The Difference Between Niceness And Kindness

The Difference Between Niceness And Kindness

Contrary to popular belief, they are not the same thing.

If you were to look in a thesaurus (online or otherwise) under nice, you would find the word kind. We use these words interchangeably on the regular, but I propose that they are not synonymous. In actuality, there is a wide gap between the two. The distinction matters because we often take kindness for granted and give niceness more credit than it deserves.

Being nice looks like polite gestures, compliments, and human courtesy. Being kind looks like servanthood, altruism, and generosity. Niceness is fine and dandy, but kindness is what would make the world a better place.

Let's go to the source, shall we? Niceness is rooted in the aim to please. It is externally motivated by the opinions of others. It is surface-level and self-sustaining. Rarely do we ever do something nice—holding the door, complimenting someone's shoes, obligatorily asking how the cashier's day is—without expecting at least a "thank you" in return. You sacrifice nothing in being nice. Half the time we use it as a tool to placate someone or to get on their good side. Describing someone as a "nice person" is what you say when you've only had one interaction with them in which they did not directly offend you. The criteria isn't exactly prestigious. Niceness can come across as saccharine, so why would you choose artificial sweetness when you could have the real thing?

Kindness, on the other hand, is rooted in love. Kindness comes from a higher power through the goodness of one's heart. Being kind entails actions like intentionally utilizing somebody's love language, paying for the person behind you in the drive thru, or going out of your way to make a stranger's day. Kindness knows no ulterior motives, but is best friends with compassion and empathy. Kindness causes you to want to invest in people's lives. Proverbs 16:24 says, "Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Some translations use "gracious" or "pleasant" instead of "kind," but not-a-one uses "nice." Parents tell their kids to "play nice," because children aren't necessarily developed enough as people to act on the deeper trait of kindness. The best people I know are the ones who ooze kindness day in and day out.

There is nothing wrong with being a nice person, don't get me wrong, but I encourage all of us to strive to be kind people. Compliment someone's disposition instead of their designer handbag. Hold someone when they are hurting instead of just holding the door.

A little bit of kindness goes a long way.

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12 Bible Verses For Faith In Hard Times

Remind yourself that God is always with you.

Lately, I have felt lost at what God wants for my life. Ever since I've come back to UWG everything has been horrible. It seems that I can't catch a break. I'm trying my best to focus on school, work, and extracurricular activities. But it's hard when I'm having issues with my apartment/roommates and knowing my family back home is struggling and needs many prayers. All, I keep thinking is maybe Carrollton isn't where I belong anymore. I've asked God if He can guide me in the right direction. Below, I have found Bible verses that have helped get me through these rough, past couple of weeks.

1. Isaiah 43:2

"When you go through deep waters, I will be with you."

2. Psalm 37:5

"Commit your way to the Lord. Trust in Him, and He will act."

3. Romans 8:18

"The pain that you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming."

4. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed in strength, and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future."

5. Joshua 1:9

"Be bold. Be brave. Be courageous."

6. Ecclesiastes 3:1

"There is a time for everything and a reason for every activity under the heavens."

7. Isaiah 41:10

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand."

8. Isaiah 66:9

"I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born, says the Lord."

9. Psalm 91:4

"He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings, you will find refuge; His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."

10. Psalm 62:1-2

"My soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from Him, He alone is my rock and my salvation."

11. Philippians 4:13

"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength."

12. Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

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The Purpose Behind The Armor of God

The Armor Of God Series

In this new series, I plan to talk about the armor of God. Since the armor of God isn't mentioned until the very end of the book, I think it would be best to start by looking at the verse's context. Who wrote this letter and why? What's the point?

Apostle Paul wrote the Letter of Ephesians around 60-61AD. Unlike in 2 Corinthians or Galatians, he doesn’t write about his personal life, nor do we see him addressing specific moral issues surrounding the church, or the body of Christ.

Instead, Ephesians deals with an overview of what is means to be a practicing Christians who is filled with faith. He gives instruction and insights on salvation, grace, and unity in Christ (Ephesians 1-4), as well as explains how our actions matter and can affect our relationships—with ourselves, with our spouses, with our children and/or parents, with our co-workers (Ephesians 5-6).

Ephesians can be read in two parts.

The first three chapters discuss our position in Christ (what God has done for us by being a sovereign King; what Christ has done in us by being out saving grace; and what Christ has done between us to allow reconciliation). And the last three chapters, discuss the results of the Holy Trinity’s actions: our new unity (Ephesians 4:1-6), our new walk (Ephesians 4:17-6:9), and our new strength (Ephesians 6:10-20).

Paul mentions that this new life is not easy. When Paul acknowledges spiritual warfare, he says that our struggle goes beyond avoiding a mortal death but avoiding a spiritual death: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12). The caveat to this is, if one dies spiritually, they won’t be able to avoid fearing a physical death.


On top of maintaining his spiritual walk, Paul faced being persecuting with other Christians in Rome. In fact, Paul’s letter was sent with the help of Tychicus and Onesimus because Paul was enduring his first imprisonment in Rome.

But how did he not let the darkness in his life affect his spiritual life?

Paul could have walked away.

Despite Rome’s politically dark state and a seemingly hopeless moment in Paul’s life, Paul did not stop sharing the gospel. Paul’s letters during his imprisonment lead to writing the saints of Ephesian, along with three others (sent to Philippians, Colossians, and Philemon), to be coined as the Prison Epistles. Additionally, he repeatedly mentions that he is a prisoner of God. He refused to relinquish his Christian title (Ephesians 3:1; 4;1). Paul’s small remarks are small, but powerful in terms of witnessing.

So, how does a Christian maintain their new unity, new walk, and new strength in the midst of enduring this dark world, or a hopeless situation, or spiritual warfare—all of which resembles a dark prison cell— like Paul?

In chapter 6, Paul mentions the Armor of God as having 6 pieces that will give Christians the weapons they need to combat spiritual warfare, so they may not be imprisoned by the flesh (Ephesians 6:12).

In the coming weeks this series will take a closer look at each piece of Armor: the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the shoes of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the spirit and how it might be used to remain strong in Christ (Ephesians 6:13-19).

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