Don't Skip the steps to success

Life Is Like Calculus, You Can't Skip The Fundamental Steps

Calculus is hard. Life is hard.


You know what is hard? Calculus. It involves numbers, symbols, letters, strategies and formulas. You can't learn it overnight and I assure you if you try the night before an exam it won't end up being a very good day for you. Calculus takes time, commitment, attention, and a little bit of spark for that "ah ha" moment to ring in your head. Once you have it down, you feel confident and all the new challenges that come along with problems and solutions just makes sense and they become easier to work out because you took the steps to actually understand it. You can't learn multiplication and division without addition and subtraction. You just can't. You can't skip those fundamental steps and still learn what it is that you are trying to accomplish.

That is why we are missing the big picture. Calculus is hard, but so is life. So, if we can't skip steps in math then how does it make sense to skip steps which are critical for our wellbeing. We forget to sleep a normal amount, eat healthy, drink water, and occasionally to just stop and breathe. Then we spend 8-12 hours a day working or worrying and exhausting our bodies until we get sick. It is because we skipped the steps.

Don't get me wrong, I am notorious for overloading my workload. For anyone who knows me, I love to stay busy and crave the adrenaline rush from a deadline. I am blessed to do what I love all day every day from my job to my educational career and that is rare, especially for someone my age. So, I take full advantage and say yes to every opportunity, right? I am supposed to always keep myself busy so that I get everything done right? Sleep isn't that important right? A year ago, I would have agreed with all those statements but today I sit before this laptop and can only think, "what the heck is wrong with me".

See when you are in the zone, you never want to get out, and you avoid all the signals that you are passing by. It is like speeding down a freeway going 300 mph and you can't pay attention to anything else around you, so you avoid all the "Danger Ahead" signs which are literally spelled out in front of you. We pass by the signs because we think that they will slow us down but in reality, they will help us avoid the destruction we are setting ourselves up for.

I have been so in tune with my work that I will go days without eating, without drinking anything, without sleeping, and I won't even realize until I am passed out on my computer and wake up to my stomach summoning me. We have all done it before. Maybe not to the extent I have let myself get to, but everyone has at some point pushed themselves to exhaustion that they try to pick up the pieces when it is too late.

Gaining weight is the best example where people will complain while continuing to put junk into their bodies until they freak out and go on a diet and over exercise since they didn't balance it out all along. We go from one extreme to the other and that is when our body is in shock and rejects the help we are giving it.

It is like calculus. When you mess up on one of the steps you can't just work around it. You have to start from the beginning and work your way up to your final solution. Only then will you get the best results and learn not to skip the fundamental steps.

Popular Right Now

To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.

Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

From an outside perspective, suicidal thoughts are rarely looked into deeper than the surface level. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is that people live in between those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead.

You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

Cover Image Credit: BengaliClicker

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

Sorry Guys, Girls Actually Want Attention From Other Girls

Who else knows fashion, beauty, style, or looks better than other females themselves?


Men are ya know, "great." We love 'em (somedays). Some girls cry over men, run their lives around men, and make life choices because of men.

But, why should we try to impress men? Men don't understand the time it takes to "beat our face" with makeup. Men don't understand the soreness our arms experienced to get these perfect curls. Some men don't understand how excited we are to score big in the Urban Outfitters clearance section.

Some ladies live by "beauty is pain." But sorry guys, they are not here to impress you.

Why would some ladies spend all the time, effort, and money for men, when some men can't distinguish mascara from lipgloss.

Women are trying to impress other women.

You ever get a compliment from a fellow female and they're like, "Girl, yes girl. The outfit, the hair, YES." Ladies understand and appreciate our efforts.

Do you think what ladies post on social media is to get men pouring in their DMs? No.

We are sharing pictures to inspire and create a group of women to be creative and stylish themselves. Us ladies are trying to build an empire of strong women, and we will not spend time just to look good for men.

Related Content

Facebook Comments