partner was unexpected but perfect. Callie really found herself here and she was very tolerable as a person. This, of course, all changed after Hans left and Callie went back to the old Callie. It makes sense that she reverted as George leaves and then this new love leaves her as well just as she was finding contentment with herself. However much it makes sense, I still don't like what she put Arizona through.

3. Arizona.

I loved their relationship but.....

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I absolutely love Arizona Robbins. Love her. I stan her. I even stanned her relationship with Callie at first. However cute and adorable her life was with Callie it all seemed to crack and fall apart once things were getting too comfortable goodness between the two of them. Like most relationships, they were tested. Things were going great and Arizona and Callie were in that lovely cute love stage where it seems like they can take on anything. Then in almost passing comment, their first real battle would begin. Babies. Arizona didn't want to have children. For good reason that would make sense in a few later episodes.

For starters, her big brother died at a very young age from an unexpected incident that really no one could prevent. Since then she has wanted to be able to help children so that no family would have to experience what her family did. Although that was her goal, in peds you have to be "hardcore" and sometimes you can't save them all. Arizona in her many years she saw a lot of kids she couldn't save and decided that she would not bring a child into her life that had the plausibility that she wouldn't be able to save. Callie being Callie could not understand that and kept pressing the issue which caused this huge rift between the two of them.

Like a miracle, Callie seems to cave just when a new problem surfaces. A tremendous life-changing opportunity for Arizona arrives and Callie is not having it. In attempts to be supportive Callie rips apart the opportunity every step of the way. Making snide comments that she tries to brush off as jokes. They finally arrive at the airport and Arizona has had enough. It makes sense all that fighting caused this toxic rift between the two of them and Callie was not getting what she wanted. How could she? So Arizona called the whole thing off in attempts to have them both succeed. Callie, of course, saw this as Arizona leaving her and poor pitiful Callie hurt again. So on the first night of her alone, she sleeps with Mark again. Causing the baby issue to be null and void when Arizona quickly comes home to get her girl back.

What does Arizona do? She grovels at a slammed shut door for the women who immediately slept with her "best friend" and got pregnant with the baby that she always wanted that Arizona couldn't give her. Arizona is rightfully mad but goes with it in order to keep Callie. After that their relationship is a series of toxic fights and selects a few good moments. They make it by Arizona caving at every fight. This makes it so Arizona loses herself along the way. Not only that but she loses a leg and that completely changes her even further. They make it through it seems. But that toxic part of their relationship is still there underneath.

Until finally once Arizona is finally back of her feet she begins to act out. I am not condoning what she did. Although she did continued to try to push that horrid woman off but the woman kept pressing. Arizona cheated but I believe she cheated because she needed one thing that she could be selfish about. Since in their relationship she never got to be the selfish one. Not with children, not with Africa, not with Mark, not with her own leg really (aside from a few months), and not with Sofia.

After they seem to get over all their issues and come back together after Callie calls it quits and then suddenly decides they should get back together they go to counseling and Callie doesn't take the counseling at all serious. Arizona is the one who really tries. Then once they finally make it through that incredibly dumb task they were assigned CALLIE CALLS IT QUITS RIGHT AFTER ARIZONA TOLD HER HOW MUCH SHE LOVES HER!!!! OH BUT THAT'S NOT ALL!

4. Everything she ever wanted...until it wasn't.

Honestly I think her relationship with Mark was good and weird.

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Callie had everything she could have ever wanted. Her father approved of her man in a sandstorm wife. She had a beautiful daughter. She has almost unlimited funds. She had Mark. She had Arizona. She had Meredith as her best friend. She decided to call it all off. She decided that. She divorced Arizona. She moved on quickly right in front of Arizona. Even going so far as to say I am taking our daughter with me to New York to raise her with my new fantastic pretty Penny. Basically even post their breakup Callie was still calling all the shots and expecting for everything to go her way. Guess what spoiler alert IT STILL DOES GO HER WAY!!!

5. She's Gone But Not Forgotten...

She might be gone but she still is an issue.

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Callie leaves the show after a custody battle with Arizona over her leaving with Sofia to live in New York. In real life- though I do think that there is no way Arizona would have won but I was glad she did win. Since Penny had barely been a part of Sofia's life and shouldn't have had to suddenly be made a mother while winning an unbelievable opportunity to study medicine. That was unfair.

I mean imagine you're a resident who already works past exhaustion, you get an even more strenuous research task/award and when you do come however you have a six-year-old and your very needy woman to deal with. That seems not fun or fair. Also taking Sofia away without much conversation with Arizona was already feeling excluded, not fair. But after winning full custody what does the queen Arizona do? Gives in to Callie and allows Sofia to leave and be raised by Penny and Callie in New York...all the way across the country.

