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Feb 04, 2019
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Going to College can change a lot about a person, I just never thought it would change my relationship status too.
It's basic universal knowledge that going to College with a boyfriend is a giant "Don't." It's also as if it's written in bright, bold red with all caps, and underlined too for good measure. The summer before my freshman year at college, everyone told me that it was a bad idea to have a boyfriend coming into college. My mother always told me that I would grow so much in my first year and having a boyfriend would limit the experiences I should have. I knew all of this going into it my freshman year and I still believed that my relationship was the exception.
The problems that college introduced into my relationship weren't problems that happened overnight. Everyone grows and changes in the first few months of college and my relationship wasn't immune to that. I started becoming more outgoing and was always looking to try something new while he became more introverted and quiet. We slowly started arguing about me going out with my new friends all the time and him always wanting to stay in. These arguments soon morphed into full-blown fights about how I had changed all of a sudden and how he never made an effort anymore.
Those few months of none stop fighting were the most toxic of my entire life. Anything that either one of us did would piss the other off. The amount of judgment and pettiness that went on was horrifying. It was beyond difficult to see how our once beautiful, happy relationship had transformed into something so messy and full of hate. Now, I'm not saying that going to college was the cause of all of my relationship problems, but it was definitely the catalyst to most of them. With all of the added stress from school work and anxiety that came with going to college, things went sour fast.
Take my advice, listen to your family, friends, and everyone who tells you that coming to college in a relationship is a terrible idea. College changes people and most of the time, those changes will definitely affect any relationship. Everyone grows and matures in different ways and it's unfair to expect your significant other to mature the same way you are. The added stress and anxiety of the first year of college is already tough to deal with even without the pressure of a relationship. Looking back at the first semester at college, I wish I had taken
All Christmas songs are great, some are better than others
These are the top 12 Christmas songs ranked and judged the way they should be.
If you're like me, all this nonsense surrounding and following the election has got you all wired up. Maybe you're suffering from anxiety, depression, and temporary insanity. But remember this!
Only a few days until Christmas!
Christmas is my absolute FAVORITE time of year, and with all the crazy nonsense happening due to this election, I couldn't be happier that it is happening so soon.
At times like these, we need to remember what binds us together, not what tears us apart.
Even if you aren't a Christian, you've got to admit Christmas is pretty cool. I have several atheist friends who still celebrate Christmas because it represents love and joy and being together. All the awesome movies and music and holiday recipes. Spending time with your family, friends, and other loved ones. Baking delicious cookies and ham and turkey and stuffing. Putting up a tree and covering it in shiny ornaments and sparkly lights. What's not to love about Christmas?!
Weeks ago, I went out and purchased my first Christmas tree. I always go home for the holidays, so before now I never bothered to get one. But I needed more Christmas, so I got more Christmas. I chose all my favorite colors for ornaments, set it up in my apartment in the corner, and carefully guarded it against my cat.
And you know what? This is the most relaxed and at home I've felt since before the campaigning for the elections even began.
So if you agree with these statements, and if you're feeling scared and anxious like me, GO DECORATE! Even if it is a tad early, you have no idea how much it will help you. My little 4 foot Christmas tree has drastically improved my outlook on life.
And if you haven't ever decorated for Christmas before, or if you tend to be one of the more Scrooge-y individuals, I hope you'll try this anyway. Sometimes just a trinket here and there or a wreath on the door really does make all the difference. It can't hurt, right? Maybe you'll get inspired to start your own Christmas tradition!
As Henry David Thoreau wrote in his famous work of philosophy, Walden, "I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude." Lonely and alone, while often misused to convey the same meaning, have very different connotations. Lonely is an adjective and a feeling that someone can possess. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, lonely is defined as "sad at the thought that one is alone; having a feeling of solitariness." According to this definition, someone can be lonely while surrounded by other people. However, alone is defined as "being unaccompanied, by oneself. While someone can be alone and lonely, that is not always the case and is a common misconception about those who spend time alone.
Contrary to popular belief, solitude is an important part of life and many lessons can be learned from spending time alone. As a person who loves people, I used to feel bored when I spent time alone. But I now find solace and comfort in being alone. It allows me to recharge, learn about myself and do things that I truly want to do. Through spending time alone I have become a more independent person. And while friends kindheartedly tease for wanting to stay home alone, it is an integral part of my life and personal development.
