My Heart Is Heavy For The Missing Loved Ones This Holiday Season

My Heart Is Heavy For The Missing Loved Ones This Holiday Season

The holidays can be tough alone, missing certain loved ones can be another battle to face.

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Heartache is heavy.

It comes spontaneously. You never seem to know how to prepare yourself. One can set up barriers and shields to protect themselves beforehand to prevent any kind of pain. But regardless of how strong you are, the aftermath can affect you in one form or another.

A certain kind of heartache everyone experiences in the duration of their life is a loss. Loss of a friend, family member, or someone of great significance in your life. Everyone navigates different ways to go about finding healing and peace, but there are many times that there is not a simple solution. I'm not going to sugar coat it, it's not easy. Sometimes the pain feels so heavy on your shoulders that you don't always know what to do.

I wish I could give a singular piece of advice that would help heal and take away the pain. But what I can do to try to comfort is to remind you that they loved you so greatly. I am sure they held onto you the same way you held onto them. A love like that will never fade away and you will always have that held in your heart, along with all the memories. If you go through your days with little things that remind you of them, know that's them signaling to you that they are still around. It's the little things that you will always be able to hold onto, that will never go away.

Another important piece of advice is to let yourself go through the emotions. Allow yourself to grieve in whatever way grants you the most peace. We all grieve in different ways and through different amounts of time. Don't suppress any feelings. I cannot stress that enough. Suppressing my feelings and not allowing myself to go through all the waves of emotions made it a lot harder for me to grieve. Allow yourself to feel everything, and then try little by little each day to recoup yourself. Even if it's making your bed and working out as your main objectives of the day, having goals like that for each day will help move forward and take care of yourself. It's very easy to lose yourself experiencing loss, continue to still make yourself a priority especially during the seasons.

Commemorate their life and celebrate it. Some ways to do this is doing little things in their honor, whether it be wearing their favorite sweater or framing a picture of the two of you. Keeping a little piece of them with you throughout the day will give you a certain kind of peace that although we may not see it, they are always around. Spread the love you receive and love dearly the people you have in your circle. Every relationship holds value, and let them know they hold value to you.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.
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The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.

Sincerely,

the loving granddaughters

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45 Songs To Add To Your Memorial Day Playlist

Songs to truly remember what the holiday is for.

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I come from a family that would always go to the lake for Memorial Day and grill with friends and family. However, we always flew our flag and remembered why we celebrate Memorial Day. Both my granddads fought back when you didn't have a choice, back when young men died to protect this great country. To this day there are brave men and women dying to protect this great country and for you to be able to grill with your family. Here are 45 songs to add to your playlist.

1. ‘Letters from Home’ by John Michael Montgomery 

2. ‘Where Were You (When the World Stopped Turning)’ by Alan Jackson

3. ‘God Bless The USA’ by Lee Greenwood

4. ‘In Color’ by Jamey Johnson

5. ‘Something to Be Proud Of’ by Montgomery Gentry

6. ‘Old Army Hat’ by Billy Ray Cyrus

7. ‘One Hell Of An Amen’ by Brantley Gilbert

8. ‘Ragged Old Flag’ by Johnny Cash

9. ‘American Soldier’ by Toby Keith 

10. ‘God Bless America’ by Martina McBride 

11. ‘Some Gave All’ by Billy Ray Cyrus

12. ‘8th of November’ by Big & Rich

13. ‘Call A Marine’ by Toby Keith 

14. ‘Courtesy Of The Red, White, And Blue’ by Toby Keith 

15. ‘Song of the Patriot’ by Johnny Cash

16. ‘I Just Cane Back (From A War)’ by Darryl Worley

17. ‘I Stand For The Flag’ by Wes Cook Band

18. ‘Where The Stars And Stripes And The Eagle Fly’ by Aaron Tippin

19. ‘For You’ by Keith Urban

20. ‘Blood Brothers’ by Luke Bryan

21. ‘It’s America’ by Rodney Atkins

22. ‘Fallen Soldier’ by Nathan Fair

23. ‘Brothers’ by Dean Brody

24. ‘If I Don’t Make It Back’ by Tracy Lawrence

25. ‘Semper Fi’ by Trace Adkins

26. ‘Only in America’ by Brooks & Dunn

27. ‘Ships That Don’t Come In’ by Joe Diffie

28. ‘Have You Forgotten?’ By Darryl Worley

29. ‘Heroes Come from Small Towns’ by Rockie Lynne

30. ‘Arlington’ by Trace Adkins

31. ‘Riding With Private Malone’ by David Ball

32. ‘POW 369’ by Darryl Worley

33. ‘Red White & Blue’ by Lynyrd Skynyrd 

34. ‘We Fought Hard’ by Billy Ray Cyrus 

35. ‘A Soldier’s Memoir (PTSD Song)’ by Joe Bachman

36. ‘Boy in a Uniform’ by Rockie Lynne

37. ‘Nineteen’ by Billy Ray Cyrus

38. ‘This Ain’t No Rag, It’s A Flag’ by Charlie Daniels Band

39. ‘America Will Survive’ by Hank Williams, Jr.

40. ‘Til The Last Shot’s Fired’ by Trace Adkins

41. ‘If You’re Reading This’ by Tim McGraw 

42. ‘Survivor Guilt’ by Rise Against

43. ‘Hero Of War’ by Rise Against 

44. ‘Ballad of Balad’ by Toby Keith

45. ‘I Want You to Live’ by George Canyon


This year as you are gathering around the table about to chow down on a burger or hotdog remember the ones who have given the ultimate sacrifice to allow you the freedom to have a great time. Happy Memorial Day!

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