In short, I don't like Callie. She basically throws fits until the people she loves all cave in and go with what she wants. Honestly, she must have had one heck of a rich girl pout growing up since she gets it all all the time. Relationships are a give and take. They are hard. However, one person should not be the one that gives all the time. Sure Callie let Arizona grieve for a while over the loss of her leg but that was expected to get over with soon and when it wasn't Callie made it well known she wasn't happy with it.

You should be allowed to grieve and grow. You should be allowed to have your way some of the time. If your partner can't come to an agreement then it's okay to call it quits. Honestly, I think it would have been better if Callie and Arizona had called it before when they both wanted different things i.e not wanting and wanting a family. They should have ended it then. They were toxic. Cute and adorable but toxic.

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36 Rules Of Life From 'NCIS's' Leroy Jethro Gibbs

Sometimes we all need a smack on the back of the head.
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I have been watching "NCIS" since the show began back in 2003, and season 15 will be airing this September. It is one of the longest running series and for a good reason, even though a lot of your favorite characters die off in the show they somehow still keep it alive. Anyone who has watched an episode or more knows about the infamous Gibbs's rules. Here's the list that we can gather from the many episodes:

Rule 1: "Never let suspects stay together." - revealed in the Season 1 premiere episode, Yankee White (episode).

Rule 2: "Never screw over your partner." - revealed in the Season 4 episode, Blowback (episode). McGee also stated this rule to Ned Dorneget in Need to Know (episode). McGee also mentioned to Abigail Borin in Ships in the Night (episode) that rule number one has been taken twice, showing that he knows that there are two number one rules.

Rule 3: "Always wear gloves at a crime scene." - revealed in "Yankee White."

Rule 4: "Don't believe what you're told. Double check." - again revealed in "Yankee White."

Rule 5: "Never be unreachable." - revealed in the Season 3 episode, Deception (episode) although Gibbs has been known to be intentionally unreachable. The rule was shown in Rule Fifty-One (episode) in the background when Gibbs opens the box.

Rule 6: "The best way to keep a secret? Keep it to yourself. Second best? Tell one other person - if you must. There is no third best." - revealed in the Season 4 episode, Blowback (episode)

Rule 7: "You don't waste good." - revealed in the Season 8 episode, Baltimore (episode).

Rule 8: "Never say you're sorry. It's a sign of weakness." - This rule has been mentioned throughout the series, but it wasn't given a specific number until Flesh and Blood (episode). The rule is also a direct reference to John Wayne's catch phrase in "She Wore A Yellow Ribbon" (John Ford, Director). Wayne said: "Never apologize, mister, it's a sign of weakness." to subordinates in a military situation. DiNozzo notes the connection in Hiatus Part 1 (episode). Mark Harmon's career has paralleled John Wayne's. They both were quarterback of their southern California college football team, both went into acting. (Harmon's father, Tom Harmon, was a Heisman Trophy-winner and actor & announcer as well.) Note: This is continuously told to Tony, Ziva and Tim through a smack to the back of their heads.

Rule 9: "Always be specific when you lie." - revealed in the Season 1 finale episode, Reveille (episode).

Rule 10: "Never take anything for granted." - revealed in the Season 3 episode, Probie (episode) although Gibbs also quotes it as being "Never assume" during the Season 9 episode, Rekindled (episode).

Rule 11: "Never go anywhere without a knife." - revealed in the Season 1 episode, One Shot, One Kill (episode)although it's sometimes quoted as "Never leave home without a knife" or "Always carry a knife."

Rule 12: "Never get personally involved in a case." - revealed in the Season 7 episode, Obsession (episode) and again referenced by the new SECNAV Clayton Jarvis in the Season 9 premiere episode, Nature of the Beast (episode) as the number one rule in Washington politics.

Rule 13: "When the job is done, walk away." - revealed in the Season 6 episode, Semper Fidelis (episode).

Rule 14: "Never date a co-worker." - revealed in the Season 1 episode, Enigma (episode).

Rule 15: "Never, ever involve lawyers." - revealed in "Collateral Damage." Rule 51 is written on the back of the card containing Rule 13 in "Rule Fifty-One."

Rule 16: "Bend the line, don't break it." - revealed in Anonymous was a Woman (episode).

Rule 17: "Always work as a team." - revealed in Leap of Faith (episode).

Rule 18: "If someone thinks they have the upper hand, break it." - revealed in the Season 8 finale episode, Pyramid (episode).

Rule 19: "Never, ever interrupt Gibbs during an interrogation." - revealed in the Season 14 episode, Privileged Information (episode).

