Some people believe having strict parents helps you be more mature. However it’s more than just having good grades, going to high-ranked school, and getting a good job. There’s a whole lot more drama behind the scenes. You're kind of a victim of mental abuse. These are all real struggles that people with strict parents will understand.
1. Your life revolves around your grades. The most pressuring thing to hear is "You know you're family pride, right?"
2. You say “I have to ask my parents first” quite often.
3. You grow up with no phones or internet.
4. Asking to go out with friends is a series of challenges.
5. Going out at night is a No No without asking.
6. When you're actually allowed to go out with friends, it's the happiest day of your life because it rarely happens.
7. You rarely ask for permission because you automatically assume the answer is no.
8. You never dare to let your family see you stand alone talking to an opposite-sex friend, even when you guys are just friends.
9. Having an opposite-sex FRIEND coming over just never happens, ever.
10. You can't pick your hobbies.
11. You basically have no social life: no school events, no party at friend’s house, no going out, no movie night, no sleeping over, etc.
12. Your phone, your diary, and personal property has probably been checked out once.
13. You always have to delete browsing history and text messages.
14. You won’t have personal space unless you go to a boarding school or study abroad.
15. You probably have already blocked all your family members on social media.
16. You're always asked to “hang out” with family, including grandparents or your 5-year-old cousins, even though sometimes you have nothing to talk about.
17. You’re forced to eat certain food at a certain time, no exception.
18. You don't get allowance that often.
19. You're even asked to let them to keep money you get on birthdays or Christmas "safely". If you disagree with giving them the money they will lecture you how much they have to pay for your tuition and to raise you.
20. You can’t just ask for what you want even if it’s your birthday or Christmas or you get a high test grade. You only get stuff based on "basic needs."
21. You often secretly get extremely jealous with other kids and their easy-going parents.
22. There’s no such thing as “speak your mind.”
23. You constantly have to lie about stuff to cope with life at home.
24. They will memorize your mistakes for life and keep referencing them.
25. They keep recalling their miserable childhood to imply you are very lucky now and tell you how hard they've been working for you.
26. You know that they won’t stop controlling or judging on your life choice: education, friends, lovers, jobs, fashion style, etc no matter how old you are.
27. Dyed hair, body piercings, tattoos are never ever mentioned.
28. However, other people will never understand your life at home and think you’re just exaggerating things.
29. Your friends call you "mom" because you're strict and organized, but they don’t know it's because you’ve been living in that condition for years.
30. You wonder whether age 20 or 30 is the appropriate age to share with them you’re dating someone.
31. Sometimes you feel like it’s THEIR life, not your life, from the very beginning; you can never have what you want.
32. You wonder when you can be good enough to them.
33. Either you have to learn how to accept things (or learn how to be rebellious, LOL) because nothing will ever change.
34. But overall you know it’s a love-hate relationship. Even though you hate them to death, you can't appreciate anyone more than your parents for everything they've sacrificed for you.
