Sometimes, shutting the internet off is one of the best things you can do for yourself. By not worrying about what others are up to all the time, it allows yourself to get the peace that you deserve. One thing that can distract us from everyday life is by always thinking that we can receive happiness by what we see others doing online.
That certainly made me realize what is truly important. By not worrying about what others think in each given time, it certainly has put me in a better place. By not being as active online as I used to be, it has allowed my mindset to be clearer rather than clouded.
From last year going into this year, one thing that certainly took the life out of me was the fact that I was constantly comparing myself to certain people online. Whether it was for looks or just a plain reaction. Last year I went only two weeks without social media. Realizing how truly pathetic this was, it allowed me to seek out something better. Rather than just moping around, by doing something about the issue, I was able to overcome a lot.
The first step was getting out of the funk that I was in. Last year, there were certain people that I was around that I would often be comparing myself to a lot. I felt that I did not 'fit in' or 'have the right stuff' in order to be with a group like that. Financially I was silently struggling but somehow getting through what I was getting through. By putting everything together, I had it all wrong. It is not about the things that you have that make people like you.
Surrounding yourself with greatness and integrity makes people grow closer to you. I was not feeling enough because I felt that I had lacked so much. I felt that by the certain things that I had lacked, it put me in the worst state of mind that I was ever in. I was comparing myself in so many ways, that I had completely lost who I was.
I wasn't happy and on top of that, I felt that I was making certain decisions based on how I would be looked at by other people. I missed one of the most important things in my life because I was so worried about how it would impact me in a certain way, for the other person. I will never forgive myself for this as it did nothing but put me in a position that I never thought that I would be in. I was not fully focused, and there were still certain things that were running through my head.
My mind was taken over by thoughts that should not have been there in the first place. How much of a waste of time was it? The biggest waste of time possible. I was not only disappointed in myself, but I was mostly disappointed with what the outcome was.
Never again would I let myself make the wrong decisions for the wrong reasons. Unfortunately, by the start of this year, I had to cut many ties. I realized that instead of overthinking certain situations, I said to hell with it and I took matters into my own hands. By surrounding myself with people that actually looked out for me instead of just talking about it, my state of mind was put in a much better position. Shutting myself off from the online world was one of the first steps that I needed to take. At the end of the day, there are only a couple of reason why certain people stay online.
One of them is because they just enjoy the entertainment. But let's face it we ALL do. But more importantly, it is because we just simply want a reaction out of other people. Instead of searching for that reaction from others, we should start looking for ways to impress ourselves.
Trust me, you'll find happiness the best way by doing such. Would you be up for the challenge? Try it for at least a month if not longer. See how much longer you can go without being on social media as often. Stop searching for all the answers online. Instead just go out and look for it.
