Sorry Ladies, But Fuckboys Aren't Fuckboys Until You Fuck Them | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Swoon

Sorry Ladies, But Fuckboys Aren't Fuckboys Until You Fuck Them

They get the name for a reason--you made the decision to sleep with him.

651
Sorry Ladies, But Fuckboys Aren't Fuckboys Until You Fuck Them
Jonas Svidras

There's no escape. They reel us in with their smiles and charm us with their good looks. One by one, we become their victims. F***boys. They're everywhere.

But, are they really the root of all our problems?

I know, I know, you probably think I'm crazy. Before you question who's side I'm on, let me explain myself. First of all, I'm not endorsing this type of behavior. I'm just trying to solve this moral dilemma you've probably faced at some point during your life. So, let's get to the bottom of this together.

It all began with this romanticized idea of the "Bad Boy". You know, the tall, handsome stranger who sweeps you off your feet. Soon you realize he has a dark past and you strive to change his ways. Eventually, the two of you drive off into the sunset and live happily ever after.

It's time for a wake-up call. Real life is much different than the movies.

This idea of the "Bad Boy" blossomed into the 21st-century "F**kboy." Both of these ideas share a similar concept: the toxic attraction between a good girl and a complicated bad boy.

Let's look at the typical college hookup. Girl meets boy; boy invites girl over and you can guess what happens next. Throughout the evening, they share a few drinks during the infamous "Netflix and Chill" session, or maybe they get straight to business.

If she's sober enough to drive, the evening ends with a series of awkward goodbyes. Or even worse, she's too drunk and she sleeps over. Another chance for him to strike. As they part ways, he says, "I had a great time. Let's do this again soon." And that's the last time she hears from him.

When she finally realizes what's happened, time passes. Days go by. Weeks. Months. She still hasn't heard from him. She nervously questions whether she should break the silence and send him a message. Perhaps see how he's doing or ask how his day was.

She cracks under the pressure and he replies back in what seems like forever. She's relieved to know that he remembers her, but is crushed to find out he just wants to be "friends."

It's at that moment that she writes him off as a "F**kboy." After a long cry session, she tells her friends about their encounter. Shortly after, she tries to convince herself that she's over him. But really, she's staying at home thinking about all the things she could have done differently.

Sound familiar? If this has happened to you before, you eventually reach the point where you ask yourself, "How could I be so stupid?"

Let's rewind. All of the warning signs were there. You knew where this was going. Clearly, he's not your boyfriend.

At the end of the day, it's easier to put the blame on him, rather than yourself. Maybe it was his deep voice, his beautiful eyes, or the way he looked at you. Or maybe you simply lost control in the moment.

Don't dwell on the past. Mistakes happen. But, it wasn't just a mistake made by one person. Be accountable for your actions.

Ladies, take "F**kboys" for what they are--a chance to let loose and escape reality. Let's face it, no matter hard you try, you can't change their ways. On the up-side, they'll make you appreciate a true gentleman even more.

Report this Content
Entertainment

Every Girl Needs To Listen To 'She Used To Be Mine' By Sara Bareilles

These powerful lyrics remind us how much good is inside each of us and that sometimes we are too blinded by our imperfections to see the other side of the coin, to see all of that good.

164201
Every Girl Needs To Listen To 'She Used To Be Mine' By Sara Bareilles

The song was sent to me late in the middle of the night. I was still awake enough to plug in my headphones and listen to it immediately. I always did this when my best friend sent me songs, never wasting a moment. She had sent a message with this one too, telling me it reminded her so much of both of us and what we have each been through in the past couple of months.

Keep Reading...Show less
Zodiac wheel with signs and symbols surrounding a central sun against a starry sky.

What's your sign? It's one of the first questions some of us are asked when approached by someone in a bar, at a party or even when having lunch with some of our friends. Astrology, for centuries, has been one of the largest phenomenons out there. There's a reason why many magazines and newspapers have a horoscope page, and there's also a reason why almost every bookstore or library has a section dedicated completely to astrology. Many of us could just be curious about why some of us act differently than others and whom we will get along with best, and others may just want to see if their sign does, in fact, match their personality.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

20 Song Lyrics To Put A Spring Into Your Instagram Captions

"On an island in the sun, We'll be playing and having fun"

50617
Person in front of neon musical instruments; glowing red and white lights.
Photo by Spencer Imbrock on Unsplash

Whenever I post a picture to Instagram, it takes me so long to come up with a caption. I want to be funny, clever, cute and direct all at the same time. It can be frustrating! So I just look for some online. I really like to find a song lyric that goes with my picture, I just feel like it gives the picture a certain vibe.

Here's a list of song lyrics that can go with any picture you want to post!

Keep Reading...Show less
Chalk drawing of scales weighing "good" and "bad" on a blackboard.
WP content

Being a good person does not depend on your religion or status in life, your race or skin color, political views or culture. It depends on how good you treat others.

We are all born to do something great. Whether that be to grow up and become a doctor and save the lives of thousands of people, run a marathon, win the Noble Peace Prize, or be the greatest mother or father for your own future children one day. Regardless, we are all born with a purpose. But in between birth and death lies a path that life paves for us; a path that we must fill with something that gives our lives meaning.

Keep Reading...Show less
Health and Wellness

10 Hygiene Tips For All College Athletes

College athletes, it's time we talk about sports hygiene.

45184
Woman doing pull-ups on bars with sun shining behind her.

I got a request to talk about college athletes hygiene so here it is.

College athletes, I get it, you are busy! From class, to morning workouts, to study table, to practice, and more. But that does not excuse the fact that your hygiene comes first! Here are some tips when it comes to taking care of your self.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments