What Does Giving Someone Attention Mean?
Start writing a post
Swoon

Stop Getting Your Hopes Up When You 'Think' Someone Likes You, You're Breaking Your Own Heart

At least wait until they make a move.

36
Stop Getting Your Hopes Up When You 'Think' Someone Likes You, You're Breaking Your Own Heart

I believe I can speak for most girls when I say we tend to overthink. Not only do we think about the worst possible outcome of a situation, but we also tend to get our hopes up about a guy we like who shows us even the slightest bit of attention.

Time after time, we say that we're not going to get our hopes up or even think about the boy, but we wind up daydreaming about all the cute dates we'd go on and plan out our perfect wedding in our heads.

We do all this thinking and we get our hopes up, just for the guy to ghost us or for us not to get a shot with him in the first place. We always blame the guys for doing this to us, but we never realize that it's our own faults.

We start thinking and hoping when a guy doesn't even mean to give off those signals. Just think about it: most of the heartbreak we go through is because we get our own hopes up. We get in our own heads, turning meaningless conversations into "he was definitely flirting with me" and putting "pieces" (that don't even exist) together to come up with the conclusion that they like us.

I can't even count the number of times that I've done that to myself when the guy wasn't even interested in me. A couple of times, the guy was interested in my friend instead.

I'm sick and tired of feeling the way I do when I get my hopes up and crushed. I'm tired of feeling and looking stupid. It's heartache that shouldn't even happen.

Girls, if you know the way I feel, I suggest that we just ignore those "signs" and meaningless flirting until the guy ACTUALLY makes a move. Stop putting non-existent pieces together and getting hurt when the guy winds up not liking you back. It's in our own hands to protect our hearts.

Follow Swoon on Instagram.

Report this Content
the beatles
Wikipedia Commons

For as long as I can remember, I have been listening to The Beatles. Every year, my mom would appropriately blast “Birthday” on anyone’s birthday. I knew all of the words to “Back In The U.S.S.R” by the time I was 5 (Even though I had no idea what or where the U.S.S.R was). I grew up with John, Paul, George, and Ringo instead Justin, JC, Joey, Chris and Lance (I had to google N*SYNC to remember their names). The highlight of my short life was Paul McCartney in concert twice. I’m not someone to “fangirl” but those days I fangirled hard. The music of The Beatles has gotten me through everything. Their songs have brought me more joy, peace, and comfort. I can listen to them in any situation and find what I need. Here are the best lyrics from The Beatles for every and any occasion.

Keep Reading...Show less
Being Invisible The Best Super Power

The best superpower ever? Being invisible of course. Imagine just being able to go from seen to unseen on a dime. Who wouldn't want to have the opportunity to be invisible? Superman and Batman have nothing on being invisible with their superhero abilities. Here are some things that you could do while being invisible, because being invisible can benefit your social life too.

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

19 Lessons I'll Never Forget from Growing Up In a Small Town

There have been many lessons learned.

48081
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee
nappy.co

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

120897
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments