College Is Not For Everyone

College Is Not For Everyone, And That's OK

Your decision is what is best for you


It's that time of year again, college acceptances are rolling in and college decisions are being made. It's also that time of year where everyone who does not choose to go to college feels different and self-conscious about their decision.

I went to college right out of high school, and sometimes I even question my decision. I now know people who took a semester off, who did something else besides college and I know many people who did not come back the second semester because they realized they made the wrong decision.

Read these words carefully; college is not for everyone.

I know a lot of high school teachers and faculty will encourage you to apply, they will talk to you about the benefits of going to college and the benefits of having one more degree under your belt on your resume.

What they forget to tell you is that there are so many people out there with no college degrees, doing just fine.

High schools pride themselves on the number of graduates who attend college the following year, so much that they forget school is not the path for everyone.

I am here to say, and to tell you that not going to college immediately or at all is not a decision to be ashamed of, it is not something in which you should have to feel you need to justify yourself for.

As I said, I came to college right off the bat, I knew to continue my education and furthering my degree was something I wanted to do, but it was also something my parents wanted me to do. Sometimes I wonder if I should have given myself a break. Sometimes I wonder if a semester or a year in-between high school and college would have been a smart decision. You can make some money, decides what you really want to do and then go to college and kick butt.

Another thing a lot of high schools refuse to acknowledge to the full extent is that we just completed 12 years of required school. We had no choice, we woke up at 6 am, put on clothing, sat in a classroom for 8 hours and then did homework and extracurricular activities every other minute. They forget that for 12 years, we never had a break.

Give yourself a pat on the back, and take a damn break!

The point of all of this is to say if you decide that college is not for you - that is okay. If you decide somewhere down the line college is for you, awesome. If you do not, awesome. At the end of the day, you know what is best for you and your path.

"Some people get an education without going to college. The rest get it after they get out" - Mark Twain

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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