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But what was she wearing?

My clothing choices say nothing about my willingness to have sex with you.

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But what was she wearing?

What do my clothing choices say about my willingness to have sex with you? Absolutely nothing! My clothing choices have nothing to do with the amount of respect I have for myself, or how i want to be perceived. As a fashion guru (I would like to call myself that), clothing is a form of self-expression. I'm tired of anyone thinking anything else.

A victim-blaming question that is often circulated following a sexual assault: "What was she wearing?" No. Stop asking that question. Sexual harassment is not provoked by the clothes on my body. Do not teach me to dress conservatively. Teach others how to respect women regardless of what they are wearing.

I want to wear a tight dress out because I like the way it compliments my legs because they look long (which is a particularly rare incident for a 5 foot tall girl). I have finally found a body suit that fits my waist and my chest so I am going to wear it. I can't find a strapless bra to wear with my new tube top so I am going to #FREETHENIPS. At the end of the day, I am making clothing choices for myself. I want to feel confident and it shouldn't matter the ways I go about achieving that, even if it means dressing promiscuously. I don't dress to impress boys or to grab the attention of others (there are so many other ways to do that first of all), I dress to impress me. I take what some might call "risks" with my fashion choices because I want to and because I can.

Clothing is a form of self expression and style should be valued. Clothing is about making style choices that accurately depicts who you are. Clothing is full of possibilities and it makes me so sad that that is misunderstood. What I'm wearing should not correlate to "She was asking for it." Style is spirit, originality, spontaneity, and evolution. Shame on anyone who ruins that.

It shouldn't matter what I was wearing. Respect is a fundamental human value that everyone deserves. Give it and get it back, it is so damn simple. Instead of asking me "What I was wearing?" start asking "Why can't he respect me? Why is he dehumanizing me?" Keep your dick in your pants even though you can see cleavage. Hell, I couldn't even wear leggings to school in middle school because the principal feared young boys getting distracted. Leggings are not even revealing clothing!!!! I am so sick of girls being punished for the way we dress. I dress for me and no one else. I am a human who deserves respect even if I am wearing a mini skirt. I want to live in a world where we do not ask about clothing choices but we wonder why respect is not given when it should be. I am young and I am healthy and if I want to show off my body, no one is stopping me. It is not my fault if people fail to respect me based off of what i am wearing-- that is merely their own fault, and that is so pathetic. My clothing choices say nothing about my willingness to have sex with you and if that response surprises you then I think you have some questions to ask yourself. Sexual interactions should be consensual. Do not come on to me because I am wearing a skimpy shirt. I didn't give you permission to do that and what I am wearing is not indication of my willingness. Respect me when I am wearing a slutty outfit. Respect me when I am bundled up in a snowsuit. Respect me regardless because I am human.

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