You may have received a text here and there from an old flame or two, but rarely from an old best friend. Why? Because there was probably a good reason you two don't talk anymore. In my experience, a falling out usually occurs because that person just isn't good for you, and you have to get rid of toxic people. A detox is good, even if you loved that person.
Recently, I have had to deal with an unexpected message popping up in my DMs. At first, I couldn't believe that this person was texting me, mostly because I didn't want to believe it. This person had been so toxic to me, but, of course, you never want to admit that to yourself until you have to. This person did help me through a lot and we have had very good times. It was just one of those things where the bad outweighed the good by a ton.
However, I was intrigued; this person "can't remember why we fell out." I did, but I wanted to see where this was going. Obviously, she wanted to be friends again, and I'm not the type of person to completely shut someone out if they've learned the error of their ways. So I went along with it and played nice. Bad idea.
Everything seemed fine and happy, until one day I made the mistake of posting something on my social media that invited questioning. This person asked me what was wrong that I posted that, and since I was already upset, I was not in the mood to let her in on the things going on in my life at the moment. I felt that if I had, she would ruin me again. I tried to politely tell her that I was glad she wanted to be friends, but I was not ready to fully trust her again. She took it the way she took it, which was bad, and made me realize that she had not changed, therefore is not worth rekindling a friendship over.
My point is, most friendships end for good reason. Maybe there are some circumstances that you feel you may have over exaggerated and feel bad for cutting that person off. However, there is always a good reason for cutting off toxic people. Don't let yourself be tricked into a relationship that hurts you for their benefit. Find people that you never even think about wanting to leave.
