Every Person Needs A Role Model And It May Be You

Every Person Needs A Role Model And It May Be You

I want to be honest with people in every single aspect of my life because it means I can recah more people, but it also means I may save one person's life...like Demi did for me.

Demi Lovato is and has been a huge role model for me. When she opened up about being bullied, substance abuse, and other personal things, I was shocked. I felt sad and let down. But as she began speaking more about it, I saw that she was so much like me it was crazy.

I hadn't looked at her as a human being, but rather only as an icon or a celebrity. When she opened up about her issues, I felt so much more connected with her. Her songs got me through some of the hardest times of my life. There was a bond between us because we both shared so much pain.

We also share the same ideology. We want to help people by spreading our dark pasts, instead of hiding it. We strive to be honest and loyal, but also have our bad girl sides. These parts of us are what make us more relatable and human because we don't hide anything.

In deciding to share our stories, we both work towards saving lives. I believe in passing hope and strength down. Demi gave me strength and courage to be as great as a role model to others, as she was to me. I make mistakes, but I also talk about them to help others know they aren't alone in their battles. It's an odd feeling putting your life out there so others can see you, all of you, for al that you are. It's odd baring my soul to complete strangers. It's odd being so open and honest over a computer, but so closed off in my real life.

You have to have a balance. In my personal life, I don't talk about my pain a lot, but on Odyssey I strive to share my message by ONLY talking about my dark past. The balance comes from anonymity. Here I'm just some girl who write articles, but in real life I'm just some girl who had a rough past.

This platform lets me reach people through my shyness and through my past tellings.I want to be a role model to others, though. Not just through this screen. I want to be even more like Demi and talk about my struggles and how I overcame them publicly. And I have started that journey. I performed for The Diversity Monologues for school where I shared about my past relationship and my current one. I tell people, without shame or hesitation, that I date an "older" man. I want to be honest with people in every single aspect of my life because it means I can recah more people, but it also means I may save one person's life...like Demi did for me.

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Sorry Not Sorry, My Parents Paid For My Coachella Trip

No haters are going to bring me down.

With Coachella officially over, lives can go back to normal and we can all relive Beyonce’s performance online for years to come. Or, if you were like me and actually there, you can replay the experience in your mind for the rest of your life, holding dear to the memories of an epic weekend and a cultural experience like no other on the planet.

And I want to be clear about the Beyonce show: it really was that good.

But with any big event beloved by many, there will always be the haters on the other side. The #nochella’s, the haters of all things ‘Chella fashion. And let me just say this, the flower headbands aren’t cultural appropriation, they’re simply items of clothing used to express the stylistic tendency of a fashion-forward event.

Because yes, the music, and sure, the art, but so much of what Coachella is, really, is about the fashion and what you and your friends are wearing. It's supposed to be fun, not political! Anyway, back to the main point of this.

One of the biggest things people love to hate on about Coachella is the fact that many of the attendees have their tickets bought for them by their parents.

Sorry? It’s not my fault that my parents have enough money to buy their daughter and her friends the gift of going to one of the most amazing melting pots of all things weird and beautiful. It’s not my fault about your life, and it’s none of your business about mine.

All my life, I’ve dealt with people commenting on me, mostly liking, but there are always a few that seem upset about the way I live my life.

One time, I was riding my dolphin out in Turks and Cacaos, (“riding” is the act of holding onto their fin as they swim and you sort of glide next to them. It’s a beautiful, transformative experience between human and animal and I really think, when I looked in my dolphin’s eye, that we made a connection that will last forever) and someone I knew threw shade my way for getting to do it.

Don’t make me be the bad guy.

I felt shame for years after my 16th birthday, where my parents got me an Escalade. People at school made fun of me (especially after I drove into a ditch...oops!) and said I didn’t deserve the things I got in life.

I can think of a lot of people who probably don't deserve the things in life that they get, but you don't hear me hating on them (that's why we vote, people). Well, I’m sick of being made to feel guilty about the luxuries I’m given, because they’ve made me who I am, and I love me.

I’m a good person.

I’m not going to let the Coachella haters bring me down anymore. Did my parents buy my ticket and VIP housing? Yes. Am I sorry about that? Absolutely not.

Sorry, not sorry!

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Death Is Inevitable, So Live Every Moment To The Fullest

Just because our mortal lights will be snuffed out doesn't mean we shouldn't light the match.

I saw the Rutgers production of "Der Mond" recently and I find it's sticking with me. Not particularly because of the production itself (although it was amazing and everyone did a great job) but more so because of it's message; no matter what we do, whether we live a sublime or squalid life, we all die. While obvious, this statement is astoundingly profound. It brings attention to the uncomfortable fact that we are mortals, that our planet will not be here forever. It can turn on that grim mental tape recorder that whispers in your ear, why are you still trying? Nothing matters.

But yet, here we are toiling away at our coursework, at our jobs, building friendships and relationships and networking. For some reason, we still try. It's amazing actually. People could slough off all responsibilities and spend time doing whatever they please because, in the end, everyone dies anyway right? But we don't. Why is that?

I do not claim to be a philosopher or any other title that would give me the jurisdiction to make such conclusions about why we humans continue to strive and try and work and dream. Truthfully, all this feels beyond my ken. But, I can offer is what I've noticed during my 20 years on this planet.

In my opinion, life doesn't matter. Moments do. Those little moments when you make a friend smile or get an A (or a passing grade because let's be real, passing feels good too) on an exam you studied so hard for or you win an athletic event or you play your heart out for a performance or you go to a concert with your friends or you kiss your significant other or you just take a walk and stare at a really beautiful tree. And even seemingly bad things can be moments too. Failing is an opportunity for growth and losing is an opportunity to reevaluate and create a new strategy.

So yes, no matter what we do, we will all die one day. But just because our mortal lights will be snuffed out, should not stop us from lighting the match. Do we refuse to light a Christmas tree (or insert whatever religious/spiritual thing you do) because we eventually have to take it down? No. Each moment is a spark waiting to set us ablaze. We just have to open our eyes and see it and ready our wicks to catch it.

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