During my sophomore year I began to worry that I was not living my life to its fullest because I liked to spend some time by myself rather than with other people. But I soon realized that my time spent alone was just as valuable, if not more valuable, than my time spent with other people. I was still active and participated in various pastimes that I found interesting and fun. I was not missing out on life. Rather I was living in a different way than the people I saw around me at school living, which made me feel weird at first. But once I began doing what I wanted to do without thinking about what other people were doing, I became infinitely happier.
Through being alone I discovered and began to utilize self-care methods such as meditation. Meditation allows me to relieve stress and forget about the rest of the world, while also strengthening my mind. It is a wonderful way to take a step back from my life and remind myself of what is truly important to me and what I should strive to do each day. Learning to unwind in this way also cultivated a sense of self-love in my attitude. Whenever I began to doubt myself in school or other parts of my life I started to repeat a mantra to myself. "Treat yourself like you would treat your daughter. You are doing the best you can. You are nowhere near where you want to be in the world, and you have so much to learn, but you are doing the best you can to reach your goals." Reminding myself of this each day helped me strive to be the best person I can be without worrying about how I am perceived.
Through solitude I also learned more about my interests. I began to self-educate on topics I found interesting through taking online courses and reading articles from various websites and journals. This was relaxing but also exercised my mind and helped me focus on what I am truly interested in that we may not learn in school.
Overall, alone time is important. Sometimes, the fear of missing out can be very pressing and we force ourselves to spend time with people, even if we are exhausted and really need to spend time alone. It is important for us to recognize our emotional, physical, and mental needs and respect them. If I had broken my leg, I would not force myself to run five miles. Similarly, if I feel socially overwhelmed and exhausted after a long day, I should not force myself to go out with friends. We all need alone time, whether we are extroverted or introverted and there is no shame in staying home alone.
To love something far from perfect is what makes us human
Before you read this and start rolling your eyes, just know that I am extremely dramatic and emotional.
I've grown up with a mother who truly valued her home country. Almost every summer we have traveled there together to enjoy a month to three month long vacation with family in my grandparents beautiful home. In reality, my mother's home country is a terrible place to live. There is so much pollution, hidden racism, sexism, greedy politicians, and overpopulation. So one might ask, why are u homesick for a country that 1) isn't where you were raised and 2) is literal trash.
Well, when I was younger my mother's parents were alive. I loved them so much and would spend almost four months with them out of the entire year. That was a good enough chunk of time to create some serious attachment. They tragically passed away within a year of each other when I was about 10-11 years old and well, the feeling of going to that country changed. It wasn't the same without them there and my mother went into a deep, deep depression but for some reason we still went back. My mother says it's because we are surrounded by their family and friends and their home still contains their beautiful scent and spirit. I actually still feel their presence in the home along with emptiness because I can not speak to them. It hurts and I always think about death there but also feel some peace being in their home and seeing their pictures and siblings and cousins and friends who continue to talk about them to this very day, almost 10 years later. Anyways, the country has always felt as if it were somewhat home to me even though I refuse to admit it to anyone because they are quick to tell me to go and live there permanently which I don't want. Or do I? It's not stable at all and if many issues were resolved including racism I'd move there in a heartbeat.
Although the country itself is crumbling, I still miss my family. I miss being able to see my mom's aunt everyday and talking to her about the past. I miss breathing in the fresh air of the mountains. I miss walking in the zouk and seeing people from all over. I miss the new friends I made even though they probably don't care about me. I miss my grandma who hates and tears up when I leave her house. I miss gossiping about family with family. I miss visiting the peaceful religious areas. I miss so many things but again I love my friends and family in the U.S. I love my boyfriend and father who never travel there with me. But it still sucks because I have this odd attachment thanks to my mother and there's absolutely nothing I can do besides visit. No matter how long I stay there, it won't be enough even if I lived there I feel as if death would somehow come quicker and time would almost pass by too quickly. In the U.S. there is stability and some great people. There is so much wrong in my mother's country but there are some pieces of it I wish I could always have with me. Regardless, I am thankful for being able to travel there and arrive back home safely.
Now you can roll your eyes.
P.S. I am not a writer at all. I'm an engineering major who is much better at math but here I am pretending that I can sort of write.
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1. Brittany Morgan, National Writer's Society
2. Radhi, SUNY Stony Brook
3. Kristen Haddox, Penn State University
4. Jennifer Kustanovich, SUNY Stony Brook
5. Clare Regelbrugge, University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign