“We all have those days.” “You just gotta push through it.” “Be strong” “Don’t let it get to you” “Calm down” all of these things are great things to be reminded of when going through a difficult time, but it isn’t all that easy. People tell you time and time again to not let what you’re going through make you so upset. Which is true, but it’s easier said than done. I know you are trying your best to have a different mentality about things and to trust in God and that’s what you should do. But I am here to tell you that you are not alone. This is the most important thing to remember. You have me, you have your family, you have friends, and most importantly you have God.

I hate to see you so down on yourself. I know it’s not easy to constantly remind yourself that it will get better but it will. I know it will. I can guarantee it will. I have gone through similar things and have had these feelings as well. The stage of your life you are in now is not permanent. One day, you are going to look back at this pain you have and realize what you have learned from it. One day you are going to be married and have a family and your daughter is going to be going through the same thing you are right now and have the same feelings you have. You are going to be able to relate to her. She won’t be able to say, “You just don’t understand!” and give you an eye roll because you do understand. You have been there. You are going to be more empathetic to what others are going through because of the feelings you have now. Because of the mentality you have now.

I know it gets exhausting having to constantly tell yourself all those positive things. I know there might be an internal sadness or loneliness you feel, but it will go away. You may not think that saying little prayers throughout the day, or reminding yourself of the positive things in your life will help with the internal feelings you have, but it will. Things aren’t going to get better right away. It’s going to take some time. It’s like working out. If you are trying to feel healthier and take care of your physical features by working out at the gym three times a week, you are not going to see results after one week. You are not going to feel healthier after one week. It’s going to take some time to realize you are getting healthier and to see the difference in your physical appearance. You will have to be consistent with your workouts and workout frequently to continue to feel and see the changes. Or when you have to go to physical therapy to recover from a surgery. You aren’t going to get better right away. It takes a while and several physical therapy appointments to fully recover physically. The same goes for your situation. If something has really hurt you mentally and emotionally, you need to repair your mentality. You need work on recovering from the emotional brokenness you feel. Just like working out, or going to physical therapy, it’s going to take some time. You are going to have to consistently and frequently exercise your thoughts in a positive way. Whether that be talking to someone, seeking help from a professional, saying little prayers throughout your day, positive thoughts, music, or all of the above. Whatever you need to do to recover from what you are going through. Even though that internal sadness/loneliness may feel like it’s not going away, it will. You may not feel the changes right away and it may be extremely frustrating and exhausting to constantly try to change your mentality about things, or to repeat your situation to several people. But I know with all the hard work you do mentally, that internal feeling will eventually go away, even if you don’t feel like it’s getting better.

One day you will feel the changes and you will see them in yourself. You will be happier and you will smile about this situation because of the person it molded you into. You wouldn’t ignore a physical injury, so why ignore a mental one? Why ignore the negative feelings you are having? Don’t let people tell you that you are being overemotional or dramatic. You aren’t. You are trying to recover from the brokenness you feel and you are trying to fix your broken heart. Don’t let others make you feel like your feelings are not significant. Little do you know, God is showing you how strong you are by helping you out of this brokenness. He is showing you that nothing can defeat you. You have the power and strength to get through this. If you are having a harder time than you thought you would, just tell yourself these simple things: You are important. You are strong, you are beautiful, you are worthy, you are cherished, you are loved, and you are never alone because you have God (and me and millions of others who love you).