Trying To Figure Out Your Own Life

Stop Trying To Fit Squares Into Circles

What the confusing part in life can be called


If you've ever heard "Come Clean" by Hilary Duff, then you know that line, "trying to fit a square into a circle was no life." I feel like this is my life sometimes. It can happen when you surround yourself with people who aren't like you or people who are trying to make you like them. You can feel that this is how your life is when it's almost like you are pushing through a pool wearing all your clothes. It's like you can't keep up and you feel like you're drowning. It can feel like you don't know exactly what your feelings are and you can almost feel confused on what you should be feeling.

This can be a common feeling to have when you first start college and all the way up to being a junior in college. Sometimes, I wake up and it just feels like I'm going through a day, like I'm just waiting for it to start. I keep waiting for something to almost wake me up and realize the importance of today. When you join a new group of friends or when you are in a place where you don't know hardly anyone, you can get this feeling too. It can be like you are the square person trying to fit into a group of circles and your points keep getting in the way. You have to remember that you are special.

You are a square for a reason. When you were created, the best qualities were picked just for you. You have point because those are what makes you special. Those are the things you are passionate about and know the most about. You should never have to try and fit yourself into a circle shaped box. Sometimes it can feel like the entire world is a circle box and it feels like you're never going to fit in. One day you are going to have some smoother sides and you are just going to slide right into the circle box and still keep your square-ness.

It can take some time to get into your spot where you completely fit in. It can feel like you are up against the world with everything you do, but that how you can determine if you are supposed to be doing something. You can also feel like this when are you are doing something that you don't really want to. For example, when you are waiting for something to happen and it's something that you are not in control and can't be control of. It can be difficult to let things go and just let life happen.

I know that it can be a very frustrating thing to deal with, but we all go through seasons of confusion and being a square. Even if you fall into your circle spot, you can still get stuck and grow some more points and not know where to fall through. It will eventually go away and you will get back into your smooth square world, but until then, continue to be your square and try not to succumb to the ways of the circles.

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21 Things You Say To Your Roommate If You Two Are Practically A Married Couple

Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry

Let's be real: you and your roommate have said these things at least one to each other.

1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*Complains about not having money* *Spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee."

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your DM's."

*Cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *Catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*Chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *Loses phone* Every. Time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*Tries to get ready to do something fun* *Ends up staying in for another girls' night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"


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To My Long-Distance Best Friend, We Might Be 7,811 Miles Apart, But Our Friendship Only Gets Stronger

It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.


To my best friend,

It has been 270 days since I last met you and 206 more days until I meet you again. People say that time flies by quickly, but these have been the most difficult days that seemed to drag on forever. Five years ago when you were sitting next to me on the first day of our sociology class, I had no idea we would end up being best friends. From sharing my mother's parathas during lunch breaks to the countless sleepovers, I will never forget all the memories we created throughout high school.

I vividly remember the day I told you I would be studying abroad. You were so happy and proud of me for pursuing my dreams but also upset that we wouldn't be seeing each other every now and then. I was worried if our friendship would even last. But we have spent almost two years away from each other and our friendship only seems to get stronger.

I'm so grateful to technology for allowing us to be in touch all the time. My day doesn't feel complete if I do not receive a text from you. I know we do not video call often because of how busy our schedules are (another reason being time zones suck and I cannot do the math), but always know that I am there for you. It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.

We have both had some terrible friendship experiences in our past before we met each other that have completely broken our faith in friendships. But know that you can always count on me and that I will never leave your side. Know that I will always set an alarm early in the morning just to video call you. Know that I will always be there for you (even if I'm not physically present around you). Know that you will always be the first person I share everything with.

I cannot thank you enough for everything you have done for me. Thank you for encouraging me to make new friends at college. Thank you for always being there during my failures and reminding me that it's not the end of the world and that more opportunities will come my way. Thank you for being there during my successes and being my number one cheerleader. Thank you for always reminding me to love myself. You not only have a special place in my heart but also have a special place in my family. My mother and sister not only glad that I have a best friend like you but also adore you so much. It is impossible to imagine a life without you.

I cannot wait for more butter chicken sleepover dates in December!

Lots of love,

Your best friend.

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