A dreaded question that comes up before every sorority formal is “Who would like to volunteer to be a sober sister?” For a few moments after this question is asked, the room is so quiet that you can hear crickets chirping in the distance. Without hesitation, I raise my hand to volunteer because, quite frankly, I am one of the few and far between who doesn’t drink alcohol in college.

I know it’s crazy that a sorority girl at a “party” school doesn’t drink. I’m going to let you in on a little-known fact: it’s actually possible to have fun at a party and not drink alcohol. This could just be me who thinks this, but I personally like to go out and remember every aspect of the night. However, because I choose to remain sober does not make me look down upon those who do drink. I am in every way, shape and form comfortable around those who are drinking, and I do not scold anyone based on their behavior. My choice not to drink is a personal one, and I respect when other people respect my choice. If you ask me if I would like a drink, I am going to decline every time, but I will keep a smile on my face while doing it. At this point, some people just move on with their lives, but others will ask a second time and even a third. I used to make up silly excuses for why I didn’t want the drink they were handing me, but now, I am completely honest. It’s up to that person to react how they please, but my personal favorite response is, “That’s cool. I respect that.” I do have to admit that I become irritated when people question me further or even walk away in disgust. It doesn’t hurt my feelings because it has happened before, but it shows me a person’s true colors. For all those who have further interrogated me on the topic, my choice not to drink has nothing to do with my parents or a health condition. I choose not to drink because I don’t want to and it’s as simple as that.

I’m always down to go out and have a good time, and I don’t need to have a drink in my hand to do so. I will never judge anyone who decides to drink at a party because it is one’s own decision to decide how they have fun. If you need a drink or two to loosen up and enjoy yourself a little more, then be my guest. If you ever meet anybody else who elects to stay sober, do not peer pressure them into drinking because it’s slightly rude to have someone try and shove a handle of vodka into your hands after you’ve turned them down five times. Also, if someone makes the decision to stay sober, even if it’s just for one night, don’t think that this person is judging your decisions whatsoever. When it comes to drinking: to each their own.