Guidelines To Sorority Rushing

When It Comes To Sorority Rushing, Ask Yourself (And Cue Taylor Swift): 'Are you Ready For It?'

A guideline to help you through the process.


I'm from a distant land where Greek life is nothing but a fairy tale you see in movies. As I watched "Sydney White" starring Amanda Bynes going through the process of rushing into her mother's sorority, I thought to myself "Why would anyone put themselves through such a process to be criticized and degraded in such a way where your self-confidence is shattered?"

Apparently, it wasn't enough to scare me from joining the rushing process when I started at UCLA.

My sister was the one who encouraged me to rush. She and I used to rag on sorority girls together but once she started college she joined a sorority. She talked about how much she loved Greek life. For the party? Yes, but also for the friends, the sisterhood, and the people she met throughout the process. Without her house, she wouldn't have the friends she has today.

I had no idea what to expect from recruitment, what to wear, where to go, how long the process was. In all honesty, I was really excited to start the year. After a full week of rigorous rounds of house interviews, I realized that sorority rushing is repetitive formal, informal interviews and a bunch of girl flirting.

Things you should probably need to know before diving head-on into rushing:

1. What to wear

Think comfy but cute. The first day is a solid 8-hour long (or it could be more) process of meeting people. My rushing process was 4-5 days and I was on my feet every day. By the end of the week, I swore to never wear my heels for a solid month.

2. Dress to impress

Whether you're going on a date or job interview, you're going to dress to impress the person you're meeting. It's the same here! Each day is going to be a different theme, so dress to impress your date.

3. Don't go on an empty stomach

The days are long and there's barely time to eat. Don't starve yourself to fit into a dress. Eat your food and go, you're going to be using so much energy. By the end of the day, you're going to feel absolutely exhausted.

4. Be prepared to talk about yourself A LOT

Usually, they're the same questions in every house. The whole point of rushing is to find your house, to find the people you would get along with. Think of Paris Hilton's "My New BFF" show but be yourself.

5. Be prepared to get judged

Yes, they are judging you. As much as they want to deny it, they are judging you but judging is normal. Whether if you're at a job interview, making friends, or doing a presentation, people will judge you. However, in this setting, it's just a little more obvious. If you're uncomfortable with such circumstances then rushing may be a little hard for you mentally. It does require an amount of confidence but the girls at each house do try very hard to not make you feel judged in any way.

6. Have confidence

Let's get real for a sec if I were 18 and rushing, I would feel so freaking ugly compared to all these other girls who were with me. I'm actually really happy that I rushed as a transfer, a little older than everyone else but with a better grasp of who I am. I know what I like and dislike so it was really easy for me to decide which house I would fit well in.

Media portrayal of Greek life is somewhat inaccurate. I can say this because I lived in it for a small period of time. I had prejudgement going into the lifestyle. I ended up leaving with new perspectives and respect for the girls who rushed and for the girl at the houses who work hard to help girls through college.
My last words to you newbies are "Trust the process."

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Nacha Promsatian

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"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

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I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

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Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

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