Guarding Your Heart In Friendships

It's Important To Guard Your Heart In Platonic Relationships, Too

Not just the romantic ones.


When we go to people for relationship advice, some advice that I have received is to "guard my heart." The Bible tells us in Proverbs 4:23, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

Now, this is pretty good relationship advice if you ask me. But I don't think that it needs to pertain to simply just romantic relationships. I think it can be for platonic relationships as well. They say those we spend the most time with are those who have the most influence on us. It is important in those instances to make sure that our hearts are being protected in all ways.

When I first heard "guard your heart" I struggled to understand what that meant.

I have come to realize that I think guarding our hearts is just being aware of what we are allowing into our lives and into our personal little bubbles. If you let a lot of negativity into your life, that's going to reflect from what comes out of your mouth. What you put in, you put out.

If you guard your heart against negative language, inappropriate tv/music, and toxic relationships, then you are more likely to have a more positive and uplifting outlook on things. Matthew 6:21 tells us, "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

Whatever we treasure or are passionate about, that is what our heart is going to be in. We need to make sure those are things that are healthy to us and help us grow as a person.

Likewise, those relationships that we are passionate about our relationships that we need to make sure help encourage us and support us, rather than tearing us down. We need to be careful who we put our time and energy into. Just because you have a history with someone does not mean that you have to keep them in your life, especially if how they are treating you is degrading and rude.

You do NOT have to keep yourself in a toxic friendship just because you have memories together.

If someone is damaging to you, whether that be how they talk to you, themselves or others, or how they act or treat you, you are allowed to move on.

Guard your heart. Protect yourself. The heart is your most important organ. Everything that we do in our lives comes from it. Be gentle with it and make sure you are always keeping it safe.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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