Dear You,
If you're constantly trying to find ways of plotting women against each other, shame on you! There is no reason why you should be allowing other women to fight with other women. As women, we need to come together now more than ever. Especially since the whole change in our administration. By plotting women against each other, it just does nothing but defeating the purpose of feminism and other things that should allow all women to come together.
Now don't get it twisted, this is not me saying that ALL men suck. It just simply means that by categorizing certain women in a box that they don't belong in, it just simply means that there is no room for improvement or growth. Without growth, we can't spread our ideas and uniqueness for anything. There is absolutely nothing worse than being compared to someone who you know that you will never look like in a million years. As women, we always constantly feel that we are being put against each other on a regular basis for everything. But looks happen to feel the worst. Now if we were all built to look and act the same way, how boring would that be. It used to bother me that I used to be compared to other girls simply because I was skinny. Eventually, I got over that hump, and started to improve with the art of loving me for ME! Even with that aside, it also made me realize that by looking a certain way I would be looking that way for the wrong reasons. My self-esteem would not be the same, and I would always feel that I would be out trying to impress other people rather than myself. I would never feel an ounce of happiness again. Especially when it comes to guys.
Certain guys are always out there trying to make moves on a certain type of women simply because they want to make her feel good about her appearance. As you get older though, it is less about the looks and more on who the person actually is. REAL men appreciate those features, little boys go for looks. Only because looks are the first thing that catches their eye. If certain guys are degrading you simply because you don't look like an 'Instagram model', he's not a man. If he's telling you that you should look a certain way to gain something, clearly he's telling you that because he has nothing to gain. Boys and even some men who show this kind of behavior are simply insecure and lost in their own sense. By continuing to understand this, you'll feel better more about your appearance than ever. Not to mention that there are billions and billions of people in this world who would love you for you anyway. Not even just men, women are seen doing this too. Why? All back to the statement I'm trying to make.
So realize that by comparing other women to one another, realize that you're not just hurting yourself, but you're hurting them. I will never feel bad about how I look again. Unless I'm wearing the world's ugliest shirt, I will never feel ashamed to be what I look like ever again! NEVER! So do yourself a favor and cut all that out!
Sincerely Me
