Lately, I've seen one too many tweets on my Twitter feed of teens and young adults practically glorifying the phrase "consent is sexy!" and I'm here to say our definitions in what is "sexy" is completely different.

Sexy to me is lingerie from Victoria's Secret—not something that is mandatory.

There are so many other aspects of life that should be considered sexy before consent: Channing Tatum, an extra chicken nugget in the box at Chick-Fil-A, having a class that doesn't grade attendance, etc.,..and I don't know how this trend of "consent is sexy" started, but it's extremely misinformed. Consent of any kind is important, and although it is good that people respect that, the last word it should be considered is sexy.

Here's the tea: Not being a rapist is not sexy...it's essential.

These young teens (including the guys, because in case you didn't know, men can be raped too) believe that when their partners ask for consent to explore them on a more sexual level, that it makes them more attractive. I get that, I do, because we always want to be intimate with someone who is willing to respect our bodies and dignity. But please, stop using the word sexy.

We shouldn't be sexualizing a word that is rebutting the whole concept of what it means: a given right/permission to have something to happen. We don't call dental work 'sexy', even if we give a dentist our consent to stick a drill in our mouth to fill a cavity. We don't call a masseuse "sexy" because we are allowing them to rub the knots out of our backs... you get where I'm coming from? Consent is not an option, and referring to it as "sexy" or "attractive" is giving the illusion that it is an option; one that can be manipulated with coercion and persuaded against ones will.

I get the ring of the slogan, and I can see where some may consider consent to be a positive factor when picking a significant other, but it really shouldn't even be a one because it's truly a basic, human right that we've had from birth.