In the notorious movie "Gone Girl," central protagonist Nick Dunne proclaims at the start of the movie:

“When I think of my wife, I always think of the back of her head. I picture cracking her lovely skull, unspooling her brain, trying to get answers. The primal questions of a marriage: What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What have we done to each other? What will we do?”

Though this movie is centered around a psychological thriller, it serves as a double entendre towards the rest of the world in a different light. The darkness embodied in this movie, serves an ironically different purpose -- and that purpose is to bring awareness to a lot of simplistic responsibilities we, as individuals, fail to keep up with daily.

We live in a society warped by complexity; whether it’s the common middle-class mom rushing to work to make a living for her children, the psychology major having an anxiety attack before her first MCAT exam or the Uber driver rushing through 5 p.m. rush hour traffic trying to get home for dinner.

In the midst of our daily existential crisis’, there is a never a time where we ask. The ongoing stress and anxiety fuels our minds to operate, while simultaneously destroying our state of mind. We ponder, we overthink, we cry ourselves to sleep with thoughts. We do this primarily because we fear of the reactions of others. Expressing our vulnerabilities to others is inevitable, but it’s the infinite state of mental fear of reaction that stops us from sharing our personal thoughts and asking others.

I live for the day a stranger can ask me, amidst a train ride to work, “What are you thinking?”

I praise the brave who are able to withhold this type of conversation, for it requires a great amount of grit.

What is unknown to most: the initial step is the hardest. To any situation, it will always require the greatest deal of effort and strength. But that question will lead to a “How are you feeling?” and thus spark even more of a connection and makes the conversation easier to follow. We spread love, positivity and care through this medium. We should do this always.

Even more so, it’s comedic relief that turns conversations into more powerful mediums for recovery. It’s easy to see other people make fun of themselves, but when you have to - Oh boy!

It seems scary at first, but before you know it, your conversation about your struggle in a Physics class will turn into a broadband spectrum of jokes.

This will pose the comedic question; “What have we done with each other?” to bring a sense of appeasement.

But why does it matter?

The best leaders aren’t the individuals at the top 1 percent there, and to be able to be happy creating change, even if it means inciting change in one person. Quality over quantity prevails, but leadership is defined directly through being successfully vulnerable, asking questions, inciting conversation and fabricating relationships with people you’d never expect to before.

Before you know it, that average mom will be an international entrepreneur selling spices. More so, that psychology major will be the number 1 neurosurgeon in the world. And that Uber driver will one day own Uber one day.

They all asked the question: “What will we do?”