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11 Things All Deshi Moms Say

If you grew up in a Bangladeshi household, you most probably have heard all of these.


One of the coolest aspects about having Bangladeshi parents is the things they say to you, especially moms. There are many things pretty much all the people with deshi moms hear growing up. Here's a list of some, with rough literal translations provided first, and figurative meaning explained after.

1. Etay Shikkhoniyo Ki Asey? - What is to learn in this?

Figuratively: Similar to college admissions where you've to convince the committee to have you, here you're expected to convince your mom of the learning benefits of a certain show/movie you're watching. Do get your facts right because she will be auditing when you watch.

2. Ekhon tor chokhe rongin choshma - You have colored glasses on right now

It's similar to the phrase 'rose-colored glasses'. You're young and full of adrenaline and hormones and never thinking with your brain, no wonder you think reckless bad boys are cool, or you too will have a Pride and Prejudice kinda love story.

3. Daraa, tui agey bashay chol - Wait, let's go home first

Start mentally repenting for all your sins so you don't rot in hell because today is probably your last day on earth. Your mom's eyes are as hot as laser beams and voice as cold as ice: you did something from mom's Book of Doom but because she's kind enough to not give you a horrifying, embarrassing public death, she'll wait until you're home.

4. Shondha bela kisher TV? - It's evening, what TV?


Bangladeshi kids usually don't maintain a planner because their moms are one. They have this wonderfully crafted schedule which makes perfect sense, where evenings are strictly kept for studies. So this, is mom saying the sun has set, how dare thee even cometh remotely close to that device! The only time she'll let you watch TV in the evening? After finals. Ah, the bliss.

5. Shondha hoise, ekhon ghumabi na! - It's evening already, don't sleep now!

If there's another thing you should not do in the evening, it's sleeping. For reasons unknown to historians, sleeping in the evenings is frowned upon by pretty much all deshi moms. Again, evenings are for studyin', not sleepin'.

6. Shaper paach paa dekhsish? - Seeing five feet of snakes


Well, I couldn't come up with a sensible literal translation for this. So your mom is attending the guests one evening, and you use it to your advantage and turn on the TV to watch because she's too busy to notice and can't physically tackle you out of civility. She notices sooner or later and says this with a death glare which means you're basically crossing your limits, pushing the boundaries a bit too much, testing her patience-- you get the point.

7. Evabe shuya boisha din kataya dili? - You wasted the whole day lying/sitting like this (like a lazy bum)?


You may hear this on weekends/breaks when you're just being you, not moving an inch unless it's absolutely necessary. Starting off as a mild accusation, this will soon turn into a session where you'll hear all the things you did/didn't do so far this holiday. If you're wise and smart, you'll get up to work to calm her down while questioning the meaning of life and your existence on earth.

8. Ei jonne tore boro korsilam? - This is what I brought you up for?

One of the oldest tricks in the history of mankind, and probably the most effective: emotional blackmail (for the lack of a more appropriate word). Whether it's about your homework, you not sleeping properly, not remembering to turn off the television when you leave the room or not keeping the towel in the right place, you'll hear this pretty often, and guess what? You're likely to fall for it, every time.

9. Tor jaa mon chay kor - Do whatever you feel/want.

You've made plans or decided to do something and mom doesn't approve but ends it with something like this. This is a trick naive/ overexcited kids may often fall for: she's not really telling you to do whatever you want. If you want to save yourself from all the future arguments where this incident will be used as ammo against you, cancel your plans. Mission Abort. I repeat. Mission Abort. Agree with The Mom.

10. Amar meye/chhele onno shobar moto na - My daughter/son is not like others

Parents usually love to brag about their kids, and Bangladeshi moms are particularly proud of their children, even if you have not done anything at all except for breathing in life. No matter what they say to you, the way they talk about you to others is just adorable.

11. Tor mukh shukna lage ken re maa/baba? - Why does your face look so dry girl/ son?

This is not mom expressing concerns over your skin, it's a question where you know she's seen right through you: the shitty day you had at college/work, the pain, frustration and the feeling of helplessness you feel deep down but don't let a single soul know--she's seen all that just by looking at you, even when she's far and you're Facetiming with a crappy WiFi. You try to act mature and nonchalant only to find yourself venting and pouring your heart out about everything to her. Don't be surprised if you turn into a blubbering emotional mess. This question works no less than a salve to all your bad thoughts.

Aren't deshi moms the cutest?

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