The Curly Girl's Guide To Society: Part II

The Curly Girl's Guide To Society: Part II

Childhood movies like "The Princess Diaries" portray curly hair in a negative light.

Something that has come to my attention only recently within the curly community, is the negative portrayal of curly hair on tv shows and in movies. It’s honestly something I hadn’t even thought of until I read similar responses to the idea from several people I follow on social media. Although I’ve noticed for years how curly hair wasn’t being recognized in a positive light in any scenario, I had never thought back to childhood shows and movies. Often, they would portray some form of character development that consisted of the female protagonist, undergoing a makeover that would change her image to what is considered beautiful and worthy of people’s attention.

It’s only now that I’ve seen those thoughts being put into words that I realize how much I was cheated by the movie "The Princess Diaries" for example, which I watched over and over as a kid. I thought back to how the stylists had Mia sit in a chair and detangle her hair dry, and her hair was so tangled that the brush got stuck. They cut and shaped her hair, did her eyebrows, and expected her to act like a “proper lady.” Although Mia didn’t have my same 3A/3B curls, she sure did have a mass of wavy hair on her head which I would have compared to my own waist length curly hair that I dreaded having to detangle and loved having straightened as a kid. Thinking back to that scene with Mia only brought back the haunting memory of my own while at the salon where the hairdresser detangled my hair dry- which is extremely painful and NOT how you detangle curly hair.

All of these makeovers and transformations always start off with a girl with “messy” or “unruly” hair that can only be considered beautiful and acceptable when it has been straightened. It’s only then that the girl can be accepted by others and be considered worth anyone’s time. What kind of message is this sending to other young girls? How can they learn to advocate for themselves when they’ve had this idea of what is considered beautiful to be something they have to change themselves to achieve?

The message behind these kinds of transformations needs to change. Curly hair is beautiful too and it does not need to be changed or “fixed.” Even further than that though, ALL types of curls with ALL accompanying frizz and differences are beautiful. Defined curls and frizzy curls must be appreciated and acknowledged with the same respect.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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18 Drugstore Items Girls Buy That We Didn't Even Think We Needed In Our Lives Until We Saw Them

Call us shopaholics but us females always will need these 18 things whether we know it before we enter the store, or not.


Being a girl is hard; whenever I go to Target, Rite Aid or the mall for just one thing, I realize as I browse the aisles that I need much more than what I originally came for. Here are 18 things you may be forgetting you need next time you go shopping.

1. Makeup remover

3. Hair ties

4. Nail polish & nail polish remover

Because why not try out a new color?

5. Deodorant

6. Shampoo & conditioner

7. Chapstick / lipgloss

8. A new brush

Because hopefully I'm not the only one who looses mine all the time

9. Tampons / pads

Remind me again why these are so expensive?

10. Razors

11. Spanx or tights

12. Face wash

13. Perfumes & lotions

14. Foundation

15. Hairspray

16. New toothpaste & toothbrush

17. Boby pins/hairclips

18. Socks

Because come on who doesn't need more socks

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