Rule 20: "It's better to seek forgiveness than ask permission." - revealed in Silver War (episode).

Rule 21: "Always look under." - revealed in The Artful Dodger (episode)

Rule 22: "Never ever bother Gibbs in interrogation." - revealed in Smoked (episode).

Rule 23: "Never mess with a Marine's coffee... if you want to live."- revealed during "Forced Entry."

Rule 24: "There are two ways to follow someone. First way, they never notice you. Second way, they only notice you." - Jack Knife (episode) and "Rule Fifty-One."

Rule 25: "When you need help, ask." - revealed during Blood Brothers (episode).

Rule 26: "Always watch the watchers." - revealed in "Baltimore."

Rule 27: "If you feel like you are being played, you probably are." - revealed in Nature of the Beast (episode).

Rule 28: "Your case, your lead." - revealed in Bounce (episode) placing Tony as temporarily in charge of the team, and also in Phoenix (episode) with Ducky as leader.

Rule 29: "There is no such thing as coincidence." - revealed in Obsession (episode) although DiNozzo states that Rule 39A is "There is no such thing as a small world" during Canary (episode).

Rule 30: "If it seems like someone is out to get you, they are." - revealed in Borderland (episode).

Rule 31: "Never accept an apology from someone who just sucker punched you." - revealed in Psych Out (episode).

Rule 32: "First things first, hide the women and children." - This rule number was mentioned in Patriot Down (episode) but was not stated until Rule Fifty-One (episode).

Rule 33: "Clean up the mess that you make." - revealed in "Rule Fifty-One" although it's also stated as "Never leave behind loose ends" in Hiatus Part 2 (episode).

Rule 34: "Sometimes you're wrong." - Created by Gibbs in Rule Fifty-One" by writing it on the back of the card containing Rule 13. It is unknown if his coworkers are aware of this rule.

Rule 35: "Always give people space when they get off an elevator." - revealed in Double Back (episode)

Rule 36: "Never trust a woman who doesn't trust her man." - revealed in Devil's Triangle (episode).



While some seem to deal with Gibbs only there are some very great life lessons present. If you haven's started watching "NCIS" I suggest you start soon, it is all on Netflix.

"A slap to the face is an insult - a slap to the back of the head is a wake-up call." Leroy Jethro Gibbs
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'Grey's Anatomy' Taught Me Just How Important Gay Rights Are

This episode opened my eyes and heart.

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Attending a Catholic high school made it very clear in my mind that LGBTQ individuals did not fit in with society. I watched as our principle refused to allow students to invite their same-sex partners to dances. I remember our administration fighting against letting a boy on our dance team because they thought it would ruin the reputation of being a Catholic school. The way they were treated in front of me every day became the way I thought the world should treat them too. But I couldn't have been more wrong.

In season seven, episode 12 of "Grey's Anatomy," Meredith Grey encounters a patient who was trampled by horses after his partner set up a carriage ride to take them to sign their domestic partnership papers. His partner explains to Meredith that he had just wanted the day to be special because straight people get to have the most special day of their lives on their wedding day. They get the flowers, the ceremony, the reception, the gifts. At this point in time, all members of the LGBTQ got was their signature on a piece of paper.

I remember something inside of me being moved at the thought of someone simply being in love and not being able to celebrate it because people thought it was "weird" or "unnatural." I put myself in the reverse situation and thought about how much it would break my heart if society did not accept the fact that I want to marry my wonderful boyfriend some day. I cried during the scene in the show because even though it was acting, I could see just how important these two people were to each other and all of the unnecessary barriers they had to cross just to prove that their love was the same as anyone else's.

Maybe this moment was extremely late in my life to have the realization of how hard it must be for LGBTQ people to find happiness in our society, but I am glad I had that realization at all.

Certain religions crucify the LGBTQ community, saying they will go to hell for sexuality because it is a sin. Personally, I have a hard time believing that God could condemn anyone for showing another human being unconditional love.

It scares me how poisonous our society can be at times. 10 years ago, if you asked me how I felt about people in the LGBTQ community, I would probably (wrongfully) say that they freaked me out. These days, while you won't necessarily see me at a Pride parade, you will see me hyping up and supporting my awesome gay best friend to go after his crush. You will see me taking girls hitting on me as a compliment rather than something weird. You will see me openly supporting gay rights because it is the right things to do, human to human.

The saying "love is love" is so simple, yet so incredibly true.

I can't help how much I love my boyfriend and I would never in a million years expect someone to tell me to stop. Who are we to tell members of the LGBTQ community to stay in some box society and religion have built? We aren't. Love is love and you can never and will never be able to put rules and restrictions on a feeling.

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